2007-12-25 01:06:35 · 34 answers · asked by tulip 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah.
Like my boyfriend got me something for Christmas that I already had. I pretended that I didn't have it.
He would've felt bad probably, and I don't really care anyway.
He also got me chocolates. =)
The present as a whole was really sweet, basically because it was from him.
And it's the thought that counts.
I could tell he'd thought about it for a while.
2007-12-25 01:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To lie or not to lie. It all up to us to evaluate the situation and the level of importance of these truths, Weather we will hurt others feeling or not, If you think by telling the truth will hurt them, but it is for their own good that they must know the truth before the situation turns ugly, then I think you should tell the truth. But if it is just something minor and of no importance, a little white lie won't kill anybody. Don't you think so?
2007-12-25 01:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by msjgs2215 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer this question I will turn it around:-
Do I want to be lied to so as not to have my feelings hurt?
No, I don't want to be lied to.
If I had body odour I wasn't aware of, and was going out with a friend, and the friend said nothing so as not to hurt my feelings, I could have gone in a public space smelling offensively, and I wouldn't want to do that.
I wouldn't lie to prevent hurting somebody, however I may not tell them something which would hurt them if I told them.
If one friend is insolent to me about another friend, I would defend the insulted friend to the insulter, but unless the two were also friends with each other, I wouldn't tell the insulted friend what was said, unless I could do so without hurting them.
Also if something is told to me in confidence, and I accepted it on those terms, I wouldn't tell it to anyone else.
2007-12-26 04:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by DoctressWho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a white lie? Or are we talking about something major here? I generally try not to lie at all, but sometimes a little white lie is the best way. :)
If it's something of significance than no. There's a big difference b/w "I know we're late, but do you like the shoes I'm wearing or the otherones better?" and "Honestly honey, those bumps weren't there before I started dating you."
2007-12-25 01:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not. . . there is nothing more important to a relationship than trust. And if you can't trust someone to tell the truth about something as simple as a haircut, how will you ever be able to trust them to tell the truth about something that's very important when you need to know?
Although it may seem practical to let the proverbial "white lie" slip by, but in reality, 100% upfront and honest is the only way to go.
Get T
2007-12-25 01:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you speak the truth in a way that it can be received.
Idiots dont like to learn their faults.. and cant hear that other people are human beings who do not worship idiots as gods.
Human beings, on the other hand, know they have faults, and can be open to hearing about them. You cant change something you dont know about. They understand when others are also human beings - and they give others permission to be different.
How much does your integrity cost?
Will you sell it for $10? How about 10 cents?
Will you trade it away for an idea?
Dont trade the pearls of your integrity away to swine who can not hear they are imperfect. Its a bad trade.
2007-12-25 01:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
I would maybe soften the truth a little by using euphemisms...but don't lie. It causes lots of misconceptions, causes more to be covered up...stress & pain all come from lies. if you tell the truth, you won't have to worry about covering it up.
Think about it: no matter how hard *you* would be hurt...would you like to be lied to? If you wouldn't, don't lie to this person. If you would, the truth is always better. :)
2007-12-25 01:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not always an easy choice to make and i think it depends on the person involved and what it is about. True friends will appreciate the truth rather than being lied to spare his/her feelings. Explain the situation to the person and that it's NOT your intention to hurt him/her but rather that you want to help
2007-12-25 01:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jaco W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was about something like asking if you like their new (horrible) haircut, then yes I would lie and say it looked good so I didn't hurt their feelings.
2007-12-25 01:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, and most sensible people would too.
As children we are taught not to lie, but in adult life this is an overly simplistic approach. Often the truth can be very hurtful and cruel.
To imagine that humans in general always tell the truth is pretty naive.
2007-12-25 01:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋