As you can see, I never really went to church. I went to church once and that's because we had to go so we could do my grandfather's funeral. But when I was 11 or 12, I was going to give my virginity up to my first boyfriend or the first person who asked. Then a song called "S.E.X" by Lyfe Jennings came out. Its message was to think about it before you give your virginity away. But I'm not going to give myself when I get married. I'm going to give myself to someone who loves and respects me. But it is just weird. Most of my friends are non-virgins and they were just like me. They gave up theirs when to their first boyfriend or to the first cute guy that ask. But when I decided to do the same thing, that song came out. Now all my friends regret it. Was that a message from him? Even though I don't think I was baptized, he really cares about me?
2007-12-24 15:54:17 · 27 answers · asked by Deniece 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
lol.. Thanks a lot! :)
2007-12-24 15:57:52 · update #1
That's not the point though! You didn't even answer my question! Yes, I know that was stupid, but was Jesus or God sending me a message to keep my virgintiy?
2007-12-24 16:00:58 · update #2
God works in mysterious ways.
2007-12-25 07:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a "sign" from God to know that He wants you to keep your virginity until you get married. He wrote a book, The Bible". In His book He says that He wants everyone to keep their virginity until they get married.
I don't if God was sending you a sign. Sometimes He does send signs like that but you always have to check to see what the Bible says. Something may feel like a sign but our imagination can play tricks on us.
Yes, God loves you very much whether you were baptized or not. You are one of His children and despite what 1 person wrote, He knows everything you think and do and will often answer your prayers if they are for good things.
God bless you.
2007-12-25 01:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus sent that message to you a long time ago. Your virginity has a much higher value to it than you or of coarse your first boy friend think. Your boyfriend will say something like if you love me, you will do this. Or if you dont, I'll dump you. What ever it will be, believe me, he wont be thinking of your welfare at all. Just bragging rights. Respect has nothing to do with it. Is that all it takes? Someone saying "I respect You" now lets do it. All he has to do is put on the right act.
If you think that God is sending you a message to keep your virginity, then you should honor Him by waiting untill marriage. Dont allow yourself to loose something that represents virtue to you. And by the way, once you give it to him, it will always be expected as if they own it now and not you. Remember you are the one who gives it away.
2007-12-25 00:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it was good you waited. Seeing that your friends regret it now is an even stronger sign that it was the right thing to do. God gives us signs in many things and many things are just the wisdom we already have speaking back to us.
I can't really say if what you had was from God, because I just don't know. But you did the right thing. Maybe its a sign to just look closer at what God has to say for your life.
2007-12-25 00:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Trin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God cares very much about you. His plan is that sex is saved for marriage, but more than that He loves YOU and wants you to accept His free gift of salvation and to become His child. He cares about what happens to you and what you do, but I think your heart is what's most important to Him.
If you want to know if God wants you to remain a virgin until marriage, you can look in the Bible. It says clearly that sex outside of marriage is a sin. I don't recommend it myself because it's something that causes an emotional bond with the person you are with, and you can end up with so much emotional damage as a result of giving yourself away too soon. And if a guy really does love and respect you, then he won't pressure you for sex without committing himself to you.
2007-12-25 00:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by BekaJoy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No dear, it's not god. It's your intuition. Because subconsciously you felt like you weren't ready for this yet, and when the song came on, you were aligned with your gut feeling. Good going though. Give yourself more credit and learn how to develop your instinct.
2007-12-25 00:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lunachit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore that first response to your question.
God already has written you an entire book of what the right and pleasing way is, the Bible.
i am sure God uses things to get our attention though.
so about your virginity, when you are my age, if you just give yourself away you will regret it. i am 27. i had my rebelious years, turned from God and did have premarital sex, many times, only to be left with a hole in my heart...young women hope the boys who they give themselves will soon cherish and love them, becuase they are intimate with them...but the oposit is true. if a guy sleeps with a girl, he is using her. sure he might think she is hot, cool, or fun, but not in love...true love respects and takes "no" as an answer.
you do have a choice, know that. but if i could go back i would definetly not have slept around or at all, until i had a wedding ring, because i know now, that i am worth that. one man, one woman, how perfect does that sound?
keep your head up....if you dont think guys are just out to use you, repost a new question about the intentions of guys, or young guys.
and, yes, God cares about you. He wants you to come to him, its your move, read the Bible, the book of john is a good starter spot.
email me if you wish :)
Lisa
2007-12-25 00:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by SunnyBeaches 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's coincidence.
Why would god love you and not your friends?
It would be sick if he picked who he would help.
I think you have bad parents if you were going to
have sex at such a young age.
Do you live in a bad area?
I think you should wait until you finish your education
and know what contraception is so you don't have to
raise kids in a bad area like your poor mum.
2007-12-25 00:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jesusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it was, but you made the right decision not to give in to pressure, think of your future, finishing school and going to college should be your priorities. If a guy really respects ytou, he will understand....P.S. 11 and 12? You were just a baby!
2007-12-25 00:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Montesa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes! and beside common sense tells us that too! If you lose your virginity; you loses everything as far as to the man you are supposed to reserve for.
Guard it and never ever give it up until that day; or else your marriage will be a failure even before it ever started!
2007-12-25 00:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋