I am having a little bit of a sad-for-myself moment here... what I want to know is, is your life worse than mine? My mother is chronically depressed and attempted suicide last May. My father has anger manegment and his entire family was abused by his father (my grandpa, died before I was born) so now he yells all the time. About four years ago, my family started having problems; arguements, debt and loss of money, and abuse between my parents. I also heard that, while my brother, sister, and I were gone, they did drugs. My mom also smoked breifly and was an alcohalic. About last year, my mom moved into another house and they became officially divorced. Now my dad is dating some one and going on a cruise with her in January... anyway, I'm just feeling really sorry for myself right now and I was wondering if any of you out there had things worse than I do. Maybe it will put things in perspective for me or something. Thanks for answering!! I appreciate it and no, I'm not lying.
2007-12-25 09:46:12 · 4 answers · asked by Just Another Girl... 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks Matt... good answer! By the way, I'm 13 years old so any of you who said 'move out' I can't. Thanks everybody for all the answers. Keep 'em coming!
2007-12-25 10:01:12 · update #1
Hi Vera,
Well, first, I haven't lived in a family like this. Mine was easier to live with.
I don't know how old you are, but be sure that hopefully the life that lies in front of you will mostly be directed by yourself and not by others. So maybe you need to keep a reasonable distance from them to keep your sanity. Just far enough not to be harmed.
I hope you don't fail to see that most of the good stuff is in front of you now.
Merry Christmas! (not too late ?)
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Edit:
It seems that a large part of the problems of the family originate from the bad relationship between your parents. What you can do is watch if the situation improves now that they do not live together any more. If there is some improvement this is good, otherwise, talk to a counselor, as adviced by cfoster001.
2007-12-25 09:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a bad childhood myself, but now I have broken the chain. And that's what you need to do is move on with your life and don't end up like your family. Sorry to hear of what you are going through, but life if what you make it. You either want to roll over and wet all over yourself or you get yourself back up and start over and make your life better and live a happy life. It is all about making the right choices in life and it starts off with 'attitude'. People are the way they are because they have made the wrong choices in life. They would rather live the way they do with the suffering and not change it because they would have to give up unhealthy foods or because it is inconvenient for them to change.
You should be thankful that you are still alive and breathing all the fresh air! All this that has happened in your lifetime is NOT your fault. These are the mistakes that you parents and grandparent has made. But you can change it by moving on with your life. It will get better if you let it and live it. Of course you will not foget your past, but you can live for the better in your future. So don't feel 'sorry for yourself' because none of this is your fault, you did nothing wrong.
I would consider reading "Bad Childhood, Good Life" By Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Great book!
By the way, I really believe that if you are still living in the same household with your parents, you may want to consider living with another close relative because it is not safe to live the way you do. If you are still in school, talk to your school counselor and see what they can do to help you. Hope this helps you!
2007-12-25 18:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can feel sorry for yourself, but it won't help. I think if you read the paper you will find some people have it worse than you, and some also feel sorry for themself, but it will only be for a short time and then you will see that you have a chance to do something great with your life and learn from all the mistakes your family has made. Don't let anything keep you down, I know you have more to offer the world than self pity.
2007-12-25 17:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if my life is worse than yours, you'd feel happy??
if not, you'd feel satisfied?
you don't need to compare your life to others...
if you don't like the situation,
just leave!!
move out!!
...if you're old enough :)
2007-12-25 17:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by summerhead 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋