I had a boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were great together and we had no major problems the time we were together, and we were so close and had something really good and he was this really important person in my life. I really couldn't ever see it ending. And he's my first real love too. a few months ago, some things happened and he made some mistakes and got scared and ended up breaking up with me to date someone else. But he still continued seeing me during the whole time, because he was so confused about what he wanted. Eventually he realized the mistakes he made and realized how he felt about me and what he wanted with me, and he tried to fix things and ended it with the other girl, and told me that he wanted to take it slow with me and work on things a step at a time.....that was 2 months ago...and we have been taking it slow, seeing each other a few times a week...and still being "physical" with each other...now i find out that there's this other girl he's been talking to..
2007-12-25 01:35:19 · 19 answers · asked by Lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
which I knew he was friends with this girl, but apparently now there's more to it.and I asked him about it and he says he's not sure what's going on, but he pretty much admits that he's interested. What I don't understand is how he can still sleep with me, and want to talk to me and see me and do these things....if he's getting involved with someone else? I can't figure out what's going through his mind. I feel like it's so much easier for him to go on to someone else than to actually work on things with me and face the issues....but then why would he have been saying all these things and doing these things with me?? It makes me feel so worthless and used. Like all he wants me for is sex..but I kept trying to tell myself it wasn't just that because of everything we had together and what he told me. but now this is happening again and I don't know what to do. I can't stop feeling so hurt..and I know I should probably stop seeing him now..but I love him so much. I can't easily move on.
2007-12-25 01:41:51 · update #1
Time, keep busy.
2007-12-25 01:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Regwah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out tell me
I took a girl out a coupleof times when i was about 16 in 1961. for some reason that I can not remember., we drifted away from each other
I was married for 36 years to another. My wife died a couple of years ago
I ran into the girl a couple of years ago she had been in a bad marriage but now is quite happily married.
I still have such strong feelings for her.
I have never told her and I never will as I would not do anything to upset the good life that she is now having.
Its a bit of a problem,
2007-12-25 09:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a player and I am so sorry you got played, especially around the holidays. Players are also good con artists. That is why he was able to convince you that his love was real. I'm sorry, but it wasn't. This pattern of his is going to continue so let it continue with another woman, not you. Be the strong one. My advice to everyone whose going through a bad break up is to join a gym and work out like crazy. It gives you a healthy sense of control and makes you feel good about yourself. I hope my advice has been helpful. Take care and be strong!!!!
2007-12-25 09:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So there you are......confront him and ask him to give you the truth..otherwise dont spend time with him anymore , dont allow him again to make a fool out of you!!Enough is enough and besides you ahve given him a second chance, so that is it!!!Cheer up, you can always move on , at least for the fact that you are not attached to him and for the fact that you know he isnt the same with you anymore, Give yourself a chance to breathe now, there will always be better chances for you, meanwhile, get strength from that failed relationship and without your knowing, everything has been cured..........time is the only thing that can help you now...........be hopeful and love yourself........got it?
2007-12-25 09:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like he is using you. Find other ways to protect yourself from falling so easily back into your arms. Schedule movie dates for yourself at late night hours, or visit with some other friends. Its never easy to be alone, but families can help if you ask or do you have a sister or brother you can talk to. Find another friend who will cover for you when he comes back around. This guy has cheated on you twice. Think if that's what you want from him. God Bless you.
2007-12-25 09:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Maxine H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to tell him you know about the other girl. He needs to make up his mind who he wants to be with, and if he gives you some hokey answer about trying to find himself, then it is time to move on, because it will continue on and on. If you quit with sex, you'll find out that you don't have that much in common anymore. You are safe sex, but he doesn't mind trying for some new stuff down the block.
2007-12-25 11:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what i can say is that this guy is thoroughly confused -- what does he want?? Emotional comfort fron That Girl or Physical Avalaibility from you?? Get this clear from him - if he is only using u for sexual satisfaction - snap out of it at once - you cant do this to urself at all!! Get him to be clear with his feelings - he loves either YOU or HER.. cant be both or else it cant be called love but just juvenile attraction!!
Make your decision, girl and be quick before things can go wrong and worse
2007-12-25 09:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by SaturnIndian[SI] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he's been dishonest with you. What more do you need to know about him other than that he has been dishonest in his treatment of you. What else do you need him to do to understand that he is intentionally using you to satisfy his own selfish purposes.
Please wake up and put away the doormat or he will never stop wiping his feet all over you and your feelings while selling you a new variation on a line you have previously swallowed hook, line and sinker.
2007-12-25 09:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by TK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard to get over someone that you have loved and spent so many valuable times together but everyone has to get through it. i think you should let him come to you, like dont talk to him, say hi, call, or text him. let him come to you first. and if he comes to you first. it means he reallt isnt using you or anything. no offense but to me he sounds like a player cuz he wanted to take it slow with you and then he goes and plans other things with other girls. i think you deserve better than that. also try and think about all the negative things about him, that will hlep you get over him. there are so many people out in the world, dont waste your time worrying about one. hope that helps :)
2007-12-25 21:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by iwantu2lovemeback98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are being played. If he REALLY loves you, he wouldn't be seeing other women. Sounds like he's being a player. U need to deal with this, and walk away. He will do it now, he'll do it more in the future. I am not young, but I know "once they mess, they'll do it again". And if he thinks you forgive him once, this could leave him open to doing it again thinking you'll forgive him over and over...U'r choice to make.
2007-12-25 09:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by camancheiaman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you then he would be with YOU & not with anyone else.
Good Luck
Edit: Please be honest with yourself. He is just sleeping with you & does not love YOU. Sorry to say it as it is but don't let yourself be used. There is someone out there who will really love you. Move on & leave this guy alone.
Wish you all the best.
Merry Christmas.
2007-12-25 09:38:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋