I'm very serious.
I encumber an unyielding feeling of guilt every time I look at girls who aren't in the vicinity of my college.
It's basically like, should guys like me feel guilty when we look at girls that we know are (much?) younger than we are, and think "You know, she's not bad" et cetera.
I can't help but feel like a creep when I see a girl who's 17 or whatever and mentally recognize her physical attractiveness.
I know some people think this question is stupid, but seriously, I do wonder.
I mean I know thinking and doing are two different things. I would never do anything with any of these girls. But is talking to them in a friendly context also kind of wrong?
Assuage my insecurities, or rightly shoot me down! Help! :(
2007-12-24 17:29:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm does this delete what I previously wrote?
Great advice so far guys, I actually feel much better.
This was meant to be a general question. I mean it was provoked by my presence at a high school basketball game. I had to write a story for my job.
And these attractive, but freaking high-school girls, kept walking right in front of me or standing in front of me. And I felt very awkward and such.
That was really the inspiration behind this question.
I'm not a creep, I don't hit on younger girls, and I've never been with a girl in any way, shape, or form who wasn't almost my age or over 18.
For the record, although I know no one was really trying to insinuate I was, based on the posts.
2007-12-24 17:41:49 · update #1
Maybe those girls just wanted attention, or thought I was cute? I don't know...haha.
2007-12-24 17:43:58 · update #2
It's normal to find females of any age attractive and desirable as long as you don't act on these urges. Look but don't touch.
2007-12-24 21:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to always date younger girls. I dated a 16 year old when I was 20 and a 17 year old girl when I was 24. If they are mature and you mesh well together, why not? You just can't have sex until they are 18 in most states b/c it's against the law.
2007-12-25 01:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 is not bad actually. She is almost of age and I personally would see nothing wrong with a 21 year old and a 17 year old dating. Now if the girls you are looking at are 14 then I see a problem.
2007-12-25 01:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with finding younger girls attractive. However the issue at hand is that they are underaged, therefore you should not get at them in a sexual way period. When they become of age then its legally okay.
Besides, you are 21, you aren't that much older than a 17-18 year old.
2007-12-25 01:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by SeXySoApYbUbBlEs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong to get with them. Little girls are growing up real quick and looking a lot older now days so i dont think you shouldnt feel guilty for getting physically attracted to one of them.Where I do think you cross the line is if you know the gurl is young and you continue to feel attracted to her. You have to keep in mind, that could be one of your daughters one day. Would you want an older guy checking her out at such a young age? Think about it. Its just wrong.
Talking to them in a friendly context is wrong when your attracted to the younger girl. So dont talk to a younger girl if you feel some sort of attraction towards her. Get yourself a pretty gurl your age. There is plenty out there...
2007-12-25 01:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by babe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 21 and I have a gf who's 17~
Well, just stay clean~
And dont fall for her too much
coz she's gonna grow up and break your heart...
There will be a lot of pressure from your friends who keep calling you a creep or sth. Some of my friends always do that and sometimes it bothers me a lot. I would tell you its very stressful to be a bf of a 17 year old girl while you're 21. They're not mature, they're insecure, they're growing up but not yet grown up, they're not too young but they are young. Sometimes I feel like I'm her dad or sth because sometimes she just dunno how to think for herself. There are just so many troubles that comes with it. I have been with her for 2 years now... its alright~ But she has been growing up a lot (mentally) lately, things are getting out of hand~
2007-12-25 01:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by landzai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 isn't THAT far from 21. Now, if you were 40 and thinking this way, or even 30, yeah I'd think you were a creep. If you said you looked at chicks who you knew were like 13, 14, 15, yeah, I'd say you were creepy. But you're not. So relax, it's OK to look.
2007-12-25 01:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can still be friends with them. There's nothing that wrong with it. And 21 to 17 is a smaller difference than you think.
Only 4 years.
2007-12-25 01:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Pingu Head 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oih you are talking about a 17 year old i mean possibly you would be dating this girl with no issues if both of you were older as in she is 18 you are 22 -_-
give yourself a break.
and i think the girl above me is just a bit jealous from the younger generations
2007-12-25 01:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not bad. its only natural. Dont listen to curly. Shes a retard. 17 year olds are not babies. She sounds like a bitter old woman to me. Besides I want to have sex with girls who are attractive physically. I couldsnt give two shits. whether thier brain is developed or not. I know most guys think the same but they wont admit it.
2007-12-25 01:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋