My nephew recently got kicked out of his home by his parents because they found out that he robbed a house and is doing drugs. He dropped out of school and he came to me for help. He used to be a good kid and I think he's just hanging out with the wrong crowd and that's why he started getting into trouble. I want to let him stay with me in my apartment but I'm afraid of what he might do to me. So far he's been nice and I really don't think he would hurt me, but sometimes I get scared of him. I really feel sorry for him cause our family has abandoned him. I think he really needs someone right now to help him get straight again. He's been sleeping in his friend's car. What should I do?
2007-12-24 18:56:13 · 7 answers · asked by HAPPY FEET 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are taking a big risk. If he robbed a house, he should be arrested. Jail is probably the best place for him right now. You legally cannot shelter someone who you know has committed a crime. If it's a drug problem, he'll eventually rip you off too.
2007-12-24 19:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn,t. Whats to help? he,s doing drugs,stealing.If no one else could help,then what makes you think you can do any different,don,t fall for that crap.he,s using you. he only came to you because he needed a place to live. nobody abandoned him,he made his bed and if you feel afraid of him sometimes,I,de say you should be.if he,s allready living with you,good luck getting rid of him,cause the moment you tell him to leave,thats when you can start being afraid. So if he did rob a house and you know it and want to get rid of him,turn him in, and change your locks.
2007-12-25 04:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by AnnaFrazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you cannot. my brother has lived on the streets off and on over the years. we will not hear from him for several years then we'll find him again. i've tried helping him in so many ways, he is so crude and doesn't know how to behave and it diffcult to have around for long. we are all afraid of him also. but we cannot change the way he is. so i have come to accept that even though i provide a cell phone for him, there 's really little else i can do for him. so i'd say no you cannot take care of someone you are afraid of.
2007-12-25 03:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by itsjustme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOW him love and respect and he will show you the same.
Tell him you want to have family nights.
1-He plans and cooks a meal:You may need to buy what he wants to cook but it will be a way for you 2 to get close so he won't betray you.
2-Give him chores and maybe reward him with a small gift or allowance.
3- Have movie night just the 2 of you.
Basically I think the boy needs to be wanted.
Adults do not understand...TEENS have SO much going on.
Not like in the 70's when we could still walk outside and not be afraid.
They have to deal with Gangs, sex, homework is so much, friends that are not really friends but take advantage of one another.
AS a mentor of teens...I see it all.
Don't show FEAR. He is a little on edge also. In the back of his mind he doesn't want to be homeless again.
THUMBS UP to YOU AUNTIE for being there for him.
2007-12-25 03:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Girl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do nothing loving someone sometimes means you don't give them what you want to give them.
You know he broke his parent's hearts but they knew he needed to be out of their home. He is on drugs and needs to want to be off of them. Allowing him to live indoors and eat will mean he won't seek treatment.
Only help when he helps himself. After he cleans himself up and wants to try live again you can step in and offer some help.
I had something like that happen in my marriage. 17 years of marriage and he started drinking again, he was violent and I couldn't stay married to him. I still cared about him but had to protect myself. A couple of years later he went to treatment and had to start over with nothing. I helped him get some furniture and set established in a new life. I didn't want him back then I had moved on but I still cared about him and wished him well.
2007-12-25 03:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope u must help him...as sometimes if do something wrong and still nyone trust u....thn u can't harm d person....if u r really not to bad (basically).....but plz have precausion...gud luck..take care
2007-12-25 03:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sweety 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you are scared of him, try and find him a homeless
shelter.
2007-12-25 03:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋