I broke up with my boyfriend because 1) I thought he was cheating on me (one of his stupid jealous friends convinced me he was) 2) My friends told me to
Now I want him back. I know I ****** up, we've been apart for the last 2 weeks and haven't spoken since the break up. I chicken out when I call him because I'm afraid of rejection.
How do I get him back!?
2007-12-25 00:36:53 · 12 answers · asked by Annie B. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the true. Instead of coming to a chat room, like this one, why don't you just go and tell him that you made a mistake. I've found out that the truth works to help resolve almost any conflict.
Another thing, his jealous friend did a pretty good job in trying to break you guys up. That was probably step one so that he could try to get with you. Some friend.
Also, take a look at your friends too. If they are all single, then maybe they needed another member of the singles club and wanted you to join.
In either case, if you truly want to get him back, then you need to work up the courage and call him. Or better yet, just go and tell him face-to-face. Just make sure you tell him how you feel and be honest.
2007-12-25 01:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by fjohn1991 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try to get him alone, away from distractions, and tell him what you're feeling.
You broke up because of a misunderstanding, right? So the reason you broke up wasn't a valid one, and you would not have broken up with him if you had known the truth.
If his own "friend" hadn't lied to you, you wouldn't have broken up, right? So you're actually a victim also.
You might ask him to put himself in your place. If one of your "friends" told him you were cheating on him, would he have broken up with you also?
And wouldn't he feel bad if he found out that he had been lied to, and that caused him to lose you?
It sounds like you didn't give him a chance to explain or deny the rumor you heard before you broke it off. That's not good, and if that's the case, and you should apologize to him for that. Everyone deserves to know the reason why someone breaks up with them.
The best thing you can hope for is that he recognizes that you acted prematurely and emotionally and that you've learned a lesson from it.
Seems to me, if he really cares for you and values the relationship, he should be willing to hear you out. He would want to be forgiven for making an honest mistake as well, wouldn't he?
I think you should do this in person, not on the phone, where you can look directly at him and convince him of your sincerity.
Good luck!
2007-12-25 08:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by jasper addleton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact by way of your own choice (e-mail/phone/letter/) and tell him that you're sorry that you took things out on him. tell him that he is in-titled to hate you if he wants to, but that you just want him to know that the stuff that's going on is not his fault and that your head is just so filled with all kinds of weird **** right now that you don't know which way is up Tell him you need to figure some things out for yourself but you just want him to know that it really doesn't have anything to do with him and that you're really sorry if you hurt him. Hopefully he will call you up and chew you up. This is good because he gets to vent. he'll probable call you a few names and tell you you got some nerve and then he'll feel better in a day or two. that's when you call him and ask him out for a cup of coffee. If he doesn't call you then just give him a couple of days to think about you and miss you and then call him and ask him out for coffee. He misses you just as much as you miss him but if you did mess up you're going to have to do a bit of groveling. P.S. before you go getting this guy back make sure he wasn't cheating on you. otherwise you're going to feel pretty silly if it turns out that he was.
2007-12-25 09:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u so shore that u ****** up,if ur friends told u that he was cheating 2 i no who i would believe. get some guts and show the *** that u can do better
2007-12-25 08:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, i dumped my ex for the same exact reasons....thats so strange lol, and i also wanted him back...but i didnt get him back...i hope u do. call him, or if u see him, tell him u want to talk to him and act like ur rly rly sorry, and say u want him back, u rly miss him, u should have known better.....i really hope it works out 4 u, i know it sucks knowing ur apart coz u ****** up....goo luck hun xXx
2007-12-25 08:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDoll 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the trust in the relationship is gone, so is the relationship. No use beating a dead horse.
2007-12-25 08:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and see, there is only one true way to find out. if he rejects you, you have learned a lesson. never jump to conclusions with out thinking stuff out first. you have to ask yourself "is this what i really want to do?" good luck
2007-12-25 09:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by j p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont, just join the club with the rest of the dumb bit**** that dont know what they have until they kick it to the curb. Then they crawl back crying about what a mistake they make.
2007-12-25 08:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mastermind 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yuo can just tell him that u had no idea what u were doing and that u werent thinking about the negatives in that,you can just tell hiim how u realli feel
2007-12-25 08:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him the god,s honest truth.
besides the truth setting you free, it may get your boyfriend back.
merry x-mas and good luck.
2007-12-25 08:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋