Do you see him coming back.... ?

Question

I was w/ my bf for 2 months when he broke up w/ me. It has been 2 weeks since the breakup. I know that isn't a very long time but I am heartbroken and miss him SO much. The reason he wanted to end things was b/c things were moving very quickly and our feelings for each other were very strong in such a short amount of time. He said this really scares & overwhelms him. He is also in school full time and works part time. Things were working great but I think it all just got too much for him and he freaked out and got scared. Before me, he had been single for over 2 years and I think being w/ me took him out of his comfort zone. He also has issues w/ women and really has his guard up (his mom is mentally ill & is very needy of him, his dad is on his 3rd marriage and they have all been gold-diggers, his ex gf of over 2.5 years cheated on him and left him for an older rich guy). So I do understand why his defenses are up.
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After we broke up I didn't know what to do... all I knew was I wanted him back. So I called and texted him A LOT w/ no response from him. Finally about a week ago I called again and we spoke. He said he wasn't ignoring me but he didn't know what to say. He said he really misses me and has really wanted to call me but has stopped himself from doing so. We talked for a while and made plans for that night and basically said we would try things again but take it slow. In the meantime he spoke w/ his brother and then called me and said he just couldn't do it and that if we are together he will neglect everything else in his life b/c all he wants to do is be w/ me. We talked again and he changed his mind again but then once again spoke w/ his brother and said he just couldn't. He wouldn't even agree to see me casually as he said if he sees me it will rekindle things and he will want to get back together.

I called him again a few days ago (blocked my #) and he picked up. We talked for a few mins and I asked him if he hated me and he said not at all. Says he just doesn't know what to say. He said me calling multiple times reminds him of his mom being needy and calling his dad (his mom has wanted his dad back for the past 27 years). He said this stresses him out and feels stressed out when we talk. He said he wants to relax on his hoidays the just got home for christmas and there for a few days). He said to call him in 3-4 days and said bye and hung up.

I googled "how to get your ex-bf back" today and found that I have been going about this all wrong. Everything I read said not to call and text and pretty much beg him for another chance. It said to LEAVE HIM COMPLETLY ALONE so that he has time to reflect and a chance away to miss me and miss the relationship.
I KNOW he feels strongly for me and we always had a great time together and the chemistry was amazing... we are both VERY attracted to each other! It is really just his fear that is standing in our way.
Now... I know NOT to try and contact him anymore. It does makes sense that he knows I'm always there pine-ing away for him... he may wonder why my calls have stopped and see there is a REAL risk of losing me. (or did I do too much damage)?
Please tell me what you think.... do you see him coming back..... ?

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Answer 1

I do say let him make the next move. No matter how much you might want to be with someone, it has to be mutual. If he has issues with his Mom, he will have to work through them and not compare you to her. He needs to get his schooling over with, so he can make another step in his life. If he doesn't call then you know that he is to wrapped up with his own life to include you. Be patient and hope for the best, and if he doesn't call you then it is for the best.

Answer 2

He might come back, but as you read in other sources, you have to give him a chance to miss you. If you keep harassing him, which is really what you were doing, he will start to resent you. He asked you not to call him, so please listen to that. I know it hurts and you are probably hoping that by calling him that you are showing him how much you he means to you but you are showing that you are very needy and have nothing else to do but call and text him all day.
And really if all it takes is a conversation with his brother to make him decide he doesn't want to be with you, is that really the person you want. What if you get back together and his brother thinks that he should break up with you, is he going to do it?
My advice to you is to find other things to occupy your time, hang out with friends, if you find yourself about to call him, call a friend, hide the phone anything but call. He very well may need time to think things over but he is not going to be able to do it if you keep calling him. You have really done all that you can do. He knows you want him back but it is up to him now to reach out to you. DON'T CONTACT HIM ANYMORE! Let him come to you and if he doesn't then I'm sorry, he doesn't want you.

Answer 3

No, move on and get your head together, and then get your hair done and work out and love you first, cause how the hell are you going to love someone if you do not love yourself first. You acted like a stalker and he may never come back, cause you acted like you were crazy, I think he left you for another reason, may you were to clingy, think about it. Loving yourself is bout an action not a feeling, do things to prove to yourself you love you and others will to.

Answer 4

It must be hard, but u just need time to see how it goes...U have done what u can, it depends on him how he wants really... in the mean time, do some other things might help! good luck!

Answer 5

Ignore him and see what happens