My husband and I have been married for a little over four months. We are struggling emotionally and financially. We even got into a physical fight. We had no Christmas and cant afford food...would you be will to pray? We love each and want a strong marriage, but we are young and neither of know how to make a marriage strong.
2007-12-25 05:20:07 · 36 answers · asked by GodsGrl4Real 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It would be an honor to pray for you! How wonderful that you are willing to look to the Creator of marriage for your answers!
Father, we lift up this young couple to You. You created marriage. Father, we thank You that You are a God of healing and restoration and that You are healing their marriage and restoring them. Father, put a strong desire in their hearts to want to work things out. Let them learn to see each other as You see them. Give them a peace that surpasses all understanding. Let their marriage be as the days of heaven on earth. Let them seek to honor You in their marriage and in all things. Father, as they are young let them seek to honor You with their youth. Teach them and guide them. Father, bless them and open doors for them that no man can close. You are a God of provision and we thank You that You are providing for these precious souls. Let there be no violence in their marriage but let them seek to be kind and loving to each other. Let Your Son's example be the illumination in their lives, and let them seek to live as Jesus taught. We thank You for this couple and leave them in Your hands, Holy Father. In Jesus' name...........amen!
God bless you and your husband!
I am happy to pray with you anytime.......just an email away!
†In His Service Prayer Warrior†
2007-12-25 09:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of people will tell you to leave him if it got physical. However you say you both are willing and love each other. You seem to be willing to seek counsel.
Stress is especially hard at the holidays if finances are low or very tight. Stress can come out in the form of physical fighting. You both can learn new ways of interacting during stressful times. Which marriage is full of.
Get to a counselor at any of your local churches. You don't have to go to that church or be a member to take advantage of the counsel available by the minister of the church. Make sure, though, that the relationship you have is a comfortable one for all three of you, even if the work is uncomfortable, the interchange between the two of you and the minister is important.
This is about the most cost-effective route you can take. Ministers in counsel should not be trying to convert you, but rather they will try to help you resolve your difficulties together so that the two of you have a closer more loving way of relating to one another. They can also help you learn some ways to work through difficulties together.
Those are what makes marriages stronger.
Also churches may have or know of local food banks that can help you out. Don't be ashamed, many people are feeling the 'sting' of tight finances right now. That's why there are food banks.
Bless you for your prayer request. Done and done.
:)
2007-12-25 05:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what makes a marriage strong. Being married for a little over 4 months, struggling emotionally and financially, having a physical fight, being unable to afford food, going without a Christmas, etc. and then turning to prayer. You are right on schedule for a strong marriage, or you can do what the majority do, give up and get a divorce and you never will have the strong marriage that you want.
2007-12-25 05:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
My prayer for you is that you seek God's will for your lives. If it's any help, I'm older and just got married in February. We are struggling emotionally & financially as well. We counted our money in the store to struggle and get something for dinner.
Your physical fight probably came out of utter frustration. It's not good, but again, I can relate. But be very careful with that! It's not worth it to lose your cool.
For me, I prayed, and then I decided to let go and let God handle it. And because I do love my husband, I started working on the friendship part because that is all I am able to understand at this point.
My best to you! I hope this helps!
2007-12-25 05:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by windybreeze 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is a good desire to want to save your marriage in this throw away world. I will pray for you both to have wisdom, and comfort, and for peace in the marriage. I will pray for a strong marriage, too. There is a saying...the family that prays together, stays together. I recommend you both seek the Lord together.
†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2007-12-25 09:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by electroprayer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Done. Please go to your local churches, they will help you with food problems. You are having the same problems as the majority of the world are having. Hang in there & put God & Jesus first in your lives. Thank him for what you do have, even if it's only each other. The grinch is right. Christmas is not about packages, it means a lot more. The birth of our wonderful savior, Jesus. So yes, you will have a Christmas. Things will get better. God bless & keep you both.
2007-12-25 05:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by GoAskAlice 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Consider it done but remember to never stop communicating and never blame one another for your difficulties but discuss how best to fix the problems. No relationship is without problems they are part of life whether you are married or single. The advantage of being married is that you have a partner going through it with you in whom you can confide your deepest feelings. Never forget this valuable resource and always be that resource for one another. Also remember that physically fighting is not the answer. I want to share something with you that really helps when times are tough.
TAKE CARE OF THE ROCKS
One day a Philosophy professor came into class and took a large glass jar out of a brown paper bag and placed it on a table in the front of the room. He told his class this is the jar of life. He then put several large rocks into the jar. He shook the jar noting to his class how the rocks remained relatively stabile. He then told his class these rocks represent your family and closest friends without whom your life would be empty and meaningless because they give stability to your life.
He then took out a jar of pebbles and shook the jar noting how they rattled about inside the jar. After this he poured the pebbles into the larger jar with the rocks in it. Shaking the large jar again he noted to his class how the pebbles filled in the spaces between the rocks and the rocks gave the pebbles stability. He placed the jar back on the table telling his class the pebbles represent the things in your life that without which your life would become difficult such as your career, your home, etc.
He then took out another jar filled with sand. He shook the jar with the sand in it noting how it randomly topples about very easily. After this he poured the sand into the larger jar with the rocks and pebbles in it. Shaking the jar yet a third time he noted how the sand trickled down falling in to fill the remaining spaces and then too became stabile. He again placed the jar back on the table telling his class that the sand represented the little things in life without which we would be temporarily inconvenienced, but could still move on such as money, a car, a telephone, cable TV, etc.
He then recounted how the pebbles and the sand would rattle and topple about so easily until they were mixed with the rocks and the rocks gave each of them stability. He then continued that there was a lesson in this; TAKE CARE OF THE ROCKS – Because everything else is just SAND.
2007-12-25 05:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know saying this won't help, but i want to expres that i'm really sorry you are in this position and i hope things improve and wish i could help more than just answering on yahoo. i always pray, ive had very low points in my life, and a very strong belief in G-d. i believe that when you are sad, you have a hole to fill, and the onlky way to fill it is by prayer. when all seems lost and there is not other way to solve something, prayer will help. it's G-d's way of speaking to you, giving you sadness, so you call out to him and build your relationship. however prayer isnt a magic potion, action is also needed. in order to solve financial problems you need to seek money, through jobs and loans etc. i guess you are having emotional problems due to what you are going through, and when your financial problems are sorted your relationship should better, as youve only just married 4 months ago, what got you to get married in the first place cant have faded. G-d never turns his head to those who seek him. i wish you and your husband thebest
2007-12-25 05:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If it's in "Gods" will, then why pray about it? Don't rely on anything or anyone else except yourselves to make this marriage work. There is obviously a reason why you got married...go back to that as starting ground. Do what yall use to do when you dated. I made the mistake of marrying young...and if I knew then what I know now, we'd probably still be married. Find it within yourselves that this marriage is really what you want, and if it is so...then it will happen on it's own, but effort must be made in a marriage in order for it to work. Think of marriage as a car. It'll get you from point A to point B only if you take care of it and keep it well maintained. Ignore the fact that it needs constant care and maintenance, and you'll be stuck going nowhere and looking for a new one.
2007-12-25 05:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Stewie Loves You 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Yes my husband and I will both pray for you. We went thru horrible times when we were first married- now our lives are wonderfil. Start going to a Bible based church. You can tell if it is truly Bible based even before you go inside. Just set in the parking lot- and watch to see how many people carry their own Bibles--That's the best sign!
2007-12-25 05:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋