Social Isolation?

Question

I feel my depression along with false pride has sort of made me a very lonesome individual . There is a lot of negative energy surrounding me and I dont know if I can enjoy anything anymore . I used to be a sort of a kid who loved sarcasm and didn't respect people much as a youngster . I am losing my self esteem at this age - of being a arrogant prick now and back then . This feeling is causing a lot of pain and depression .
In family occasions as well I just coccon myself and not able to share much of good spirits with anyone . I know its hell - but please can anyone advise what I can do to improve ...to be more Graceful and Nice person... please please no funny answers ... I want to drive this negative energy from me.
God Bless

Answer 1

don't worry you aren't alone my life sucks too

Answer 2

The biggest thing is, you have to break the cycle somehow. When I was suffering from depression, I talked with a counselor and I broke the cycle by taking medication that helps to relieve the depression. Once you relieve the depression then you will feel more like dealing with the issues that are at the root of your problem.

You have to keep in mind that you didn't get this way over night and it won't resolve itself over night either. It will take time and you have to be patient and work on the issues one at a time. Once you know where you are then you can work out a plan to get out.

Ease off on the sarcasm, not everyone likes it and if you do it all the time, they eventually won't like you either. Depression makes you feel alone in a crowd thus the feeling of being in a cocoon. You need to socialize, start out a little at a time, you don't have to be the life of the party or the center of attention but you need to talk with people and not be the wall flower. It's an effort I know, but it will pay off in the end.

I know this isn't much advice but I hope it at least gives you a starting point. Just realize you aren't the only one out there like this, even though you often feel like you are. You need to find someone to talk with, to unload on knowing they aren't going to judge you or criticize you. A good counsler is best and if they can prescribed meds as well, then all the better.

Take care and I hope you get to feeling better about yourself and life in general.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You are very much like I am except I have learned to accept myself as I am. Whatever you decide to do, keep one thing in mind. You are a man and it's important that you be manly. Some of that arrogant prickness may not be in place most of the time, but sometimes it can be useful. I don't consider myself graceful or nice. I'm honest with myself. I realize that I had a traumatizing childhood and it has had its effect. It's not all that bad though. I have been fortunate to discover some important people who have greatly influenced my life, for example, Jack Hyles, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and Richard Clayderman. Find a few heroes for you to be like. Nobody is self made. Whatever you become will be learned and rubbed off from some other person. I would highly recommend the book, MAN OF STEEL AND VELVET by Aubrey Andelin. Click on Bookshelf
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Answer 4

List what is your negative energy. Make a list of things that would bring you positive energy. try to get rid of the things on the negative energy list, and go after the things on the positive list.

be more graceful? nicer person? that all comes from within. but are you meaning grateful instead of graceful. just wondering. anyway... be better remember what you do have, make another list of things you do have. you have some place to live, computer access, probably some money, more than a few clothes to wear, a way to clean them, food in the refrig and the cuboard.... that is just to start your Grateful list.
remember those who don't have those things, and if you don't know what it is like, try going to volunteer at a homeless shelter or something like that.

Nicer- treat others how you want to be treated in a positive manner.

Answer 5

If that's what you truly want, then you're on the right path. Many of us have been right where you are now. Despite how isolated and lonely you feel at the moment, you're breaking off with the old, limited you and becoming the person you are meant to be. In short, you're growing up. Congratulations, and this really is just one period in your life. Things you can do: Try to focus on doing something enjoyable that involves other people - like going to a movie with a friend or relative, to finding a volunteer job in a hospital or learning a new skill or sport. Take the focus off you. Think up questions you can ask people about their lives - prople love to talk about themselves and can be very interesting. And find someone to discuss your feelings with. Remind yourself that you're important to others and try to stop being so critical of yourself. I have that problem, too, and when the ugly names I call myself pop into my head, I quickly find something good about myself to counter that thought. Or I remind myself that I still working at change and I'll never be perfect. Good luck, and trust that you AREN'T alone.

Answer 6

Lock your self away in an Ivory tower and perhaps you may grow to be the subsequent Emily Dickinson. a week no longer plugged into the media and technologies won't exchange a rattling component approximately you, sorry to declare. Its too in need of a time. yet i think of its large which you rather decide to unfastened your self from that existence-kind although if its basically a week. Gender roles (what's what i think of you meant once you stated gender stereotypes) have been plenty greater ridged in cases till now technologies ran human existence and individuals have been plenty greater remoted then they're at present. with the point to respond to your question, no. This consistent bombardment of media etc has broadened appropriate gender roles, no longer constrained them

Answer 7

i think we're all an arrogant prick some way or another, but in your case it seems like this habit is causing some serious problems for you to the point of depression and pain?...
i wanted to offer advice, but i don't really understand or can relate to your situation, as for me the attitude is just for goofing around, it actually makes things more fun for the occasion...

i think as long as you don't hurt people's feeling and it's bringing fun to everyone else it should be alrite?... my advice is : just stop and be nicer?. But i think there are actually other issues in your life besides this factor that is "really" causing your unhappiness.. something bigger, those are the root cause of your problems and not this attitude... you need to find out what it is....goodluck.

Answer 8

I used to be like this. I don't know what I did but I think as time goes on you soon subconsciously go back to an equalibrium state.
I read self help books all the time and they helped me cope. Then came some very nice friends who stuck with me for a while, this helped a lot. Then came experience, you must go out and learn

Answer 9

I don't think you have to try to be nice. I think nice is always there inside - that capacity to reach out to others with empathy compassion and understanding. I think that we have to peel off the layers of defensiveness in your case assumed sarcasm cynicism and false pride. I think we have to look at why so defensive what hurt place is there inside that needs this much armoury to protect it.

For me I think I now know the extent of my vulnerability and can take care of it myself without blowing anyone else out of the water who comes near me.

I do think it is harder for men because of the socialisation to be the defender anyway. It is juts not good for social relationships to eb living a lie.

Answer 10

To love God is to obey Him (His 10 Commandments and application of His Bible teachings in your life) , and if you truely begin to love God you can genuinely love other people and yourself. If you do this, the light of Christ will grow in you and people will be drawn to you and begin to love you.

Guard ALL your thoughts ever so carefully. Fill it up with good and happy thoughts. Focus on positive things and good people and events.

Answer 11

hellooo maybe your hangin with the wrong people? take a closer look. I have plenty of negative mates around me. That's when I feel down the most. You will realise who makes you happy stay around the happy ones, it always helps me. Chin up take care.