how wrong am I??

Question

A week ago my dad had passed on & been muslim we did all things that were needed. I am the youngest of three sisters. My one sister has returned from Hajj today.

Thing is they been getting people to chat to & everything. I have been the one answering calls,opening & closing door & helping out in the kitchen because nobody else would do it & they did not know where things are in the kitchen. At this moment my dads brother is sitting with my older two sisters & chatting. I got told that they chatting & hinted to move away. Like I have no emotion. I may not be showing it due to been busy & doing everyones work.

THe uncle that I am closest too,I had asked him to chat & had waited for him. Just for him to tell me that he was leaving to go home & that. HE seen that I wanted to cry. Than he texted me in the car saying he will call when he gets home so told him to leave it it would not matter.

WHy is it that I am been left out to do this on my own right now? Or it seems that way

SO texted him to tell him Im sorry for troubling him & wanted to chat to him on thursday night. SO he called to say I should come to his house & we can chat. Told him would not want to trouble him at home & know his kids are going to be there & going to be in & out & they wont leave the room.

& also aint want to go to the house due to the reason it hurt even more when he pushed me away on thursday night & cant tell him that.

He says he can see I need to talk & wants to help. I feel its a bit to late

Answer 1

Firstly, allow me to express my sincere sorrow at your loss. I lost my Dad nearly five years ago and it is so emotionally stressful. I do understand because I had a similar role in the family and it was for about three months or more and then my sister jumped on me to top it off being very insensitive. I cried and had no comfort from anyone. So I feel for you. Look ... if your uncle missed an opportunity to help you when you desperately needed it, he probably did not realise as his own sorrow would have been great and probably caused him to miss your deep need. He seems a good person who wants to make himself available to you now. Go, see him, talk. You need this so badly. It is so hurtful, seek the comfort you need. I pray the Lord is kind to you and you will be comforted.

Take care and please rest in the knowledge you are being thought of and I wish you well.

Lisa

Answer 2

It is never to late to express your sorrow, when he comes to talk to you, you need to tell him how hurt you where by him pushing you aside. If you feel the need to talk, don't let someone else push you aside, or you will have such hard feelings for those people, and be recentful, which is another problem you don't need. When someone dies, this is when family should pull together, but as always some are selfish, and uncaring of others. When this is all over, you will have to deal with these feelings, head on, you also need to let your sisters know how hurtful they where, Do not let them popo this aside, because you have lost your father and this affected you the same as it affected them.