I am getting married very soon. We have not "officially" set the date yet..but it will be within six months. I love my fiance VERY much..i love his mom and dad (even though they can be a pain) and his sister is great..most of the time..but sometimes she gets on my nerves. Little things that go along with planning a wedding she is driving me insane about..like i want to wear a tiara..she exclamed "you can NOT wear a tiara...you are not a queen or something.." and i HATE and i mean WITH PASSION i HAAATE white tuxs..and she is insisting (and trying to bring her mom my mom and my fiance into the argument) that he HAS to wear a white tux. Anyways..what do i do? we USED to get along great..she was one of my best friends..and now all the sudden she is acting SO childish and is becomeing a control freak.
2007-12-24 19:19:53 · 20 answers · asked by Blah:Blah:Blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sounds like she needs to receive a book on proper wedding etiquette as an anonymous gift. It is perfectly acceptable to wear a tiara, you are the queen of this show. And white tux's, YUCK!....... Sounds like she is very jealous......You didn't say how old she is, so I would take in account that first. Maybe she is trying to help, but you need to give her another project to concentrate on, Bridal Shower, place setting at reception, music to be played, who can watch the younger kids during the wedding.....There is plenty for her to do, beside critiquing your wedding. If all else fells, simply sit her down, tell her you love her, but this really is your day. And good or bad, you want it your way!!!!!!..........Best Wishes to you, and Good Luck.
2007-12-24 23:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by lynn_mcc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, its your wedding. You should be able to do what you want. She needs to step aside and let you do your wedding planning. If she really wants the guys to wear a white tux, then when she gets married she can do so. Honestly out of all the weddings I've been to, only 2 have had the groom wearing white. In those 2 cases, the groom was in the Navy. I'd say just let her know that you are listening when she tries to tell you how it should be and just say we'll see. Personally I think wearing a tiara would be pretty with the veil. The wedding is for the bride anyways, you should get what you want.
2007-12-25 11:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by stepht418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...first of all this your wedding and I wouldnt care if it was the Pope telling me I couldnt wear a tiara and the guys had to have white tuxs...i would tell him off...when its all said and done you and your H2B have to be the ones who are happy with everything. If your not happy than no one else will be either. But I do agree that letting your fiance talk to her is probably the best course of action.
2007-12-25 07:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her she can have white tux at HER wedding not YOURS. Alternatively tell her you will allow white tux if she allows you to decide what she is going to wear at HER wedding.
As for the tiara again YOUR wedding You will nnot interfere with HER wedding.
Set her very straight on that and things should be fine after about a week.
Stand firm otherwise she will also interfere in your marriage
2007-12-25 04:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is YOUR wedding NOT HERS. You decide if you want to wear a tiara and the guys wear black tuxedos. This is you special day, where you become a princess for the day, don't let her control it. Just sit her down and tell her nicely that you have dreamt of this day and want it to be the way you have imagined it and that includes a tiara and black tuxedos. And if she still has a problem then tell her she doesn't have to come if she doesn't like the way it will turn out.
2007-12-25 03:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sharksblade 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because you were close, she felt like she has a saying in this. Remember that this is YOUR DAY and it doesn't matter what people say, you should do whatever you want,
I think you should talk to her and set limits, and tell her how you feel, and thank her for trying to be helpful, sometimes you are gonna need her opinion, but when you have made your mind, she should respect that decision and stop trying to convince people to do the opposite.
Maybe you can give her a chore to do, like a small project to focus on and leave you alone, in that way she would feel part of it.
Good luck!
2007-12-25 09:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by ahmoce1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless she is paying for the wedding, it's not up to her what color your fiance wears. You and he can decide all that. Same thing with the tiara. It sounds like she's desperate to be involved in the wedding planning. Why not let her have something to do? Like, let her be in charge of something....something simple and not major....like colors. Let her be in charge of the wedding favors or something like that. Maybe she feels left out.....I don't know. The only thing you can do is to tell her that it's your wedding and you can have things the way you want them and when she gets married, she can have things the way she wants them.
2007-12-25 03:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL i love your effort to be polite. I would just be polite about it once or twice then just yell at her until she cried, and i wouldnt even feel bad about it. Some people just do not listen. You can tell her thousands of times that you want this and that and its your wedding but she might keep at it. I would just tell her nothing, or flat out ignore her, until the urge to slap her came in which case i WOULD tell her off.... unless she is paying a big portion of the wedding, then i would tell her that of course tiaras are wrong, and wear one anyways.
2007-12-25 07:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by FunkyMonkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy to me....wear your tiara as they are very much in style as of late and as for the tux...Grey a nice light color..They blow out of my shop...This is your wedding not hers so tell her she will play by your rules....If you come up against a dress issue with her tell her what I tell all my other brides to say. You can be in charge of the guest book....Works every time. Tell her you don't need the drama.
2007-12-25 03:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be pretty blunt in saying something like "This is my wedding not yours. My sweety and I are the ones who are going to make the decisions of what we want. When it comes time for your wedding then you can make your own. Until then, but out." Then leaving her crying and kicking in her room. Personally I would leave her out of all of the conversations.
By the way you could take all of these responses and post them where she could see them and let her see herself in the mirror.
2007-12-25 12:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋