I met a guy online and we had drinks. He had a dinner engagement (holidays, you know) so we parted with heavy smooching and petting right in the street, which I ended coyly saying he'd be late. He later texted me, "I want you!!!!" I replied, "You're sweet." I always thought if you left them wanting more, they'd come panting after you. Well, that hasn't happened. Why wouldn't he follow up on what is obviously a sure thing? change of mind? hangover? I should mention lives about 2 hours away and is only in town on weekends, etc. to see friends and family. so it seems pretty risk-free for him if he were worried about attachments or something. I can't believe a guy would be satisfied with just snogging. why isn't he gagging for it and ringing my phone off the hook? And what are the consequences if I call first? I always regret it when I cave in like that and make the first call. It doesn't usually end too well.
2007-12-25 02:20:16 · 19 answers · asked by beatrice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In fairness I should mention we parted at 8pm last night and it is now 4 pm the following day.
2007-12-25 02:26:27 · update #1
not always, if u just blank them they think ur not interested personaly i think all those games are just daft, if u like sum1 tel them straight and get to the point, ask if they wana go for a drink or a walk or sumthn, then a meal later on so u dont feel so awkward, ask him str8 out, if he isnt interested then u wil no and then u can get on with things in other directions otherwise u win win win....u cant lose when ur str8 with ppl and men and women are so different that those mind games always end up getn messy and confusin, one thinks that the other isnt interested etc etc
also he mite just want one thing which is bad news, if he picks u up and drops u and is only interested wen he thinks he wil get some then dont bother warnin signs are things like he is only interested wen he can come to ur house or u to his cus then he gets u on his own, if u say do u wana go out then that sorta guy wont b interested cus he cant get in ur pants.
hopefully u have a nice guy and bein str8 with him that u like him and wud like to get to know him beta wil set the ball rollin....good luck :0)
2007-12-25 02:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Weeza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cool is cold And you met him on line.... Just went on one kinda like a date thing... and did what you said you did in the middle of the street. He could think the same thing risk free then woke up and said all of my friends and rel's live here.
You may have some fun..Maybe but if that happens,
That's all that will happen don't count on meeting any of his friends because you'll have to be kept a secret He has a life, You're Just a minor part of it. Very minor Well atleast until you prove my statement wrong by meeting his parents... An Old song by rick james super freak,,, super freak super freaky the type you DON'T take home to mother!... That goes for friends too... So if sex is all you want call him if not see what else happens... No the times have changed a great Deal men don't bother to beg and look like fools anymore, Some stupid hard up men do But the rest of us men get a good laugh, Real world dating is much better internet is more of a game But I know of a christain Lady that married a very good man from holland they live in kentucky He's a really great fella her him and the 3 boys that are not his all go to church... Let me guess you're not looking for a church guy are you?
2007-12-25 10:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tony Burke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people get into the moment and when it's over, they move on. Perhaps there was no real chemistry there for him, but if opportunity had allowed, he'd have "gone for it" just because it was available.
If he's interested he'll get back in touch with you...but i've had more than my fair share of dates that appeared to go quite well, only to not hear from the guy again (or never get asked out by him again).
Ya can't read other people's minds...and if you want to call the dude just to put your mind at rest (to find out if he's interested or not) then do so, but then you have to hope he's honest. Actions speak louder than words...someone recently told me he was still interested, but his actions SCREAM total disinterest, if not outright dislike.
People... *shrugs* too many go for games instead of being straight up. I prefer to lay my cards on the table, and take it from here. If I want games, I'll break out the Monopoly board.
2007-12-25 10:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you expect great romance from a first meeting? First meetings don't give you a chance to determine whether he's just after a little (or a lot of sex) without any other connection. It appears he's after sex but guys like that are a dime a dozen. If all you want is a quickie, call him. If you want something a bit long term, don't grab his crotch until you determine he's interested in your mind as well as your body.
2007-12-25 10:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to hurt your feelings on Christmas...but......if he met you online....he met others too. Maybe u left him wanting more, but then maybe he got it elsewhere. Who knows? He will call eventually......geeeeezzzzzz u didn't even give him 24 hours. Don't call him....just sit and analyze what exactly u want from this person. U consider petting right in the street a good thing?????????
2007-12-25 10:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by dvatwork 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those stupid things that you are "supposed" to do are only generalities. They might work on some people but not all. Besides, it's only been a day. I'd think it was odd if he WAS trying to bang down the door already.
2007-12-25 11:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men have the monopoly on playing it cool. It could be the holidays (ie. he has a ton of stuff to do) so give it a little time. However, whatever you do, don't call first...it smacks of desperation.
2007-12-25 10:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by bigtimeoperations 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He probably isn't the guy you play it cool with.When he said he wanted you it might have ment he wanted to be with you.Not he wanted you wanted you and when you replied he's sweet he must have been expecting you to call.The I want you was a question.The your so sweet was a maybe.call him
2007-12-25 10:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by I walk Alone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first could be married, second some don't like it coy or cool. the reply your sweet is quite confusing. its like shot down in flames not responding in the same passion or similiar manner.
2007-12-25 10:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by den d 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hes waiting 4 u 2 call or he will call u and 2 days
2007-12-25 10:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by vince300013 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋