do you think your mother and father have been good parents for you?

Question

why and why not?what were their strong points and weak points in your eyes?

Answer 1

My parents were good parents overall. They weren't abusive or neglectful in any way. My mother did favor my older sister when we were kids, and still does. She tells me how I should raise my kids, and doesn't do the same to her. My father on the other hand, treated me like a daddy's girl. Still does too. They both treat all their grandkids equally, so that's good. So overall, I guess it's all good.

Answer 2

No. Both my parents are gone. I think they did the best they were able to under the circumstances. My regrets are that I could have done much better with my younger years and ended up doing something much more suited to my abilities rather than foundering around trying to figure out what to do. They should have been sure I went to college. If I had had better guidance, who knows where I would be now. But then, since you are the sum of all your experiences, I like exactly who I am now. The other regret is that I believe my mother and father had a big falling out when I was fairly young. I remember the difference in their relationship. I think they stayed together because it was expected and for the children. There wasn't any love between them and I think they were both very unhappy and unsatisfied with their lives. That certainly reflected on my sister and I and we both have problems with being openly affectionate and don't give affection easily. My brother-in-law used to complain about us being cold. I thought we were being extremely nice and not something I need to work on. I like being able to go hot or cold so that worked out too. Guess they did OK.

Answer 3

Oh, my, hitting the soft spots are you?

I think my parents, both as individuals and as a team, did some very good things with us, their children.

They also made mistakes or did things that I will always have trouble accepting. Some of the things they did or said or forced on us were things that I am sure they felt were important. Some were things or actions that I think were done because they, like me and you and everyone else, are imperfect.

Where they excelled was in teaching us to be thoughtful and considerate individuals, with good morals and a strong concept of ethical behavior. Where they were weakest was in the use of physical and emotional force as a corrective measure or means to exert control.

I love my parents very much and will miss them greatly when they are gone, which isn't likely to be very long now given their age and state of their health. And I understand how difficult it must have been for them at times with us, and me in particular, because we were not always ideal children.

I try to be a good parent to my son and apply the lessons I learned from my parents, both respecting what seems to me to be good parenting, and what I will never do as a parent.

Answer 4

yes
my dad was good he was always adventurous and still tried to see me and my brothers as much as he possibly could even after my mom and him got divorced. And he was always trying to get us to do trips together etc

and my mom has always been good by keeping her distance a bit and not being so strict or forcefull but advising me on what to do/not do without actually interfering much

it's been kind of weird though since I'm just living with my brothers, and possibly another roommate now(I'm 17) since she just got married and is living with her new husband, but that's good since it'll encourage me not to just live at home forever and to either go to college, or join some branch of the military.
I think the best part of their parenting has been that they've almost never actually forced me to do something, I experienced that once with the last person my mom married
point being shouting isn't always the answer

Answer 5

FATHER

Strong: Has aways supported me and loved me. Raised me to be a good person and to be thoughtful, et cetera.

Weak: Has not always been there for me (parents were divorced when I was 4, he wasn't around much for almost 14 years afterwards).

MOTHER

Strong: Loves me, is honest with me, was indirect in her rearing techniques but was effective in this way because she taught me to learn how to do some things on my own while incorporating what I had learned from her about being a good perso.

Weak: Sometimes was too involved with my younger siblings or with herself to help me.

Answer 6

I never knew my father. My mother and me still talk weekly. I would say she was ok to me. She wasn't an alcoholic or anything. I don't really know. I suppose the question is, why am I sitting here on Christmas?

Answer 7

Absolutely not. My father has been abusive my whole life, my mother does whatever my dad says and never makes decisions for herself. I honestly wish I had different parents.

Answer 8

My father told me off too much as a child so I don't really get along with him now.
My mother spoilt me too much so I'm still used to wanting my own way all the time

Answer 9

Overall NO.

and i'm not being mean. but their mistakes, paved the way for me to be a half ways decent parent with my son. on the other hand i still fall into the same pitfalls they did (hollering etc).

my parents were too old when they had me (so they claimed) to do anything with me, to take me anywhere etc. my mother was so wrapped up in herself, she din't know when i was sick, lonely hurt, bored etc.

my father worked and was tired when he came home. he never took us anywhere and never spent much time or money on us.

what i did get out of it: my son whose dad is 62 (son is 11), works alot to, but does try to spend quality time with our son. I put my son in lots of fun activities, and try to come up with new xmas traditions each year.

I listen to him, and talk straight to him, no bullshit (with exception of santa.. he still believes! lol)

i have very few good memories of my childhood. but when i see my son happy..it makes up for it.

here..have a star, it's xmas :)

Answer 10

Most definitely; they're the best. They may have their shortcomings and imperfections, but then again, everyone does. I consider myself very fortunate to have parents like them. I love them a lot. :D