Is this fair of my mom to do?? I don't think so! Help!!?

Question

Last year my mom (wrongly) accused me of taking and losing her digital camer which i did not.. well she kept on insisting that i lost her camera even though i knew i did not. in the end she told me to buy her a new camera and if she ever found her old camera she would give me the camera that i bought for her and my money back.. Well it turns out she DID find her camera but she lost the one i bought her!! To make Shi*t worse she will not give me money back after she wrongly accused me of losing her camera which i didnt!! What do you think i deserve or how to make her give me my money?? Everytime i mention it she gets an annoyed look in her face and always gets out of it.. making me feel like im just annoying. I wouldn't be asking her for my money back if i had a job right now but i got laid off and i have no types of money and i have been wanting a mp3 player since i didnt get a christmas gift :'(

oh and merry christmas =]

Answer 1

Well, I think a deal is a deal and she should stick to her end of it. There may be more to this story than you are telling though.

Answer 2

Well it doesn't look like your mom is able to admit that she was wrong. While I think the first answer raises a good point about whether or not you are living rent free and if your mom puts out more than the cost of the camera for your living expenses, I think it misses the point of keeping your word and the consequences of falsely accusing somebody of an act they did not commit.

You and your mother had a deal that if the old camera was ever found, she would return the new camera. When the old camera was found, your mother did not live up to her end of the deal because she couldn't. She had already lost the new camera.

Honestly it is not fair but I think you will have to write off the camera. You may want to encourage your mother to make an appointment with her doctor. Loosing items and then accusing others of taking them, could be a sign of an illness. She may realize that something is wrong but is in denial which is why she won't live up to her end of the bargain.

Answer 3

Do you still live in your Mom's house? Are you paying her rent at market price? Then sorry, your mom doesn't really have to be fair, does she?

If you're on your own -- well, I would write off the camera and consider it payback for services rendered. And I'd never borrow anything from Mom again.

You can't control other people. You can only control your own actions and responses. Most of the time.

Answer 4

If she won't give you your money back, why not ask her if she'll buy you a few items you want until it equals the same price as the camera that you bought her? That way you get what you want by her "paying" you back.

Answer 5

your mom was wrong of accusing u especially if she was'nt sure that u lost her camera.she ought to stick to the agreement n give u your money back.but u know its hard for parents to admit to mistakes they make with regard to their kids,so u should give her some time to think over it and if u really need the money then u should let her know in a suttle way .GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Sounds like she can't admit that she's wrong. I think the best thing for you to do is have a sit-down talk with her. Maybe she just needs to hear your side of the story and how you're feeling.

Answer 7

your mom is one of millions of people out there who a) can't admit whey they are wrong, and b) refuse to apologize.

i'm sorry she's like that.

i hope you have a happy holiday and that you will get your own camera sometime in the near future.

take care.

Answer 8

dont worry, i havent gotten christmas girfts for the past two years T_T sit her down and tell her that you really need that money. tell her like you mean it but dont start an argument or a fight or anything.