My nephew recently got kicked out of his home by his parents because they found out that he robbed a house and is doing drugs. He dropped out of school and he came to me for help. He used to be a good kid and I think he's just hanging out with the wrong crowd and that's why he started getting into trouble. I want to let him stay with me in my apartment but I'm afraid of what he might do to me. So far he's been nice and I really don't think he would hurt me, but sometimes I get scared of him. I really feel sorry for him cause our family has abandoned him. I think he really needs someone right now to help him get straight again. He's been sleeping in his friend's car. What should I do?
2007-12-24 18:57:44 · 9 answers · asked by HAPPY FEET 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't let him stay in your house because he might rob you one day. Try to get him some help for his drug addiction and help him as much as you can but don't be too lenient.
2007-12-24 19:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you can still help him without him in your home. I don't know, I suppose it all depends on how safe or unsafe you feel with him there. I know that if I had a guy that has had trouble with burglary and drugs, that I wouldn't want him in my house even if he was my nephew. But maybe you could still help him in other ways, by telling him how you care for him and that you think he's a good guy and you want to see him succeed in making the right choices.
2007-12-25 04:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by wonderboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL . . if you talk to him and let him know how you feel . . . he may turn this to his advantage.
This is going to sound harsh, but it's completely true: he got himself in this mess, let him figure out how to clean it up.
The big problem with many youths these days is there is always someone there to bail them out. There are always reduced or *NO* consequences.
So he has to live in a car for a while. I've had to do worse. It is a humbling experience, but one that demonstrates the reality and consequences of your actions.
Also think of the parents, they kicked him out for a REASON. To teach him a lesson, and the lesson is very clearly defined: you do not get our support from us by doing drugs and stealing.
Is it your place to undermine this lesson by giving him a place to crash?
You can offer support, maybe give him a little cash to get over for a night, but send him on his way.
2007-12-25 03:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
We are supposed to love our enemies and do good to those who persecute us. We are also supposed to both love and fear God. Can you really love someone you fear? Christians believe you can love someone you hate. You do this by an act of Love overriding any hostile emotion. So I guess you could do the same for a boy you are afraid of. If you can find it in your heart to do some good will deed for this boy then I say it is meet to do so. After all it is Christmas and forgiveness is the root of Christianity.
I don't even know whether you are Christian but it is a good way of living, good mental health. peace and LOVE! Happy Christmas!!
2007-12-25 04:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can love him and encourage him and help him to re-build his life but I don't think you should let him live with you.
Encourage him into independance - even if it means that you help to pay some rent for him until he can get back on his feet. You sound like a fantastic aunt. I hope he realises how lucky he is to have you.
2007-12-25 03:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are afriad of him, get him out of there. then you can help him from a safe distance.
its like when a zoo keeper has to go after a escaped bear. sure he wants to help the bear, but he is smart enough to stay a safe distance and use proper technique while helping because he is AFRAID of being attacked by the bear.
2007-12-25 03:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny U 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really needs somebody. Try to talk to him about how you feel. Maybe you are what he needs to get his life on track. If you decide to let him stay with you then you need to set some rules down. If he can't handle them then obviously he doesn't care about straightening out. Keep your doors locked when he's there if you decide to let him stay. Good luck.
2007-12-25 03:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mommyx2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has to move into rehab. The friends he has control him to much now. You need to be careful about letting him get in the door.
2007-12-25 03:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
did he do anything to his parents? if not i wouldn't worry. I would be nice to him & allow him to open up to you so he has someone to talk to. many times, kids feel like they are misunderstood and have no one to talk to. once you gain his trust, he will respect and will not hurt you.
all the best
2007-12-25 03:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋