I dont get it?

Question

i went to a bar this sat and everyone told me i looked pretty and sexy. well my crush did too except when he was really hammered he didnt even flirt with me once, he flirted with all the other coworkers (since we went out from work for a coworkers/friend b-day)anyway he was touchy with everyone, including some guys.and i know he is not bi or gay, he was not touchy with me, except when i arrived at the club, he said i looked pretty.he kept talking about how pretty my hair looked, and he hugged me, thats it,he asked if i wanted a shot and i said no, (iam not 21) iam 20, hes 25, he kept saying afterwards"arent you 19) like as if he wanted me to get kicked out, later when he was very hammered, he kept trying to get me jealous , with the girls i would be talking to , he would tell them how pretty they were and hugg them, ignoring me, at an after party he told me i have pretty hair but didnt like me cuz im weird,then he told this girl that was taking me home to make sure i get there safe

the people he was very friendly with that night he isnt normally with at work when hes sober,

i dont understand why he didnt even try to talk to me, please serious answers, whats your take on this?

how can he be nice behind my back, telling my friend to make sure i get home safe and be a mean to my face,?


he's cocky and hes 25 and again im 20 , read the question carefully answer the question, does he like me and is afraid to show it?

he got hurt before and said he would never love any girl again, i think he does have feelings for me but is too afraid he will rejected?

Answer 1

Yeah I think you might be right on that one. I think he does like you but just is not real sure if you like him or not. He may have been trying to make you jealous and see what kind of reaction you would have if he flirted with other women and ignored you some. Guys will do this as a way to see if the girl gets or acts upset to see if they like them. Also he maybe a little nervous if he has been hurt before. So he may like you but just does not want to get to close to fast out of fear he may get hurt again. Make sure he was really hurt in the past.. I say that because I have a friend who actually tells women he has been hurt before and all which makes them like him even more. Then he tells them at some point he is not ready for a serious relationship. That makes the women want him more. The next thing you know he is staying over at some woman's house and he sees her for a few weeks to a month then she tries to take the "relationship to the next level". Well there really is no relationship and he told them he was not wanting anything serious. They thought that by being good to him and loving with him and sleeping with him he would fall for them. They thought they would "mend his heart". Well all they did was fall into his trap he got what he wanted, sex, and that's all. They can't blame him I mean he told them he was not looking for a relationship. They thought it was because he had been "hurt" but it's because he just likes playing around. So you see what I mean by make sure he was really hurt in the past and is not just using that as a way to get women to feel for him. It sounds like he is giving you mixed signals and well, that's never good! He may also like you but not know how you feel about him. So he could have been doing this as a way to see how you'd react. Also the "make sure she get's home safe", yeah I have heard that as well. That could mean one of two things. One, that he really does care about you and that is his way of saying it and showing it. The other, well,..he knows your friend would tell you or that you would hear him saying it and you would think he cares about you. That way you would begin to think about him more and thing "gee, he is such a sweet guy, he cares about me". See what I mean, I'm sorry I know this does not really tell you one way or the other if he does or does not like you. The truth is without knowing him and seeing how he acts I really can't just from what you said. I mean I have said "please make sure she gets home safe", about women I have really cared for in the past. Yet I have heard guys say it as a way to gain the trust of another girl and or her friends. Yes, men can be @sses, I'm sorry but it's true. So I would be careful just take it slow to start out with. He could be a really nice guy and is just unsure of himself and unsure of how you feel. He may also be a Dick and is doing this as a way to make you think about him more and wonder about him. In which case it's working or you would not be asking this question. You see? I would just be nice to him, show him you like him more than other people, just don't fall for a trap. I mean nothing is worse than guys doing like what I said above only to get into bed with a woman. That makes all of us guys who are good, nice men look bad. That's why I hate it when guys use that 'I've been hurt" story when in reality it's just a line. Good luck, take it slow and just kinda feel him out. I hope this helped you some. =)

Answer 2

just leave him alone and make him work for it, because even if u DID get with him while he is like this he would drive u CRAZY, he needs to calm down and make up his mind