My nephew (by marriage) is really annoying. He's 7, almost 8, and can do NO WRONG in my in-laws or SIL/BIL's eyes. They think they child is so "cute" and "funny" why he says things like "Why are you fat" and "I'm rich and your poor", when in fact their family is not doing well financially at all. This little boy will add up the amount of Xmas presents and ask why people didn't buy him more. I don't mind my nephew's parents, or my in-laws, just when it comes to him. I have very hard time handling him and refuse to babysit or do any favors because of the way this child acts. My husband doesn't think we should say anything to the parents because they HAVE to know how annoying he is. I would think so too, but you never know. What would you do? This kid is like nails on a chaulk board to me.
2007-12-25 03:23:14 · 15 answers · asked by SadToday22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh god, this kid sounds like a nightmare.
What's unfortunate is the fact that his parents don't do more to check their son's behavior. Next time the kid says something like this, say, "Please don't say that, that is rude." Make sure you say it in front of his parents so that they look like idiots.
2007-12-25 03:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I believe in being straight forward, direct and to the point. If he said something like "why are you fat", I would tell him he is being impolite and ignorant, and I would say it in front of his parents so they could hear it. When he said "I'm rich and you're poor" I would ask him what his definition of rich is and then I would explain the difference. When he counts his presents and asks for more, I would ask him how many of the gifts did he pay for (since he is so rich) and tell him he needs to be grateful for whatever people give him. It sounds to me like he is not being taught the proper way to relate to other people. Teach him manners. If his parents refuse to, then in the ways that he relates to you, you demand respect from him and teach him that you are not going to accept that conduct from him. Be sure to do it in front of anyone who is present when he acts up. Consequently, if he doesn't respect anyone else, he will respect you. You will find, when you are around, he acts respectfully, of course, when you aren't, he might go back to his natural ways; but at least you won't have to put up with it anymore.
2007-12-25 04:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by DANGEROUS WHEN THREATENED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can really do is keep your distance and hope like crazy that it's a phase he will grow out of. when you have to be with the child, be a good roll model and don't stoop to trying to teach him a lesson or get back at him, it won't work and could back fire, making you the bad guy. sorry, but it's amazing how many parents do not know how bratty and annoying their own kid is. telling people they are fat or poor is just bad manners and that part is his parents fault. kids can learn starting very young to have good manners and obviously your sil/bil aren't doing their job. it's sad and a dis-service to the kid. good luck!
2007-12-25 03:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lol I can relate to those problems
What I do is I ignore them, Yes it can be hard but in the long run they will learn and when hes Says those nasty remarks to you ignore them too and be like "yes Sweetie that's nice". don't get mad and upset remember hes just a kid "Some" parents always thinks there child are perfect angels but there just living in denial and don't want to accept the fact there children are little brats. ;]
Merry Christmas and Have a Happy new year!
2007-12-25 04:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by CrissyBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he asked questions that where rude, I would answer them honestly. If he asked me why I was fat, I would answer with why are you rude. When he said why didn't someone buy him more, say because I only buy presents for nice people. You don't need to say anything to them, they know he is a brat, and the reason is they incourage it. He hears them talking and takes his lead from them. They have just learned not to say their true feelings out loud. Hopfully the kid will learn to shut up one day, but it probably won't be until some other kid knocks the cr*p out of him.
2007-12-25 03:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest and frank with him. If he calls someone fat, tell him that's rude and uncalled for. Ask him if he would like to be bad fun of because of the way he looked.
If his parents tell you that he is just having fun, tell them no, that he is being rude and it is uncalled for and they need to stop babying him. If they laugh off his rude comments, he'll keep on being rude and come off as a jerk for the rest of his life. They are teaching their child that it is okay to make fun of fat people and bring up money-related topics which are not proper conversation. Hope this helps.
2007-12-25 03:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Dusty DayDreams 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The thing is even if you tell the boys parents that their kid is a pain in the ***, the wont understand why and probably they will be even angry with you. And im sure you dont want that.... so there isnt anything what you can do, if you wanna keep your relationship with the parents....
...so keep up! And if they dont see you can still accidently close him in the closet :)
2007-12-25 03:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Adrienn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya know? This kid is going to start to grind on his parents, when other people just begin to ignore him. For sure, don't ever baby sit him, and for sure, don't ever say anything really snotty to him,....(though you'd really just like to sock him to the moon) and whatever he says to you, just grin at him.... just grin. Say nothing, then walk away, and engage in a conversation with anyone else. The best way to extinguish poor behavior toward you is just to smile, and walk away. It will drive the kid nuts, but on the other hand, since he is getting no response, he'll go to someone else who doesn't know this secret. Good luck
2007-12-25 03:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by ladyren 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am not sure why parents refuse to see that they have failed to teach their children manners...it makes for some very hostile family gatherings....while it is not your place to teach this child you should do so when the opportunity presents itself...when he speaks out of turn explain why he shouldn't say that or do that, he will remember that you are keeping an eye on him good luck
2007-12-25 03:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what, I'd be honest with the kid. If he asked rude questions, I'd tell him that he was rude. They're not doing this kid any favors. They're setting him up to be a spoiled jerk who is going to get his butt kicked every other day at school until he learns to control his mouth.
2007-12-25 03:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋