Should I trust you? Does it matter?
2007-12-25 08:04:22 · 44 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's a good question Sunman.
I think about children, and how they just trust their parents, and how they usually end up getting hurt when they do that.
I think about relationships with significant others or close friends, and the same thing typically happens, they part and when they do so there is hurting.
Yet, isn't there something else we received from our relationship, besides that of being hurt? I think we humans have a tendency to remember the pain and the hurting and forget the good things. I think there are many times in our lifes where we will be put into positions to trust other people, and it is always a risk to do so, the downside is we can get hurt or blind-sided. So we look at the potential benefit of joining into a relationship and make our decision, being fully aware of the risk we take.
I think about trusting in a mentor, which was part of my past. I met a person online and after some exchange I realized that this person knew something about me, that I couldn't see myself. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was actively looking for somebody who I felt was authentic and could answer my burning questions. So then I found this person, and then I trusted, because they touched a spot deep in my heart with their words, that had nothing to do with my mind. I didn't know very much, yet I knew that touch was real, one could say I then followed my heart. There was a long exchange over 7 years, and I did receive quite a bit from that in terms of spiritual growth, so I am thankful for this relationship. Yet, the end was getting hurt on both sides, when the relationship grew to it's conclusion.
If we are looking for answers in an intense way, then I think that trusting in a mentor can be a possible way to get these answers. Yet, we should stay critical and be wary if it looks like the mentor is trying to use one's own energy or make you into a follower of them. It's a hard thing on the spiritual path, because we know there are people behind us on this path and there are those who are ahead of us. Yet, we can only see right here and behind, not ahead.
I think many people here have answered good, in that we have to have trust in ourselves, yet if we know we are identified with our egos, then we know that basically we are lying to ourselves. Other people can help us to get honest. But I don't think it needs any special setting or platform, one can do it 'incognito' (make up another nickname) right here in Q&A, the most important element needed is full self-expression and honesty, without holding anything back.
Betsy
2007-12-26 05:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think I am trust worthy. Should is a different question and yes it matters. If we lose faith in each other in a lot of ways that is a loss of faith in the higher source that we all come from. Seek softness and love, don't lose your faith in humanity even at our darkest by the grace of God we still are able to shed some light. My best example at this moment is Schindler and his list.
2007-12-25 10:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rational Humanist 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do hope this answer won't be misunderstood, although I think it probably will as I only came to understand it myself recently through a painful experience.
Trust is a two way street in many cases. I ask you to trust me, you may do so. But if I don't place trust in you or I prove your trust in me to be misplaced, your trust is sure to waiver.
I don't think true trust is possible unless the trust is mutual and the recipient/s are trustworthy. Thus unfortunately, one often does not know if trust is viable until one had entered into a relationship, friendship etc.
Perhaps it would be better for us to ask of others "Will you endeavor to be trust worthy and will you endeavor to trust me?"
I'm making a botch of this answer I'm afraid...but I hope the gist is tangible.
2007-12-26 21:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you trust completely, it does not matter, for then "trust" becomes "acceptance" of whatever may come to be. If you hold back in your trust, then your faith in humanity is tempered by fear. You'll always judge and you'll always feel separation. So you can trust me to be human; whether you should trust me is up to you. Even a lie is a form of truth, and greater truths can be gleaned by the experience of one who lies. So faith can be nonjudgmental, but only if trust is complete and all that comes of it is accepted for what it really is...
2007-12-26 15:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sunman,
All I can say is that I would never deliberately harm you, yet I am not yet perfect in all my actions, so the day might come that I say or do something that unintentionally hurts you. If this happens it would be my hope that we could sit down with some tea & you could tell me about it, without fear, shame, or guilt, knowing that I could never have malice for you or anyone. In the sharing, I can then come to see where the error was. Now, with all that said I have learned thru experience that caring & living in trust is the only way for me to thrive & grow. Mistrust leads to anger & fuels all the emotions I prefer to leave behind. It can make you bitter in the long run. I am reminded of that saying "Risk nothing, recieve nothing". I choose to risk. Have I had my hand slapped a few times, well yes, but I also have some amazing relationships also. Peace & Blessings to you!
2007-12-26 01:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Just Be 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Better late than.................
Human beings are filled with inconsistencies and contradictions. We both know this to be true!
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If a human being locates and discards all the inconsistencies and contradictions within them-self, they will no longer find inconsistencies and contradictions outside of them-self (on the periphery). If this feat is accomplished then it aids a human to know unequivocally what is truth and what is falsehood.
This means Wisdom has been allowed to penetrate the inner heart of man and Truth has been established within. Compassion and Wisdom then rules ones life.
It then becomes apparent to such a person that trust is no longer the question. The question then becomes how does one use the Wisdom within, appropriately, so as to harm no one.
It then becomes a question not of trust, but a question of faith.
Does it matter? Quite possibly!
"Peace be always with you."
2007-12-30 07:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by WillRogerswannabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.Yes, you can trust me when it comes to
Religious questions.
2.Should you trust me. That's totally up to You and your ability to read into me . I've
Answers enough of your questions for
You to have formed an opinion about
my walk with our ''God and Spiritual Faith''.
We both are trying to lead righteous truthful
Life's as Christians in a very sinful World.
3. Yes it does matter! We are fighting
for the same cause. That being, saving the
lost and showing them the path to salvation
Through the same way we both seek it.
Faith , wisdom and the knowledge of God.
''Godspeed.''
2007-12-25 19:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one hundred percent. But you must also show love. Love requires that you understand and have an open heart. Love is the Law! Love, under will, is the strongest power - the only power.
It matters not one whit to me whether you trust me or not, but to you, it is of the utmost importance. You should not forget that in reality, everybody loves everybody else perfectly. We are all at once the centre of the universe, and a star within it. Perfect love exists. Even the Christians will tell you, God created it all, and said 'Wow, this is perfect!'
This is truth :)
2007-12-26 04:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it your Humanity you question? or the trust in someones humanity?, or the Humanity in someone?, or just Humanity in itself?, Now, It really doesn't matter does it? for you don't really know what you want, you have no idea who or what you are, or if you have a purpose or not, therefore, whatever you do, or whatever you become, makes not difference to me, or to no one else. Then, why even ask if you can trust any one?
2007-12-25 17:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Roberto 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I trust you are exactly who you are and that makes all the difference! Trust is relative to what one understands about life and how it works. When I recognise someone or come to know them then the trust is simply part of that understanding. There are different levels of trust just like there are different levels of understanding
2007-12-26 21:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by James 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋