here's the situation.Im try my best to make a long story short.
Im 23 and my girl is 20.we been together for a year and 3 months.She has my name tatooed on her back.She had a hard life,mom died when she was young and her father was abusive.She has a godmother though that she considers her mother and her family.
Her fam didnt like me for a while cuz I never came and seen them before.They used to say negative stuff.But now they realize that my girl really loves me and now they said they still willing to meet me.My girl said that they never said they didnt like me,they was just mad cuz I aint come see them.She spoke 2 her godmother and she said that she asked was I coming with her to see them on christmas?
Im really nervous cuz I never met a girl family before.Im afraid I might say the wrong things and I dont wanna look stupid or anything.would it be a good idea to go or should I just wait a lil longer to see them
2007-12-24 16:39:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should go. It will show maturity. Just be calm, and polite.
2007-12-24 16:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by j_teether 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITLY go see them. Ive been with my guy for almost 3 years and had the SAME EXACT problem. Im the only girl out of 3 boys so my dads a little overprotective. But he got over it, because he wanted to meet my family and see what I live with everyday. The godmother will see that she has someone that cares enough about her to come meet the people that are important to her!! especially if her mother died and her father isnt in her life it will show she has someone good in her life. definitly dont wait.that would be a great xmas present and it will make her happy 2 :)
2007-12-25 00:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by DiAMOND♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been over a year, so yes, you need to meet them. Putting it off for any longer just makes you seem disrespectful. If they are good people, they'll treat you the way you'd expect to be treated. I'm sure her godmother wouldn't have asked if you were coming if she didn't want you to be there. Don't be nervous, just suck it up for a few hours. You'll be fine. After all is said and done you'll think God that was easy, I should have met them a lot sooner! Good luck and happy holidays!
2007-12-25 00:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A twenty three-year old should be made of sterner stuff. You might want to get the godmother's phone number and ask her if you can come? This is more of a etiquette exercise; it makes the godmother feel good that you took the time out to ask her rather than just show up. Bring a nice dessert (baklava is good) in a nicely-wrapped box and be yourself.
2007-12-25 00:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a future with this girl you better go and get it over with. Just sit back and observe. If you don't say much you won't say the wrong thing. See how they are maybe you'll enjoy yourself. Most of the time we worry about something and it turns out just fine. Besides this is the best time of year to meet someone your not sure about because people have the spirit of Christmas in them. Good Luck!
2007-12-25 00:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by n8turfreek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD IDEA GO GO GO............
If you dont go they will take it as negative and probably think you are avoiding them, just go there, relax have a nice time and do everything you can to let them know that you love your girlfriend and that your willing to become more involved in her family now. Just explain to them that you were nervous before, and try and smile and be jokey as you can it will earn you brownie points, hope you have a nice time and it all goes well, take care and merry xmas
-Renegade Ronnie (all the way from the UK lol)
2007-12-25 00:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Renegade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "Go". You've been together for a while and you should meet them.
Advice:
-Don't speak until spoken to
-Stay Calm
-Think before you speak (Its ok if you're a little slow on words)
-parents are never strict and are normally lenient on there kin and partners.
2007-12-25 00:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mike R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to meet the family if you want your relationship to be healthy. My BF's parents do not think I am good enough for him. They are pollite to me in public, but I know they worry I am like his ex-wife.
2007-12-25 00:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go be polite bring the family a little gift & you do great!
2007-12-25 00:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Brooklyn Baller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since meeting them would solve all your problems, yes, you should meet them.
2007-12-25 00:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋