I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. I am 27 he is 31. We live about 45 minutes away from each other & usually only see each other on weekends b/c of our work schedules. He has met my family for Christmas/other occasions, because I have invited him, but he hasn't invited me over to meet his family. I love him and he says he loves me. I have made it crystal clear that I really would like to meet them & I have told him that after this long that it hurts my feelings in a way b/c I feel its a reflection on how he feels about me. He says its a big deal & "he doesn't want to get their hopes up". As of now I have not mentioned it in a while b/c I know that if he wanted me to meet them he will let me know and arrange it. I still cannot help the fact that I feel bad about the whole thing and now keep my feelings to myself. I don't want to break up and I don't want to nag. What do I do now...just sit back and hope?
2007-12-25 04:52:01 · 12 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I'd be worried, but that's only my opinion. I know it's a big step letting your parents meet the other half, but after a year and a half, I would have thought he'd made his mind up if he's serious about you or not.
Maybe he already has...
2007-12-25 04:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What almost 2yrs and no parents? then he has the nerve to say he don't want to bring their hopes up...That is crazy so in other words he is not serious with you. He is not looking at you as a wife so what the heck is wrong with him? You said ya live 45 minutes away and ya see eachother only in the weekends? Are you sure he don't have someone during the week day? Something is not right hear i smell something fishy. i don't know hat it is but you need to get under it. Good luck.
2007-12-25 14:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be more about how he relates to his parents - which is something you should be aware of. There could also be an unrelated reason, only he knows. He may also not be ready to deal with whatever it is that is bothering him, and that is also something for you to consider as well. What ever the case or "reason" does it really affect the relationship the two of you have with each other? These are all things you need to answer for yourself. Do you really have to meet his parents?? If so, why? This may not have as much to do with you as you might imagine.
2007-12-25 13:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Voyager40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that loves you can't wait to show you off He should want to introuce you around If he doesn't he may be nervous butit may also mean that his family or friends know something about him that he doesn't want you to find out Here's a question for you: Does he get defensive or nervous when you mention meeting his family or friends? Does he stutter or make up excuses to get out of doing so? If he does, he probably has something to hide in which case it would be better to cut your losses an move on. Remember if he really loves you he should be proud of you
Good luck
2007-12-25 13:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by noel h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT just sit back
ask him if u , him and his family spend new years together
if he refuses hes not being very fair...
i think hes trying 2 either hide something
or hide you.!
he cant keep you away forever hun
its terrible way of treating you
if he keeps treating you like this then i think you should just dump him
of what you explained . .. saying u only see eachother weekends
and been going out a year and half thats like my relationshi[ with my boyfriends and im 15 =]
but we still meet up during weekdays even if its jst for half hour!
im pratically living with his parents
i think you 2 REALLY need 2 talk!
if hes dodgey about it then dump him
its not fair on you! hes treating you like a illegal thing.
hiding you from his parents
good luck hunii
xxxxxxx
2007-12-25 13:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? He "doesn't want to get their hope up"? Do you understand what he is saying? He doesn't take your relationship seriously!
I think you really need to have him explain that last comment in detail. I would be very concerned that he just is not serious about you. Get some clear answers and don't deny what is going on here. Either he is into you or not...get a clear answer.
2007-12-25 12:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be problems with his parents. If he said he doesn't want to get their hopes up, then they expect him to bring home a fiancee and not just every girl friend. Sorry to be brutal, but it sounds like once a date is set, he will be ready to take you to meet the parents. Hang in there and hope it works out.
2007-12-25 12:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by St N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just watch your step with that and him! He is hesitant, and
it could be for any reason, but if I were you, if you're in
anticipation of a relationship that will lead to marriage, it
is good to meet his family first, but it's up to him to make
the decision, so don't worry about meeting his family, it's
too early yet. Just deal with him and yourself and if all is
well with the relationship then! Love on!
2007-12-25 13:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Joan Sandverysmart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him. ask him if he is really ready to move a little further. if not then he wants to take it REALY slow and just wants to make sure:] dont worry.
if for a while it still goes slow bring it up on a date or something. but not for a whole conversation. just a quick talk:]
2007-12-25 12:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family BBQ. Host a family BBQ.
2007-12-25 12:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by lunchboxoctober 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋