They fight so much and my dad constantly walks around the house in a grumpy, sad and dissapointed, whe I say constantlty I mean all the time I am not joking, he often says things like, I wish I didn't live here, you guys are pigs(me my sister my mom and brother) and not about my little twin brothers he always praises them, and how he's been looking for an apartment, and he has recently found one"for when he visits phoniex) and how he wishes he anywhere but here, and many hurtful things and lately I have started feeling so bad and hurt and sometimes like it's my fualt, I have started cutting myself, and have come close to an eating disorder, and so many other things,,,,what can I do? What should I do?
2007-12-24 15:13:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
also everytime he speaks even if it's something nice, it hurts and I feel really bad
2007-12-24 15:22:19 · update #1
my mom isn't inoccent either she's irresponisble and messy and never tells us where she is and my sister, brother and I have a huge feeling she's having an affair we had to move to mexico because she was deported
2007-12-24 15:57:34 · update #2
wow. you have alot on your plate. sometimes when parents arent happy in their lives (stress/pain/lack of confidence/hurt/feelings of failure...ect...) the take it out on their kids. its wrong, but its reality.
just know that you arent the problem, your the child, the innocent one. i dont know how old you are, but i know you probably will be moved out before too long.
if you understand that they have issues, and thats why they are treating you so bad, then you have power over their darts they fling at you. you can feel genuinly sorry for them, and protect your heart when you see that....they aret out to get you because it's you, but because its their issues.
and i will say. i have known not a closer friend than Jesus Christ. i have struggled in life with relationships and such and he has been there for me like nobody else. he has shown me things, i couldnt have seen without him...God is a good God!
let this struggle in your life allow you to seek your maker! Its your move.
email me if you like,
Lisa
27yr old
2007-12-24 16:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by SunnyBeaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting has a lot to do with it. However the student themselves have to be disciplined enough to do things on their own. You can stand over them 24/7. However the second you back is turned they are off like a flash of light. I can take the meanest, worst colt or filly in the world and within a matter of a 1/2 hour. I, can have them breathing easy, relaxed and ready to listen to a short schooling tip. Keep in mind. No kid gets up each day and says I want to be bad. If you can get to that kid first thing and start that day with some positive energy. You have just won. Teachers today have got to figure out how to do that.
2016-05-26 04:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your parents. Especially the timing of everything (the holidays). I know it is easy for me to say, but it is not your fault. You are finding unhealthy and temporary ways to cope with this challenge. You should not let your father's unhappiness effect you. You need to seek help immediately. I will pray for you now....I prayed for you to have peace and wisdom on how to handle this. You are to be strong for your siblings and be a support to your mom. Overall your family needs counseling. If they are not willing, do it for yourself. You have your whole life to live, please be good to yourself, you are special and valued. You are not a "pig", the name calling is immature and sounds like he is hurting or has already moved on and is trying to make the transition easier. Hang in there, you will make it! Think positive.
2007-12-24 15:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by charis99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL iam so sorry for you!
your dad is a big baby!
please talk to your mother and tell her that she needs to put your dad out!
dont cut yourself!
it isnt your fault!
please tell a school counciler or teacher.
plezzzz.
you guys deserve to be happy.
god loves you.
sounds as if your dad is very unhappy and doesnt like his own self & is taking it out on all of you.
i know u love him, right?
i know it hurts.
but if your mom doesnt have the courage to make him leave or leave....then see if you can go stay with a grandparent, aunt or something.
please be safe and try to have a merry christmas.
your dad and all of you needs counciling.
again iam so sorry.
but stop hiding this, tell another adult who can help.
2007-12-24 15:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by happy in nc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling guilty because your father is mad at his marital relation with your mother , but he is picking on you guys . Deep down your father knows you are not a fault ; you and neither your siblings Take care of yourself Seek the help of your sh cool counsellor
2007-12-24 16:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not at fault. Your father's unhappiness has nothing to do with you even though he may blame you for it. See if you can talk to him. "Dad, you are making me feel bad. Please stop." Talk to your counselor at school. Is there an aunt or grandmother you can confide in or perhaps even live with?
Cutting and starving yourself will only make the situation worse.
2007-12-24 15:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its time for you to go to your doctor and ask to see a what he can do for you. or call a help line
2007-12-24 15:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by ___ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋