I'm like really good friends with this one guy at my school.... We played this truth game and found out that we really like each other as more then friends... He's always calling me his babe, saying that he loves me and wants to kiss me. We hang out and chat all the time... The other day I was telling him about how my dad calls him my boyfriend, and he was like wow, thats kind of funny, since we're not going out... I don't get why he hasn't asked me out with the ways he shows affection towards me... He has dated one other girl who he asked out a long time ago.... I just need some information on better understanding guys... this will really ease up my feelings on why he hasn't asked me out yet... Thanx and Happy holidays!
2007-12-25 07:56:51 · 24 answers · asked by amber211 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His last relationship went well... their still best friends... I'm thinking it might have to do with his dad and step dad... He never talks about his real dad and his step dad died about a month ago... maybe he's just recovering from that?
2007-12-25 08:43:02 · update #1
guys are usually pretty intimidated to ask girls they like out.
reasons for the long wait might be either:
a) he wants to be 100% sure you will be perfect for eachother and everything will work perfectly when you date. which is excellent and means he really cares for you.
b) he is not very experienced in relationships and such so he is a little bit scared to start one.
c) maybe he needs a break from his last relationship, if for example they had a bad break up.
d) he just doesnt want to date.
guys dont like to be rushed into relationships. they dont feel like its mandatory for them to date someone they like in order to show everyone they like the person. girls on the other hand are in a hurrry to begin dating. i understand that you are anxious to begin dating but give him some time, and maybe he will decide he wants to go out with you.
hope this helps:)
2007-12-25 08:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't ever call him your boyfriend if he isn't.
2) Be nice and smile.
3) Talk with him but let him pursue you.
4) Don't ever tell any of your friends that you like him.
5) Continue chatting with him and spending time with him.
6) He probably hasn't asked you out because you are already calling him your boyfriend. Tell him you meant boy friend as in "a friend that is a boy." That should make him feel better.
2007-12-25 16:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry... if he wanted to be your boyfriend he would ask you out and make it clear that's what he wanted. He seems to be doing the opposite. If you let him keep playing with you like this then he will continue to do so because there is no reason for him to stop.
There are a million reasons why he could be like this. You will probably think its a nice reason (e.g. he is scared) though it could be more basic (e.g. he likes you but not enough to consider you exclusively).
You are worth more than this. The situation you are in could drag on for months and months and, while you are looking at him, you won't notice anyone else.
Try to let him go - easier said than done. If he comes and asks you out (set yourself a time limit in your head for the time you will wait for him to ask - e.g. a fortnight) then you can see what happens, nit if he doesn't then keep telling yourself its his loss.
2007-12-25 16:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their could be Meany reasons for this ! It could be he love,s you but he wont's to make shore of his feeling,s so he does not loose a good Friend ! OR he has mat,s that does not like you and thy wont like him if he goes with you ! OR he think,s you are to beautiful and smart for him this is Y he call,s you his babe he has put you on a pedestal it is like growing a beautiful rose you wont to look at it smell it won it but he is too seared to touch it ore it may brake ! You need to show him that you wont brake ! The next time you see him start to reseal with him then suddenly stop ! look into his eyes then give him a very loving kiss and say i love you ! you will see thing,s will start to happen one way or the other ! he will ever arks you out or tell you he just wont's to be Friend,s .
2007-12-25 17:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by david f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both know that you like each other. Now find out by asking him on a relationship. Maybe he does want one but he doesn't know how to bring it up or say it. Chances are that he does want more than just a friendship.
2007-12-25 16:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Leonidas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so man up and ask him.. if you two are on the same level.. ask its never nothing wrong with asking.. wether you like the out come or not then at least you will know.. its always better... i felt that way one time.. to the point i was in love by myself so i felt.. and one day we talked and he felt the same way.. so i pretty muched missed five years.. cause we could have been together and i was too scared to ask.. and i asked the night before i moved out of the state what a bummer.. so ask.. it will be worth it
2007-12-25 16:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just look at you as a really good friend. I had a really good friend in high school that had a crush on me, he was always telling me he loved me and all the stuff your guy friend is doing. After graduation he told me that he had always wanted to have something with me, but didn't want to ruin our friendship since we were such good friends.
2007-12-25 16:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its hard to say, because all boys are different. However, to me it sounds like one of two things. Either he really does like you but isn't ready to initiate by asking you out, and he was testing the waters by making that comment about you not going out. Or, he doesn't like you as much as he says he does and wants to kiss you (and quite possibly, do other things), without the strings. But like I said, its hard to tell. The best advice I ever got about boys was this: Don't read into their actions too much, because as girls we like to think that boys think on a much deeper level than they usually are. What we think has meaning is often just a simple, innocent action to them. I know this doesn't exactly apply to your situation, but something to think about.
2007-12-25 16:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by crazypenguincp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be cool.
some guys just flirt alot and they may like u
but they may not ask you out maybe because
they are not ready for a relationship. Just keep
on talking to him and getting to know you and
if he really likes you he''ll ask you out. If he doesn't
that's okay because there are plenty of guys out there
who will. Never look for them, let them find you.
God Bless=)
antâ¥
2007-12-25 16:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is...guys are usually very nervous around girls they like because they're afraid they will be rejected. Make him feel that you really want to be around him, and make sure that he knows that you like him. Invite him somewhere, or do something that lets him know that you like spending time with him. It's "priming the pump" in that a little effort on your part will result in a lot of effort on his.
2007-12-25 16:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by silver40596 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋