I have a situation in which I became close friends with a girl I worked with. We still are very good friends. I didn't have romantic interest in her at first, but then those feelings started to grow and now I want to be with her. We talk to each other a lot, but I think she only thinks of me as a friend. I couldn't make my intentions clear at first because I simply did not feel that way about her until almost a year ago. I still have not told her how I felt, and I don't know if I should. I think she will reject me and it will be so humiliating and I'll end up losing a friend as well. I think this always happens to guys who have female friends and then they feel something more. The guy simply cannot move the friendship into a relationship because the girl won't let it happen. Isn't this true for the most part?
2007-12-24 13:25:17 · 11 answers · asked by iridealone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are very good friends, even if she rejects you, she will probably still be your friend, as long as you don't act differently. But you'll never know unless you ask. And yes, you're screwed.
2007-12-24 13:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No not always.Often the girl ends up having those feelings too, she is just afraid to say too, or isnt sure how he feels.Why do you automatically assume you will be rejected.?She sees something wonderful in you to begin with if she wants to be you're best friend.For a start this situation is a good basis for any real relationship, where you have been best friends and then love develops...I think that most likely you would not be rejected, this is a male fear...and although understandable...most women already know this...she would let you down lovingly if she is indeed such a good friend...however if she wanted no romance, I still do not think she would want to loose you're friendship either, and she would still want your companionship...this has happned to me with a guy friend too...and we are such good friends...that the future holds such promise for us both...
2007-12-24 13:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Some girls crave a relationship where they feel safe with a friend, and she might feel the same way you do. Have you ever seen "When Harry Met Sally"? Just be subtle and try to figure out if she's interested in you that way. She might be.
2007-12-24 13:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of women everywhere. And there is no need for you to go after a high-risk relationship that's likely to end in a bad way for you.
Stay away from this girl and find someone else is what I suggest.
If you want to avoid getting screwed. Then avoid risky situations that are likely to end that way.
2007-12-24 13:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sometimes it's worth the risk, if you love the girl put yourself out there, tell her how you feel. Just because you tell her you have feelings for her does not necessarily mean you'll lose her friendship.
2007-12-24 13:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duh! It takes 2 to have a relationship.
When one party doesn't want to move the friendship into a relationship, obviously it doesn't happen for both;) Either the guy or the girl may NOT want it..I think it's 50/50...why would u say it's always the guy that gets sc_wed?
2007-12-24 13:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was in that same situation but instead the girl and i are still "friends" and i told the girl outright that i liked her but some guy who surpassed me in every way got to her first
2007-12-24 13:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Big Boss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common problem. The usual pattern is that she wont feel the same until he's gone.
2007-12-24 13:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to ask-Why go thru life wanting to share something if u don't know if you can?
2007-12-24 13:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋