Im 27 UK Indian girl who has always found white men much more attractive..including their personalities.
My parents have introduced me to this man from India..he is soo not my type. I dont think I could ever love him let alone allow him to even touch me..
What do I do? My parents and his parents get on well.
2007-12-25 08:00:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep it somple and dont marry him , because its control
2007-12-25 09:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have met him and cant envisage any relationship with him your parents should respect your wishes and not force you to marry him. Most of the Indian families I have known have been fairly reasonable about their daughters husband allowing them some say even if the marriage is arranged.
I can understand their anxiety to get you married off to an indian guy as in their eyes you are getting old to still be single and they are anxious for you and your children to continue with the culture and religion they and you grew up with.
I agree this is not always realistic for people who have lived in this country all their lives and actually belong to two cultures rather than one and can move fairly freely between both. I suspect your generation would probably opt to choose the bits you like from both cultures and combine them in your life.
You are a woman, not a girl and you must first decide whether you are going to stand your ground and insist you marry the man of your choice at the risk of alienating your parents, or you must agree to an arranged marriage with an indian guy, but one you do not find unattractive.
2007-12-25 16:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by bri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family may not be welcoming to white men. I know Indians do not encourage interracial dating at all.
This is a tough one, but you have decide which is more important: duty to your family or duty to your self.
Maybe you will find an Indian man you will love, but if you happen to fall in love with a man who is not Indian, tell your parents before you introduce him to soften the blow. Explain how he loves you, and respects your culture. Then offer to introduce him.
2007-12-25 16:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by SeXySoApYbUbBlEs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. You should be able to marry with whom you desire, and if you aren't into this guy then don't marry him. If you marry someone just because your parents wish it, chances are you'll end up in an unfullfilling and unhappy marriage. You should tell your parents how you feel and that you have no desire to marry said indian boy.You're parents may not be pleased with your choice at first, but hopefully they will understand eventually.
2007-12-25 16:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by 2fishBLUEfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At all costs, do NOT marry somebody that you do not love. 100% guaranteed you will be miserable for as long as you are married, and it is a complete waste of time. Don't do it, even if you lose your parents over it, because they should not be forcing you to marry somebody in the first place!!
2007-12-25 16:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyman1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should, just explain to your parents that you are a grown women who is old enough to make her own dissions in life. And maybe your not ready to marry. Does this man want to marry you, or does he feel the same way as you do. more details please!
...But either way it goes, i dont think you should marry him if your not totaly into it.
2007-12-25 16:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by soccer-grl-07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi There
Best thing I can say it is your life, Its not your parents marrying his parents, It is you.
Regardless of the colour of a person's skin you should only be with who you want to be with not what you feel is expected of you.
Be what you want to be, Be who you want to be and above all else try and be happy.
Goodluck
2007-12-25 17:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents you don't want to marry the indian guy, since you don't feel comfortable.
why spend your rest of the life with him (someone you don't like) when you could have married someone else?
2007-12-25 16:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say u hate him .
learn to say NO elz u wll always end up in trouble .
or if u can find someone in Uk soon enuff then u will b better off .
marriage is a big decision. don't marry someone u dislike ,,itll b a big mistake!
2007-12-25 16:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by stressed_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date White men and Indian men will be bitches, even by ganging up on White men you date.
2014-07-04 13:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by That Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents!!!
like NOW!
Seriously! If you dont want to marry him...DONT!
You'll just end up divorcing or not loving eachother.
Tell your parents. You dont love him.
Hope i helped!
2007-12-25 16:09:39 · answer #11 · answered by No Name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋