please help me! i found out i got played today!?

Question

i was with this guy for 2 months, he started talking to me telling me how pretty i am blah, he came and visit me like 2-3 days a week,BUT today i just found out he has a gf!! she called me because i texted him telling him to come over and she had his phone and called me! she told me they were together for 2 years!!!!!!wtf he told me before we were going out that his last relationship ended 6 months ago! and he had no feelings for that person!!! so after she found out, they were obviously together tonight because i was texting him and called him and it took him awhile to reply, he did reply but when she was out of the room,he said he was sorry!! i feel like **** really, i always get hurt in relationships! its like guys see me as a easy target! he told me he will call me tommorow, and i dont know wat to say?? but my question is why would he do this to me????and what should i tell him on the phone tommorrow? were 19 by the way

he was with his gf tonight that is why he told me that he would call me back later, she had his phone

Answer 1

From now on you pick the guy instead of waiting for some jerk to pick you. Don't feel like a target again.
You did nothing wrong but trust him. Which is what normal people do.... It's a risk we all take.

He on the other hand took advantage of that. He just wanted to satisfy he's ego and feel like a bad a$$. He only cares about him self and you are lucky to have found out now and not when it may have been to late.

Just be more careful next time. Take your time before you let your heart loose. Get to know their friends, about what they want in life, if they like the same things as you, etc..
Good Luck, you will find your true Love when you least expect it.

Answer 2

Tell him how much he hurt you and to take a hike. No more contact. Find someone who knows the meaning of commitment. If he is messing around on her, he will do the same if he is with you. There are two kinds of people. There are the ones who are secure and mature enough to know that their pleasure is not more important than some other persons pain. Then there is the other kind that need constant reassurance that they are desirable to other people. They don't consider that it might shatter someone or hurt them. They just can't be happy with one person because they constantly need to be validated. It doesn't matter how old or what gender these people are, although some people do change with life experience it usually takes loosing someone that they really care about before they can change. You have to choose to only give your time to the first kind of person and make it known that you will have no tolerance for two-timers and stick to the rule in order to be happy. Imagine how the other girl must feel. Two years of not knowing what was true and what was lies. He has made you both feel like total fools and tomorrow he's going to tell you the same stuff that he is going to tell her.

Answer 3

Well, listen to his side of the story, but be prepared to tell him to hit the road, because it really does not look like he is a truthful man, and if he is willing to lie and cheat on one girl, he will keep up the pattern, turn around and do the same again.

As for the future, perhaps you could try being friends with a guy first, for several months, so you really get to know him before you start dating. That way you find out more about what he is really like before getting hurt.

Answer 4

LET HIM GO. Honestly, I would have never texted him bak after i found out and if he couldnt talk in front of her, he couldnt talk 2 me 2morrow or any otha day. If they was 2getha he obviously lied 2 her so he jus gone lie 2 u 2ma. Its gn be christmas and dont nobody have time 2 play his games so he can take that "mess" and feed it 2 tha dogs. U r 19 years old and its bout time u start lookin 4 a man. Not jus sumbody u can get caught up in lies wit. U dont need him and his drama and u dont deserve 2 be his "other woman" cuz if u cant be tha 1 and only, then u dont need him. And ima go head and tell u dont believe them lies he tell u 2ma cuz he gone tell u plenty of them and like i said, u can c he lied 2 her 2 cuz she was rite bak wit him. And watch him say he told her tha truth about yal or sumthan stupid. Dont believe him. Dont even waste yo time on his phone call. Save yo minutes and if u aint got prepaid save yo battery and if u got a house phone...save power or sumthan lol

Answer 5

Dont talk to him. Get him out of your life. You seem to like him, but if you do end up dating him, he will probably do the same thing to you that he did to his gf. Dont be the other chick and to be the girl who will ruin sum1's relationship just coz u like the guy. He's treating you and his gf like ****. I feel sorry for his gf, two years is longer than 2 months. Tell him where to go!

Answer 6

Take this as a lesson learned. If you don't want guys looking at you as an "easy target", then stop being one. Keep your guard up and don't be so trusting of men in the beginning. Trust your gut if something doesn't feel right. When he calls (or IF he calls I should say), tell him he's busted. Tell him you talked to his girl, and that you no longer want contact with him. Do you really want to be with someone who is unfaithful to another girl after 2 years of being together? Even if they split up, stay away from him, he's a total loser. If he'll do it to her, he'll do it to you too.

Answer 7

Just ignore the fool. He's a coward. My bet is that he won't call you- don't count on it. I was played by a guy not too long ago. Once I figured it out, I stopped calling and giving him attention. Now, he is still calling me, and we have friendly chat once in awhile, but frankly, I can't stand talking to him, knowing what kind of person he is. You deserve better than this!

Answer 8

First of all you did nothing wrong. He is the one that lied. What is there to talk about? He is a liar and now you know. Move it don't waste your time listening to him try to lie his way out of it. He is not your husband and you haven't made any committments to him. How can you believe anything that comes out of his mouth now. Don't fall for it.

Answer 9

guys just suck and dont no the meaning of a true relationship...when he calls u 2moro tell him its over and then tell him y, and just hang up. dont even give him time 2 make up a lame *** excuse. if hes gonna act like that hes not worth it

Answer 10

Move on....be thankful that it's only been 2 months and not 2 years.