Ok, I don't live with my Mom and Stepdad. I live in CA with my dad while my mom & stepdad live in IA. I came to visit and I've been seeing him look at a lot of Nude Pictures and Chatting with girls, he always acts like some girl on myspace faking to be her. I talked to one of the girls because I stole the s/n of his computer while he was showing me something and I talked to her and stuff and told her that it was really a 50 year old man an stuff. She gave me all his information and stuff. Email Adress and His Page. Etc. I asked my aunt what to do and she said I should tell my mom. I feel very bad telling my mom this is her 4rd Marriage and she always ends up in the wrong mens hand. I mean he's a great guy just not what he's doing. Also, he got fired as a Social Worker for making others feel uncomfortable and having porno on his phone. My mom knows but he says they made it up. I dont know what to do, I feel very bad having to tell my mom. I dont want her to get hurt.
2007-12-24 16:06:22 · 8 answers · asked by Lilly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would tell your mom, the husband obviously has an addiction to the internet, this regardless If she finds out on her own, or if you tell her.
I would tell her, your mom shouldn't have to be humiliated like that. That's awful.
Your mom seems to be a little quick to jump into a marriage. She should really stop marrying people so fast.
I think she is creating her own misery, but for all you know she already knows and can't do anything about it. you can only yell and scream and demand so much, eventually you get tired of it, and either leave or just deal with it.....
And of course he will try to lie about the whole thing and try to turn it around on you....
I would tell her...... and she should leave him.
2007-12-24 16:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that knowledge is power. You therefore have the power to hurt your Mom. Is that what you want to do? If this is her 4th husband that means she has a habit of picking losers. So, if you tell her the truth, and hurt her, odds are that she's just going to pick another loser. So, what will anybody gain from it all besides a major upheaval in your lives. If he is only cybercheating, and not real life cheating then at least he won't be bringing home some dreadful disease to your Mom. Maybe the next guy would cheat in real life, and that could be worse. It's not right for him to cybercheat, but you should ask yourself that famous Ann Landers question "will she be better off with him or without him"??
2007-12-25 00:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by nachtmann2 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
im sorry about that situation but you do need to tell your mom. if she finds out whats been going on on her own and then she finds out you knew, shes gonna be even more hurt than if you just tell her now. if hes going to be doing stuff like that, then you and your mom are both better off without him in your life. he will just hurt your mom. tell her as gently as possible and be there if she needs you. be prepared for her to be angry. she probably isnt going to want to hear that about her husband, especially if if its a story shes heard in the past. listen to your aunt and talk to your mom. its up to you to decide, but you may want to take your aunt with you for support for both you and your mom. you may want to keep the conversation just between the two of you, but whatever you do, its not a conversation to have, say, at the dinner table with your whole family.
but before you tlk to her, you may want to speak with your stepdad and see what he has to say for himself.
good luck and i really hope it all works out.
2007-12-25 01:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by nac_chic2013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mom. Give her the proof. Tell her you love her, and you're sorry that she can't find the right man. Tell her you can't doubt he's a great man, but he's just not doing the right thing. She is hurt, so you can't stop that.
2007-12-25 00:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Confront him about it.
2. ask him if he recognizes any wrong-doing. Is he remorseful?
3. have him tell his wife, your mother.
4. help him by finding a place where he can go for help.
Sounds easy... only if he really loves his wife and is willing to work things out for good.
If he is not willing to change then help your mom to get out fast!!!
2007-12-25 01:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by catmandingo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a very tough situation. it's really none of your business to interfere in your mom's married life, but on the other hand, you want to protect her, and i do understand that.
do what you think is best. i'm not sure what i'd do, either.
2007-12-25 01:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that on the PC and he lied to her about why he was fired?
You need to present the facts to her and then let her decide what to do about it!
2007-12-25 01:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by onlyme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you answered your own question in your question. Read what you wrote, only you know whats right. listen to your heart, theres nothing else you can dooo. listen to your heart, before you tell him goodbye
2007-12-25 00:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by valeryeeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋