Asked before, but im looking for as many honest opinions as possible... please take a few secs.. Should i just

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Should i just move on/ supress my feelings for this girl?
Her parents are way overprotective, to the point that her mom doesnt even like her talking to boys...Shes 18, for crying out loud! I really care about her, and when her parents arent around, we talk a lot, she looks/ smiles at me, we pick on each other, etc.. but when they're around, she'll barely talk to me, say like one thing, smile, and leave.. mostly this happens at church, and i cant really do much to make her stay/talk... She seems afraid of parental judgement, right? The times they're not around are great, because i can talk/hang out with her freely, and i really get to know her those times..thing is, those times are pretty rare, and few/far between. I'm about to give up, even though i like her a LOT. I start at her college in January...should i wait it out til then, or move on, even though thats the last thing i want to do..the fact that she doesnt (cant?) really converse a lot with me at church really just eats me up...

Oh, and I'll see her at ice skating Wednesday WITHOUT her parents. Should i tell her then how i feel, and give her ther necklace i bought for her, and the note i wrote (post about it if you want to know what it says) and risk losing the friendship, or just stop trying? =/

I do talk to the parents. I'm NOT a "bad guy", dont smoke, drink, do drugs, cuss, swear, not even loud/ obnoxious....I'm at a loss as to how to win them over.

They dont mind me at all, except when it comes to their daughter.

If you need more info, please tell me, I'll do whatever needed to get help.:P

Dont be idiots, please.. all I'm asking for is advice.

Shes not naive... If anything, her parents are. O_o

Right now, its more of a walk to forget...lol=P

"whoa dude you seem like you really like her, don't you?"

I really do. I've liked people before, but never like this.

Tood, Im not that kind of guy.

The day of overprotective parents obviously ISNT over, in case you missed my post. And, I dont want to do anything sexually/ explicit, just get to know her more, personally, w/o her parents controlling everything. I mean, sure, they have a right to be concerned, as all parents do...but ony to a certain point.

Tood, Im not that kind of guy.

The day of overprotective parents obviously ISNT over, in case you missed my post. And, I dont want to do anything sexually/ explicit, just get to know her more, personally, w/o her parents controlling everything. I mean, sure, they have a right to be concerned, as all parents do...but ony to a certain point.

If they say no, then it is time to figure out if she is worth waiting for

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She is. And, I like your suggestion, thanks.

illusion, if I'm such an "idiot" for asking for advice, what, exactly, does that make you for answering me?

to tell her parents (supposedly her best friends) how she feels about you and then force them to accept you.

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Actually, she resents her parents for the way they treat her, but while living with them, refuses to disobey them. Shes a good and honest person, and i really respect her..I'm willing to wait, but its driving me crazy.

Answer 1

Anyone worth having is worth waiting for. I know it seems hard but if YOU truly want her than hang in there that might be what her parents want to know, now if you give up that will say you only wanted you know what but if you wait you'll be saying a lot about your self without having to say a word. I say wait/stay if she wasn't worth it her parents wouldn't protect her like the jewel she is and today people seem to move to fast anyway; enjoy the time it takes to get to know her and her parents will respect you for it. This is a good learning experience for you...are you worth it?

Answer 2

Hot love soon cools. It is apparent you're ready to go to the next step and she is not.

My suggestion is that usually a woman will blast everything to smithereens if you "ring her bell." While she appears to express an interest in you she's certainly not interested enough to tell her parents (supposedly her best friends) how she feels about you and then force them to accept you.

I wouldn't want a woman who isn't willing to risk everything in order to be with me. Anything less is a future disaster in the making because someday she will meet that fellow she'll do anything for, and then she'll kick you to the curb. Find that woman now rather than the second or third time through the divorce courts. Trust me, she's out there someplace.

Answer 3

January is not that far off. You have about 1 1/2 weeks before college starts. If you go to her church and know her parents, why can't you talk to them and tell them you would like to ask their daughter out but you would like to come by the house so they can get to know you better, before you go anywhere. The direct approach is better than going behind their back, then they think you can't be trusted. If they say no, then it is time to figure out if she is worth waiting for, and if she is than let her know that you are going to ask a few people out, but will wait until she says that you shouldn't .

Answer 4

I know what this girl is going through, My mom is the same...and she tells me the same thing every time I bring it up..."She wants the best for me and she doesn't want anybody to hurt me, and she wants me to concentrate in college before I start thinking about boyfriends."
Thing is, you HAVE GOT TO TELL THE GIRL YOU LIKE HER!!!!!
YOU SIMPLY MUST!
Tell her you're willing to wait and tell her you're willing to talk to her parents and ask their permission, if that's what she needs to loosen up.
January is a week away, I'm sure that if you've waited this long, and truly do care about her, you can wait a couple more days.
Hang in there, fight for what you want!
I know, you like her, you cared enough to ask!
But, seriously you have to talk to her first and then, TOGETHER, you guys can work out the whole parent thing.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Since you've got the good guy image, you might just be the one to loosen up her perants a little bit. If they know the type of person you are and see who your behaviour they might just let you to take out their daughter. It's obvious that they're afraid of their daughter being mistreated by a boy, and your explanaition of youreslf quite fits the type of boy that they'll want for their daughter.Since you go to their church, and they probably see you there, you can find ways to make yourself more legitimate, and show them that you have no ill intentions. Remember that it's their daughter you like, and you enjoy her company.
Besides, You'll be going to her school and ther will be plenty of time to talk then. If you really like her, give it a shot.

Answer 6

If you are so wonderful, I cant imagine what would be wrong, I guess just that it is their little girl. Just keep proving to them that you are a good guy. I would say definitely go for it and give her the necklace, she will love it. Maybe consider talking to her parents about it. See what their problem is and if you can work it out. Well, hope I helped and Merry Christmas!

Answer 7

What it sounds like, seeming how the parents don't mind you until it comes to their daughter...they might want for her to concentrate on her studies before she tries to settle down and do the "grown-up" thing. I can completely understand that!! Maybe ask her about this when you have the chance, or even mention it to her parents. Now I don't mean walk up to them and say "hey I like your daughter can I talk to her" of whatever. Be non-chalant about it...good luck!!!

Answer 8

When you see her at the ice rink, I'd tell her how you're feeling. If nothing comes of it and she stays locked under her parent's controlling thumb, I would move on ESPECIALLY since you're going off to college. This reminds me of that movie A Walk to Remember. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

I think you should move on. You will put her in the situation of having to choose between you and her parents if you continue. And you may get more than you want. If they kick her out, she will look to move in with your family. She sounds very naive, which is not good for dating. It means she will fall in love and want a permanent relationship. Move on and let her be some other guy's problem along with her parents.

Answer 10

This almost "08 dude the day of over protective parenting is OVER. Get this girl out and show her a good time with or without her parents approval. If she likes you, she'll go. Catholic girls are the best!!!!