ok im with two guys at the same time..and the thing is i really like both of them..they both have their pros and cons..errr what should i do??i've been with the first one for three years and the other one i've known for a month....
2007-12-25 11:21:20 · 14 answers · asked by charley_78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well seeing as though you've been with the first one for quite some time and have been looking around...ask yourself why? are they simply just not satisfying you anymore and is it time for a change..hence guy no 2. or is it that there are some things that the first guy is doing wrong and guy no2 is just filling the gaps? if its the 2nd, then I'd speak to the 1st guy about it and see how things go. if in doubt...do a pro and cons list on both guys and see how they weigh out..I'm sure you'll know by then...just to chuck in another question though...if you're seeing 2 guys and neither are special enough for you to be loyal to, are either of them worth being with??
2007-12-25 11:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with 2 people at once really isn't cool. Well it seems the you've known one much longer than the other and I think you should go with him. Think of it, being together for 3 years and still together? You two MUST be made for each other. What if he finds out your dating some other guy at the same time? That can cause major probs so I'd just stick with the one you've known for 3 years. Good luck!
2007-12-25 11:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a man's view, the two acts are not the same. Two women together unspokenly declares, "...need a man". Two men together speaks to a vanity and declares some transcendence of natural process. The effect that the thought of two men together has on me, or men for that matter, is that of a queasy feeling in the stomach. It might best be described as a sensation akin to the thought of drinking your very own bathwater.
2016-05-26 05:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It’s complicated and depends on so much.
If they both know about each other, there’s no problem. Take your time. They will take theirs.
If the second knows about the first you still have some leeway.
You may be able to salvage some of your relationship with the first by bringing up the phrase, “Let’s keep dating, but see other people”, which usually means “I’m already having sex with someone else or will soon be”.
He may be mad or have a list of women he can’t wait to sleep with.
Without more details it’s difficult to discuss.
Good Luck!!!
2007-12-25 11:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well you should only be with one guy, or you'll end up with none.
Think about which one would treat you better, and what one you would get on well with.
If you've only known the other guy a month...think about the one you've been with for 3 years. Maybe you need someone new because your getting bored.
2007-12-25 11:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer to you is a simple one. I want you to think about the three following sayings I am going to give you. I am quite positive that after you think about them, you will know what to do about the problem you now have.The first one is "do unto others as you want done to you". The second one is " what goes around comes around". The last one is " that we reap what we sow". Think about them and then you will see things in a clearer light.
2007-12-25 12:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get a clearer picture, I would recommend taking a break from both boys so you can think more clearly. It would give you some space and enable to you decide what you want when you find out who you actually miss the most.
2007-12-25 11:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to end it with one because if they find out you may lose both! How did you end up cheating with a boy youve been with for three yrs?
2007-12-25 11:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long time...ive been with my man for 4 years and just met someone else that i like...its hard to decide...especially when you have spent so much time with one of them...but i know how u feel...its a hard decision
2007-12-25 11:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by ..cHeRi.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point you'll have to choose. You just need to decide which one has the qualities that matter most to you.
2007-12-25 11:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by MaknMeCrzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋