One day he will be an amazing boyfriend....the most amazing boyfriend a guy could be.....and the next he will have his cell phone turned off so noone can reach him and he wont care that we haven't talked in days. He thinks that people are constantly against him, he is insecure and slightly paranoid, always thinks low of himself....but then gets extremely hyper and active. I love this guy, but his mood changes get me depressed and then once I am feeling stable about the relationship it gets me depressed again bc of his moods. What do I do?
2007-12-24 16:25:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, he should take medication for mood swings. Then all you should do is be there for him.
2007-12-24 16:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good call on your part to make the observation that you did. I think you need to pick a time and talk to him about his mood swings, and tell him, without a whole lot of drama or emotion, but just a matter-of-fact voice, that you have a very strong sense that he is bipolar. There ARE meds for that. But he can't be helped unless he seeks it out.
However, you are in for a rough time of it whether he is bipolar or not. Better think very seriously about whether you want to continue this pattern, because it is not going to go away - what you see is what will be. It would be a kindness to tell him that you think he is bipolar - but do you think it is a kindness to >yourself< to make a constant sacrifice to be with him through ups and downs?
2007-12-25 00:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. My bf is bipolar, which scared the hell out of me at first because my mom is bipolar & I know how bad it can get. I almost decided not to go out with him because of it, but we talked a lot about his symptoms & medications. He has it as under control as it can be & when things happen, it's just something I have to deal with. Being with him the rest of the time makes it worth it.
I'd advise you to educate yourself, learn about bipolar, medications & chemistry. Make sure he's recieving treatment & keeping up with his meds.
It is a big thing to handle, & if you can't, it's okay. You can & should walk away. I wish you well.
2007-12-25 01:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would have to say to break up with this guy. But make your move over time. Give him the hints that say "We're breaking up". Don't just blurt it out like a loud speaker at a hostage situation. Make him have the idea that it's going to happen. That's when you break up with him, alone. And don't just say the "Lets just be friends line". Say something more than that. Defiantly put this guy down easily.
2007-12-25 00:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mike R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think mine is too. You should e-mail me
2007-12-25 01:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋