is that normal?
2007-12-25 07:42:52 · 12 answers · asked by roxanna m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
thank you for your advice i will definitly wait and see what happens
2007-12-25 07:58:15 · update #1
thx snowglobe and all who answered i will definitly take your advice and wait
2007-12-25 07:59:49 · update #2
ok so i take it rushing is not the answer.?lol i mean i have been asked out before but i said no because he was tring to hit on my friends. This is why . and i feel that i am surrounded by girls with boyfriends and people that like them sometimes i wonder if i am ugly or somethig??
2007-12-25 08:28:16 · update #3
Absolutely normal! Boys should be friends, not boyfriends, until you are much older. A lot of girls who only think of boys as boyfriends when they are young never learn how to be friends with males, which will be a problem later on. that's why girls have all these traumatic break-ups and broken hearts, because they just want to feel "in love" and be happy that some guy thinks they are wonderful. When the feeling goes away, they don't know how to deal with it because they weren't really friends.
2007-12-25 07:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Snow Globe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Snowglobe's a wise person. Good advice there.
Don't worry about what others are doing, though that's hard because at your age, you want to be like your friends. If all your friends are going out, it's easy to wonder what's wrong with you if you don't. It's just harder to be your own person, isn't it? Do what you think is best. But don't get pressured into anything. I'm not sure what all the fine points are in your life- if you "date" someone is that the same as "going out" or "meeting" a guy?
Have you thought about going out in a group? You'd have the opportunity to spend some time with one guy, a sorta date-within-a-date, without any sort of commitment to align yourself with a specific guy?
Another option might be to bring a guy (or a small number of friends) to your house, where your parent(s) could be around. I did this for my daughter when she was much younger- her boyfriend came for dinner and then we went upstairs to watch TV while she and her boyfriend had the couch and TV downstairs. Periodically, I'd make popcorn or holler, "Want another Pepsi?" I'm sure they enjoyed being together, getting closer to each other. But the environment was much more controlled than if she were out somewhere. I think she appreciated having her boyfriend (and some other friends, too) over. It's about getting closer to someone without going too far or making mistakes, isn't it? So maybe you could do the same- invite a few friends (boys, too) for an evening of TV and popcorn and Pepsi. Just a thought ....
2007-12-25 16:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advise is not to rush relationships, they're something that should develope over time. That goes for finding a boyfriend as well as how you and he grow closer. When the right man comes along it should be one that treats you special without you having to be anyone but yourself.
Don't spend to much time worrying about it and just enjoy being where you are.
2007-12-25 15:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Red Crossed 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???
When do kids start having boyfriends? in kindergarten?
You aren't even old enough to date outside of a group activity, and you think it's odd not to have a boyfriend?
Don't be in a hurry to grow up. You're only a kid for 18 years and will have plenty of years to be an adult.
I hope that helped put it into perspective.
2007-12-25 15:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by holey moley 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fourteen is too young to be worrying about having a boyfriend. Life is too short to waste when you are young; however, it is only when you get old like me that you figure it out.
2007-12-25 15:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by RT 66 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Quite normal.
2007-12-25 15:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Poet G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Yes, it's COMPLETELY normal. Please do not rush into something just because your friends want you to do it. Just take your time, and go at your own pace. You get a boyfriend when you feel good and ready.
2007-12-25 16:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Windowguy19 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so? and yeah that's totally normal...
I'm 14 and i don't have a boyfriend =]
someone asked me out too like 3 weeks ago but I said no because he's one of my friend and I don't like him that way and I just like him as a friend.....
boys come and go but friends will stay with you.....
2007-12-25 17:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by ★Star Girl★™ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not be having any boyfriends if you are below 19 yrs old.
2007-12-25 23:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, completely normal. You are young and have plenty of time.
2007-12-25 15:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋