I don't know, maybe it was my parents who instilled this in me as they continued to reject dating and any guy that gave me a 2nd look unless *they* picked him out, but now that i'm all alone, i feel that maybe I should be nicer to someone that checks me out by smiling or something? I just feel that i'm sorta very specific and no guy would work out unless it was *the* guy (i come from an arab family that doesnt really emphasize dating but just first time marriages at a kinda young age) and then i kinda dismiss him....
but i do want to get to know someone. i mean for me, all growing up done in america, it's hard to find someone that isn't so 'traditional' but still knows my background. then again maybe because i'm silently rejecting ppl before i even say hello, this is hurting any chances i would have had? i mean i dont want to be a ho but at the same time being lonely sucks.
2007-12-24 16:03:47 · 10 answers · asked by sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You definitely need to be more open. Getting to know people on a friends basis will really help you. Even if it's more *girl* friends to start, because they will know guys. Once you have more guy friends, you can go out with them for fun, just to get to know them. In this way you will unconsciously not block them out, you will start to see things in them, and hopefully find traits you like. Everyone has some sort of stereotype of what guy they think they must have, even without their parents there to guide them. I even still have it, you will have to work hard to get past it because you were raised all of your life towards your behavior now. You need to mold it in your favor. You will always think someone is *not good enough* or *too good to try* so fool yourself, make friends with them, get their email or something, have a couple drinks, dance even. You never know what may surprise you.
2007-12-24 16:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the time I was young, I was never interested in anyone but "the guy" I developed a crush on. So I liked the one guy I liked and if anyone else didn't like me, I didn't pay attention to them.
The result was that I didn't date all that much to be honest. There were times when I was lonely, but now I look back on those times as a time in my life when I was becoming who I am today, developing my own character and interests, etc.
Even when I had a crush on a man who is my husband now, he didn't immediately return my feelings, and I had other offers of people who wanted to date me. There was one person in particular I was sort of interested in dating, but I decided to see if things were going to work out with my crush (now my husband) first.
Anyway, my point is that I think it's ok to wait until you find someone you are truly interested in and not just date anyone because you are lonely. Too many people get into or stay in relationships they don't really want to be in because they were never dating the right person to begin with.
Stay true to yourself.
2007-12-25 00:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are like that. When I was younger, I was too but realized I had to be open. You still have that in your mind because of the way your were raised.
Find someone that you know will make you happy and will love you for who you are. Look beyond one's culture, if they are willing to look beyond yours. See the person for who they are and not what.
Oh yeah , practice makes perfect, these changes won't occur overnight.
Once you change your ways , then things will start to fall in place for you
2007-12-25 00:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you are lonely, stay single. if somebody impresses you enough to get a date with you that is somebody you could have a relationship with. do not settle cause you think you are being to dismissive!
2007-12-25 00:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by The misses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Ithink you should be a tad bit nicer.
You never know what might happen.
2007-12-25 00:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Zyra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, get to know people that wouldnt being a ho you cant judge the book by its cover
how would you know, maybe he is *the* guy
2007-12-25 00:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i reject others constantly because i usually have my mind on someone else, who either ignores/rejects me, or is in a relationship. it sucks because i always end up alone.
2007-12-25 00:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people make that mistake. I would just stop listening to your parents, and be your own person.
2007-12-25 00:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! and you are ususlly passing the best person for you
2007-12-25 00:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by shajones41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes lt has happened
2007-12-25 00:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by pamela d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋