Me and my boyfriend have been having problems and we had a breakup this holiday season like 3 days before christmas. I am really close with his family, infact closer with them that my own so i spent some time with them this christmas eve when he wasnt around and now i feel like i have lost them, lost him, my own parents told me to stay at a freakin womens shelter tonight (my parents suck) and I feel so alone. we shared a car which he took, i have no money and no job because it is seasonal. this is the most upsetting thing ever. i am all alone in our apartment that we shared by myself on christmas eve, alone and sad and wondering what the heck happened and most importanly what is my next move because right now I don't seem to have any options. Is there anyone out there in this big world that has any advice???
2007-12-24 19:26:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay sugarplum -- let's break this down
First off -- there is always the absolute "stun - zone" that happens right after a bomb blast goes off -- this is the height of confusion and lack of understanding or direction -- this will pass !! And, it is never as hopeless and without cure as it seems this close to the actual HIT !!
You've got some problems here.....but, you are bigger than them....and, you have far more going for you than it looks like right now..... I guarantee you !!
At the top of the list of things to get in line for yourself.... is a list of the assets that you have in your favor ---- first on this list should be friends that you have that can be of SOME help in whatever small way for the least of anything that they can offer --- next would be to get something going immediately in the income "thing" --- and, at beginnings....almost anything will do to get some "stablizing" cash started..... even if you have to ride the bus or "catch a ride" to get there and back !!
You can survive this thing -- and, in doing so.... you will be all the better for it all !! For this could easily be the launching of a brand new....more self-reliant and self assured and capable YOU !!
People all over the world --- are handed dang near impossible stuff every single day -- and survive -- YOU will as well --- just make the determination to make it happen --- set yourself in motion -- and, in no time you will be well on your way to making a brand new....and, more than likely....much better life FOR yourself in the process !!
God's Speed.... Good Luck.... and.... hang in... things always get better after the initial blast !!!
2007-12-24 19:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eunice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's tough and it sounds like your parents aren't overly supportive. I'm sorry to hear that. It's tough, and if you've been having troubles for a while now, maybe it's for the better? Just take things 1 step at a time here. I know you're grieving, but you don't have time to allow that to consume you just yet.
1) Find a place to live. Parents (I know), friends, extended family...
2) Find a job, even if it's a temporary job just to get you SOME income while you look for a better job. Use the money coming in to restart your life. Save up a little, help pay for your living expenses. Hopefully you can find a job with some benefits too.
3) Then I'd start worrying about a car. Don't over extend yourself, buy yourself something reliable and inexpensive.
4) Build up your credit and your bank account.
Once you get to step 3, you'll become more established. Time will have passed and the feeling shouldn't be as strong. The thing you HAVE GOT to make sure is that you don't allow yourself to get in a relationship out of sheer dependence. You need to establish yourself so you at least feel independent and capable of surviving on your own when you need to. Believe me, you'll feel better about yourself and it will keep you from getting locked into bad relationships.
2007-12-24 19:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really sounds bad. Wish I could invite you over to our dinner, spending Christmas in a situation like that is tough. Right now try getting a resume in order, there's sites online that can give you pointers. I know you're without a car but try to apply for as many jobs as you can. Take the first thing you can get just to have something. It's so much easier to find a job you like when you have one already. It'll take a little while but you'll be back on your feet again.
2007-12-24 19:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Stripe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All that I have is the advice to keep perservering, and know that all this crap you're going through right now will make you stronger tomorrow.
I wish I could tell you more, and give you concrete help, but I'm only young. :(
Even as an agnostic believer in God, you're in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
I hope your holidays get better, and that you continue to stay strong.
Do you have any friends you could stay with?
2007-12-24 19:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cinders 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust in your heart. Look at what happen that made you two break up? Yelling, fighting or any of that is not the answer. Take a minute to review what lead to this issue. Then make a plan of action.
2007-12-24 19:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by readyfor_you2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His family isn't yours, stay away from them unless invited.
Sounds like you got the apartment so i don"t know why you would go to a shelter
sharing a car with someone you aren"t married to doesn"t seem reasonable even if you don"t have a loan on it but if you do you need to have him refinance it into his own name so you are out of it
try to not do things to make your parents disrespect you
2007-12-24 19:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could give your relationship another chace but if that is not an option, try being friends. You could always try to find someone new.
Best of luck to you. Wish i could help futher.
2007-12-24 19:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by footballo777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋