We have been together for 2 years and have been through alot making us very close.We have a special bond not like any other couple.He has always been there for me as have I.I know I love him and I know he loves me and he tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me all the time.The other day I was telling him how my mom was asking if we wanted to get engaged soon and this isnt really something that ive thought about(at 19) but i know i want to spend the rest of my life with him and if he would ask me to marry him i would say yes(have a long engagement tho). He said that he has been thinking about that but the way I am wen I get upset worries him and I do admit I might not be the most reasonable person wen im angry but its not like I go crazy and we both need to work on how we are when we r upset. Does he just say these things to me or does he really mean them...and if he does mean them y wouldnt he want to get engaged? Does he not lov me as much as i lov him?
2007-12-25 09:02:54 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sounds like he wants to but how you act when you are upset is worrying him.
2007-12-25 09:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is just being honest with you and needs you to think about your reactions to situations before you get married. He's probably just being honest with you. While he may love you, consider what he is saying and talk to him about why he feels this way and what you both can do to help the situation. At 19 you're a little young to be thinking about getting married. You should get engaged when you are both ready to be married. Your engagement is when you plan your wedding and married life, not when you just wear a ring and say that sometime in the future you'll be married. Too many people have long engagments and while that might work for some, unfortunately a lot of those couples don't get married down the line. Have you both actively talked about marriage or are you just hoping to get engaged? Have you talked about your thoughts about marriage and all the preparation that goes into a marriage (not just the wedding)? You may think you're ready to be engaged but it sounds like you need to both work on some things and become closer. And by the way, everyone thinks they have a special bond unlike any other couple. Don't think that somehow your relationship is stronger than anyone else's. In your mind you should be happy and trust each other, but there are many couples out there that share the same bonds you do.
2007-12-25 12:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is worried about your age... He knows that you're young and he just wants to get it right... If you talk about the future, perhaps you could mention this to him and say that you feel being engaged is the next step but getting married can wait.
2007-12-25 09:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks good but time will tell.
2007-12-25 11:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rhapsody616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋