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Okay... well my boyfriend of 17 (almost 18) really wants to have sex with me. And lately... i've been wanting it too. We're sexually active.. and stuff. But i feel like i might go overboard, and i feel like don't want to and do at the same time.

I don't want to for the obvious reasons, like no pregnancy or sexual translated diseases. Also because i'm afraid it could be the only thing he likes me for, and eventually leave me. I want to give my virginity to the man i marry.

What can i do to stop myself?

2007-12-24 18:08:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Sexual activity a.k.a meaning the type that doesn't involve intercourse? Like dryhumping.

2007-12-24 18:48:41 · update #1

28 answers

....Keep reminding yourself of the reasons why u ain't ready...and of the benefits in the long run. If he loves you, he'll be patient and understanding and will respect ur desire to wait. It'll be hard but keep your head up and hang in there.

Goodluck...

2007-12-24 18:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tinnie Cutie 4 · 0 0

Don't let yourself go far enough where you know you won't be able to say no like oral most ppl can't stop there if they really like the person they are with.

Also you are good to wait until marriage especially in todays society and I applaud you for it and know it is not easy I am 27 and still trying to wait til marriage it's not easy but can be done. I just tell myself no it won't happen before I go on a date with someone when it may end up there, try it just tell yourself NO before you hang out with him and it will be much easier to tell him no.

If he breaks up with you for it, yes it will hurt and you may even feel regret but in the long run it will be better, also just imagine the look on your husbands face when you tell him you waited for him, it will be the best gift you could ever give him, I just hope he is doing the same for you as you deserve the best

2007-12-25 02:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by jchanman33 4 · 0 0

Tell him your position. If he continues, then he really is only there for the sex. It is natural for you to want it, it is a part of the human genetic code and the purpose of all living things - to reproduce and continue the species. You simply have to remind yourself, every day, that you are saving yourself. Even nright a note to leave in your wallet, not a specific one, just general terms that only you will understand. It will be hard, yes, but if you really don't want to I'm sure you won't. Educate yourself in the mean time. I don't mean rely on school, speak to your parents, and ask them to help you safely research it online. Speak to your biology teacher privately. You don't have to be alone.

2007-12-25 02:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Sounds like you need to bargain with him. #1, no sex before marraige,#2 no personal contact without a chaperone until the marraige date.#3, get birth control. If it's agreed, then he's your guy. At least he will know what to expect and not feel like you're messing with him. Otherwise, just get birth control and go for it. He might leave you anyway. In the bargain, you have more of a guarantee.

2007-12-25 02:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

Say no. Don't put yourself into a position that may lead to going overboard. Group date. Chances are, this is not the man you will marry. If he gets upset that you don't want to take the relationship further, then he doesn't respect you or your choices.

2007-12-25 02:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

o.k if he likes you for you he will stop asking you to do it if not dump his *** fast cause he has one thing on his mind. getting in you pants. honey you are 16 wait you want your first time to be special and that's wit your husband. remember once you lost it you can't get it back. be smart think before you open a can of worms...................save your self for someone you love you will know when the time is right. its not now cause. if you think that's how you can keep him let him go he not the one. that's the only reason you want to do it because you think you will keep him wrong sister sex will not keep a man better yet in you situation a little boy. leave him alone and run it he running game on you

2007-12-25 02:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by ladibuggs917 2 · 0 0

Well you said your sexually active already which means your not going to be saving it for the man you marry... But just tell your man that you think you may have moved to fast and need to slow it down a bit.

2007-12-25 02:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Andrews 4 · 3 1

Well put ur foot down, and see if he's cool about it and ya if you guys are playing with a lighter in a dark field make sure you rember who has control over how far you go. Cause to far ur just teasing him and waiting to burn down that field of those dreams.

2007-12-25 02:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nate B. 2 · 0 0

Just think how bad it would be if you did get pregnant or even worse get an STD like herpes which you'll have the rest of your life. He won't be the first guy you meet in your life, so wait on it for now.

2007-12-25 02:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Stripe 6 · 0 0

well to start tell him how you feel. then go and talk to your parents. ask them what they think and how to stop it. talking to your parents might be a little difficult but in the long run you will be glad you did. they are the only ones who really know what is right for you. hope i helped!!

2007-12-25 02:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥JuJu 2 · 0 0

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