How do i stop......For friends and family idk how please help?

Question

I have been cutting myself for almost 4 or 5 years now and idk how to stop i have tryed telling people how i feel writting and much more things but i just can seem to stop even my friends dont make me gulity enough tostop it and my little cousins see the marks and ask me i almost cry but i hold it in and say it there cat scratched but there getting older and smarted....and they wont take the cats as a answer pretty soon also my dad :( he found out and idk what to do the only reson i had stoped for a little while was becuase he didnt know knwo he dose and i dont care i have somuch going on....but other than cutting i dont feel safe talking to anything i want to be a trong person and when i talk it just makes me cry i cant even look my dad in the eyes anymore much less almost anybody else and im almost always depressed idk what to do

Answer 1

You need to find someone to talk to. In my opinion (and because I used to do it) cutting is a coping mechanism, albeit a faulty one. It makes you feel better temporarily, but it's solving nothing. As you know, too, you will have to look at your scars the rest of your life. You need to deal with your problems and feelings directly. As long as you continue to avoid them, you will continue to feel the need to hurt yourself to feel better. Please tell your family. I'm sure they love you and will want to help. Take care of yourself!

Answer 2

Holding in your emotions might be part of what makes you want to cut. People have to let their emotions out somehow, and with you, you've learned to do it by cutting, but cutting is just one alternative to expressing emotion - you can try other ways to deal with emotion - just experiment. Maybe grab a pillow and yell into it as loud as you can, or any other thing you can think of besides cutting..

If you are ready to burst into tears at any minute, you are definitely going to have to find some way to let off steam - that's just the way our bodies work.

The next time you see your dad and feel like you are going to burst into tears - let it all go - don't hold anything back. Tell him you need his help. He may not know exactly how to help you, but having him on your side is sooo much better than hiding from him because you feel guilty.

Here's some links that might be helpful. You can talk with other cutters and get some ides and support.

Answer 3

Don't feel guilty or alone because of your cutting. Cutting is more common among others than you may realize-and also at the same time a very serious condition. I was recently admitted to a behavioral health hospital(some people refer to these hospitals as psych wards-whatever-they are the crazy ones). During a group session with other patients a young girl experienced cutting. I was educated through her explanation for her actions she said "cutting provided a release from within-it allowed a feeling of release of inner tension; worries and depression". I never had an understanding of cutting but that made since to me. I on the other hand took pills to escape from my inner feelings of turmoil. If your family or friends can't offer understaning and assitance for you to get help; possibly you could talk to a medical doctor who could refer you to appropriate professional help. You are not alone, many individuals suffer from various mental disorders; just as many suffer physical diseases. Don't hesitate or be ashamed to ask for help-help is out there.

Answer 4

Brianna,
I work at a psychiatric hospital, and have worked with many people such as yourself. And believe me when I tell you, you need to seek help ASAP. I do not know you or your circumstances, but I have personally seen girls on their 18 th birthday come to a hospital and stay there for many years.
You are not alone in the world, there are many people who look for a release by cutting themselves. My question to you is, Do you know exactly why you do it? And if so that is where you need to start.
You cannot do this alone though. You need support, and i do not want to see you end up in a hopeless situation, as I have seen so many times in the hospital i work at. You get in too deep and sometimes there is no backing out. You have to change for you. YOU have to want it. That my friend IS the only way you will overcome your cutting.
Seriously concerned.
ME

Answer 5

The first step is wanting to stop for yourself, not just family and friends. I'm sure they love you very much and whatever it is that is eating you alive you need to confront yourself and tell your dad or whoever it is you want to tell first that you are ready for help. One day you may not do it the way you used to and something will happen and is that really how you want it to be? Talk to your dad about it, it's probably killing him as much as it is you. No pun intended. But seriously sweetheart, you know it's hurting you, so take the initiative to get yourself professional help. It will be worth it I promise. Good Luck stay safe. Happy Holidays.



God bless!