Should a two year old get this much stuff?

Question

I went over to my grandma's house yesterday to find that my two-year-old cousin is getting dozens of gifts, just from her.

I mean, I don't care how much I get, I really don't, but that two year old already gets whatever he wants. He's very spoiled. When he gets to five years old, I imagine him running around the house screaming at the top of his lungs, "I WANT IT NOW! GIVE IT TO ME!"

I don't know, I just think that a two year old shouldn't get so much stuff, escpecially when they're already spoiled.

Answer 1

often kids are given WAY too much early in life and it does have an affect on their lives. Christmas shouldn't be about how much you get but about quality time you spend with your family. just remember this so that when you have children you will be able to do things in moderation and give your kid an appreciation for the things that they have.

Answer 2

It may be too much, it may not. A dozen gifts from one person does sound excessive. I had my whole family here for Christmas and my daughter who is also almost 2 is the only child and she had probably 12 to 15 wrapped gifts total and I thought that was a bit much.

Many people, especially grandparents overbuy (even more so if they don't see the child often to make up for lack of quality time with the child) and they don't mean to spoil the child, they just want the child to have everything he/she wants.

All these presents won't necessarily spoil the kid. It depends on how the parents handle it. If the parents are overbuying too and don't make sure the kid is gracious about the gifts that are received whether they like them or not when they are old enough to do this (2 year olds aren't - they just rip into them and can get overstimulated and act very badly sometimes) then the kid will probably be fine. I was the only kid in my large family for years and got so many gifts at Christmas it took until noon to open them all and my Dad was positive this was going to ruin me. It didn't because my parents modeled good behavior and demanded gracious behavior from me.

Answer 3

Im not a parent...But I am a very loving uncle. My advice is to nip that in the bud. Sometimes less is more. Make sure your relatives dont go overboard on gifts. A child with too many toys will not value what she or he has. The little things that people do for a child now can have a huge impact on that individuals character when the child grows up. As a parent go with your instincts on what is too much and not age appropriate.

Merry Christmas.

Answer 4

Acquiring a lot of things doesn't make one spoiled. Being allowed to get away with murder and still being rewarded does. As long as his parents are teaching him discipline (which is very possible at this age despite the fact that toddlers are inherently selfish), then he should be fine. I received a ton of things when I was younger because I was the baby in the family. I work hard for everything and did not turn out spoiled. What you can do is help teach him to appreciate what he has and to take care of it. That will prevent him from being spoiled.

Merry Christmas. :)

Answer 5

Most children today feel that things are owed to them. This is unfortunate as many children in the world don't even have food for Christmas. Christmas is a time for family. Society has made it very materialistic and its true meaning is slowly being lost. We don't need the dozens of gifts.....it's the thought that counts.

Happy Holidays!

Answer 6

IMO Christmas is all about children! my son got a fair amount from my parent's as well but that doesn't make him spoiled..just loved..it depends on the child's attitude after receiving and taking the gifts.
Most children now days do get WAY too many things...I know a 9 yr. old girl that just got a professional camera SET (camera, stand, printer, etc.) that to mee is excessive, but toys, no way..they deserve to be kids

Answer 7

your right. i know this may sound evil but i sorta like it when little kids scream at me. i think it's cute. i was never spoiled. and i am soo not a brat(so i think). i really think his parents/grandparents should not give him sooooo many gifts. burooka salt. willy-wonka. but antway, if he gets a brother or sister than everything will change.i am an onlt child but my friends say that the first chiled is spoiled than when the new baby comes they are not spoiled than aroung age 4 the new baby(it is 4) starts to get old abd by age 13 it's gone totally. the older one that is 13 gets all the attenchin.

Answer 8

i don't think your grandma is trying to spoil your cousin though.
i also don't think your grandma's focusing on the negative effects of what you're grandma is doing because she's busy focusing on the positivew effects.
your cousin's only 2 anyway but i'm not saying that he should be spoiled.

but if your grandma continues to spoil him & your cousin turns out to be a spoiled brat then someone needs to take action about this, i know how you feel!

anyway, merry christmas!

Answer 9

We have stopped buying any presents because of such a reason especially seeing them tear open the paper ,not knowing who bought what and grabbing the next present .They get worse as they get older so we now send a cheque to our sons and they can put the money towards something for the whole family .this year they have bought sky plus multi room

Answer 10

Most of the time parents don't realize how much they do for their children. But for me I don't think I over do it, but I just try to make sure they are happy but I make sure they know that they must earn things and they are not just given to them when they ask.