How does one have confidence when he was picked on growing up?

Question

Confidence is feeling good and sure about yourself. Usually those who grew up with good friends, family, and who were never picked on by others growing up, and were accepted by their social peers have great confidence. What about those who were tormented and picked on during their childhood? It can be really hard for those people to have confidence in themselves. It is true that studies have shown that what you experience in your childhood makes you of who you are in your adulthood.

Answer 1

A lot of who you are as an adult does have to do with your childhood experiences, and how you responded to situations. Confidence can take a while to have, but everyone has the ability to make a change and be more strong then they were as an unconfident child. It may be more difficult to achieve but its possible. Taking risks builds confidence,and teaches you a lot about yourself and other people. You gotta start somewhere.

Answer 2

Well I am one of those peaple who was picked on growing up. You just have to realize that 1. children are gonna be children. Most children are immature and are trying to increase thier social statuse by bringing other children down. This has not changed since the beggining of school and it will not change any time soon. Its just a fact that certin children because they may be a little chubby, may not have all the designer clothes etc. will be picked on. What you have to do is find other ways to feel good about yourself. 2. Remember that YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE OR LET OTHER PEAPLES OPINION OF YOU DEFINE WHO YOU ARE. Just because somebody says your a loser does not mean you are one. Just because somebody says your ugly does not mean that you are because everybody has their own perseption. The phrase "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is true. You may be a loser and ugly to some but to others you will be the coolest guy on the block. 3. Nobody can make you feel bad about yourself unless you allow them. F**k anybody who tells you different. F**k what other peaple think. Just hang around peaple who will like you for you. Because the populer peaple who teased you growing up will probubly be pumping your gas when you get older. I've seen it. For example a lot of the populer girls in school who ignored me in high school are now broke, with kids, and guys who may of been populer in school but now are bums who have no money and treat them like crap. Now I'm the one on top. For me something that helped was getting to know God. He has a promise in the bible that says "the first will be last and the last will be first" and what I just told you is an example of that.

Answer 3

I was picked on growing up and sometimes I still have confidence issues but overall I think I'm doing pretty well. I realized a long time ago that the opinion of those who do not accept me for who I am does not matter.

Answer 4

i was in ur position a few years back. I am now 20 and with a great amount of friends and also popular. Now do not change who u are. You will eventually meet a group of people who will like u a lot for who u are!!

Answer 5

Try to get into talking to random people like customers (if you work at a store) or find some clothing that you can see your self in and say "Damn, I look good!" that should boost your confidence. Good luck

Answer 6

it may take a little longer but you can develop self confidence over time. someone once told me that its not what isdone to us in childhood but what we as adults choose to do with the experience

Answer 7

you are entirely correct.
for those who were treated unfairly they too can develope
self confidence, but it may take a while.
you asked a good question and merry x-mas.

Answer 8

i was picked on, i didn't always have good friends, and my family and i never got along, but i think just knowing yourself and expressing yourself helps (cliche i know)