2007-12-25 00:15:48 · 20 answers · asked by ~ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i know i'm gorgeous but control yourself
2007-12-25 00:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love over the internet... We have now been together, physically (I moved from America to the Czech Republic to be with her) for over 2 years and are planning our wedding. I couldn't be happier...
As to the question... It is not love that you have to question... It is the person you are in love with. The feelings are there, and they are real. Unfortunately, that feeling, of being in love, can be felt for many people as well as many things (I once felt it for a 1969 Camaro). You should meet the person, if they are willing. You should get to know then in person and see if they have been truthful with you. You should allow them to get to know you in the same way and for the same reasons. I don't care how long the internet relationship has gone on, there are bound to be things that didn't come up in internet conversation...
Above all, you need to remember... Love is not just a feeling. It is a decision; a choice; an act of your will and a commitment. It is not simply something you feel, it is something you do whether you feel it or not. The fact that many people don't believe this to be true, is evident enough by the high divorce rate...
Don't let people discourage you just because they have negative advice... Many people have had bad experiences. It is too easy to tell lies over the internet and portray something that is not real. But it is also easy to be yourself with a stranger online and tell them things that you would not tell anyone else... Just make sure that you know what kind of person you have been and what kind of person he or she has been. Make sure you know the truth and be cautious... And good luck
2007-12-25 01:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Geaux Ghoti 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
love is a true mystery: it is a wholly physical feeling, but we fall in love with the person, not their physical self.
you can meet the person through the internet - in fact it is in some ways easier to see the person when you don't have the distractors of their skin colour or their accent tinkering with your prejudices.
but it is only when you meet the person that you find out whether the internet presence was a carefully edited persona or the real thing.
i fell deeply in love with someone over the internet once. she was much more sceptical about the seriousness of our relationship than i was, but still willing to meet in person.
as soon as we saw each other we both knew it was the real thing.
so if it happens to you, be ready for a surprise - a surprise of either sort.
2007-12-25 00:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by synopsis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not possible to know for sure. I have been 'in love' via the internet many times. I guess the internet can open doors to a person's heart and true love can be found this way.
My advice to you is do not give up on this, but do be reasonable. Don't give anything but your time until you have truly met in person. If you are like me, it's likely to burn out after a while and you will be able to continue searching. As long as your online sweetheart is there, you will feel this way, but if you lose contact, you are likely to forget her within weeks.
((((hugs))))
I hope it pans out well for you.
Peace with you always
2007-12-25 00:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You may had moments when you felt completely understood and appreciated by each other but still the the loving gift of being fully present is far way different from just sitting in front of your computer to become a daily excellent listener. Its not bad to be attracted with each other yet to be fully present with the person you like deeply is not easy to accomplish. Not only do we have busy lives and lots to deal with every passing day, but we find it risky to open up and be fully known by another human being. Try to set up for you to have time with each other so you will know if there is really a spark within and besides it takes a lot of time before you can tell yourself that you really love her after spending time with her.
2007-12-25 01:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by beka1121 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can fall in love with anyone that seems nice in some way or the other.
Either she's a very cute girl (or boy for some) in outward appearance, or he/she really has a golden heart!
If you find someone like that, and notice you're getting feelings for this person, then you can test with microphone conversations, and webcam.
If time passes by, and you really more then like the person, and start to wonder if you love him/her, then let time pass over it.
Start dating, make appointments to see eachother for real.
ofcourse, be sure that it's not a perverse guy or something,
in the time you spend with that person (time is very much required) you are to find if that person i strustworthy, and if he/she has the same feelings as you!
when you're quite sure, then why not invite him/her over with some friends?
Introduce him/her to the family.
I did that with my wife, learned to know her over the internet, and spend a lot of time just talking with eachother.
we met several times, and then finally gotten maried,
but the start was internet.
Also God helped us through the hard times of our relationship.
so I have 3 advices:
1= GOD
2= TIME
3= CAUTION in the beginning
and 4: if things work out, just ask yourself the question if that person is a person you are willing to share your life with or not!
2007-12-25 00:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by ProDigit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you never fall in love over the net because what you get over the net you never get in person i dated this guy once an i truly loved him i had met him over the net an honestly deep down we did nt trust each other he taught i was after his money an that i was say i love you just to say it an at the end i just stop caring then all of a sudden he loved me but he only loved me for the thing i gave to him an i asked him you don't love me an he sweared up an down he did but there was always the lingering feeling that there was something wrong i could nt shake the feeling in the end i know he was just after money because he was telling me stupidness i have nt even done yet I'm like yeah OK example which is funny( honey i love the way me an you have sex they way you do it you the best) I'm like but i donut do anything NOTHING i just lay there so how the hell good the be me doing a good *** job if I'm not doing nothing second one he said was your the best cook if i never cooked for him waste 4 yrs
2007-12-25 00:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by camille462 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You Can't fall in love through the internet. You need to feel the anxiety, the excitement of meeting them in person.
2007-12-25 00:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't know it's true till you've met the person. Yes, I know, looks don't matter, but let's face it - they do. Plus a person can represent him/herself in the best light when online, but it's all those little things that we don't say but show with our actions that reveal the true personality. I would be careful if I were you. Meet that person first, don't rush into anything please.
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2007-12-25 00:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
you dont ever now (only if you meet)! i would never do it!!! examle: say you (a boy) fell in love with this so called abby. how do you know if its even a girl!!! it might be a girl but an old one!!!! seriously this so called "girl" might be a fake!!!!!!
if you are in this situation then get out of it very soon!!!!! if you know i friend that is in this situation then tell your friend to get out of it!!!
i feel like a camerical for some reason.
2007-12-25 00:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by kate y 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you've never actually seen or met the person in real life, it's probably wishful thinking, and you've probably just fallen in love with your image or idea of the online person....
People's online persona or personality and looks can be drastically different in real life....
2007-12-25 00:24:29 · answer #11 · answered by Dr. Facepalm 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋