My dad is a great dad, and always does what is the best choice for the family at the time.
But, ever since I was little, sometimes my dad would get really upset over nothing, and throw things. It makes me so angry and upset at him, at how he can lose his temper over nothing, and flip out at me.
Like, today, he freaked out since I didn't hear the phone ringing (I was blow-drying my hair), and he was playing his XBox360. So, he took one of the phones and threw it into my room, smashing it instantly. Then, he started to yell at me.
Everytime something like this happens, I'm upset, but stay positive. I don't want to let his anger get to me, and make me upset either. But, I hate how he can just tug me around like this too.
How can I fix this?
2007-12-24 18:53:52 · 7 answers · asked by Cinders 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whenever I talk to him about this, he says that it's my fault he gets angry; and that if I did what he said to do, he wouldn't break things.
2007-12-24 19:08:42 · update #1
These issues are at random things. Not anything I could prevent.
2007-12-24 19:14:44 · update #2
Did you bring this to his attention? When the two of you are having a good time is the best time to bring it up and maybe that'll help.
2007-12-24 18:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jurrassikk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. OF course he is a great dad. It's just that when he blow up... I see my children's dad in your dad. I am somewhat a helpless wife. My husband so often blow up on me and kids. I am trying to tell him by using his life circle to give him examples, and ask him if he how he would feel, if he would like this to happen, and say I love you, but I don't like to be treated this way, and likewise you in that situation.
He might have childhood issues, or burdens, stress over the years. He has expectations on you. Communication is always the key. You may think you can't be loved by your dad if you mess up. Try to let him understand you. I hope it's not too late. I hope your dad can try to be you one day and really feel the way you have been treated. tell him you how you want to be loved. Try to ask him about things that bothers him emotionally. Together from there find the root problem in his heart. He is bothered with things over the years that he doesn't even realized himself.
Hope you will have a quality time that brings healing between you two. Write e-mail to him and tell him only how you feel. And mention you love him in it so that you want him to know that you care about this. When he comes to you angry. Hold a mouthful of water, try not to talk back. Then next time go to your e-mail and write him again how you are hurt. He cares about you whole lot. You are more important than anything to him. If he cares, he will read, then he will kown, then he might try.
2007-12-25 03:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by wawa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with him and tell him exactly what you said here. It sounds like he has and anger management problem, and needs some help forming strategies for dealing with it. Maybe if you calmly talk to him when he is not angry it will help him to recognise the problem and motivate him to get some help. At the very least, he will realise what he is doing and how it hurt you when he does it.
2007-12-25 03:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by doc h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has some anger management issues and needs to grow up in this area of his life, tell him how much you love him and then email this question to him, and let him know that he is a great dad in all other ways except this one
2007-12-25 03:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple, Till now you must be knowing and aware of what situation makes him crazy. Just do not allow to happen it when ever he is with you or in the home.
GOD bless you.
2007-12-25 03:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by mak 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
then go ahead and get pregnant and see what he does i tried
2007-12-25 03:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by 0811 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him about it, tell him how you feel.
2007-12-25 03:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋