Plus, you are from different social groups and people would criticize it? Do you feel like you are pushing someone away when you want to be with them? Have you ever rejected somebody who you cared about because you felt you would be criticized for it?
2007-12-24 13:09:50 · 20 answers · asked by person 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I choose to be with someone who chooses to be with me.
2007-12-24 13:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by SME 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been involved with someone who was very different, religion, politics, life goals, general disposition, but I wasn't really worried that I would be criticized for it. I was worried about the long term chances of survival.
Opposites do attract, but in the long run the best and most stable relationships form between people who are similar, there just isn't as much stress and disagreement.
2007-12-24 21:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. We were from completely different social circles, and it wasn't so much that I feared criticism, but I was afraid one of us would have to make drastic lifestyle changes, and that's just not fair. I was a single mom of 2 who wanted a white picket fence & a mini van, and he was a DJ who had a night-life lifestyle and desperately wanted to avoid picket fences & mini vans.
I'm completely happy with the decisions I made, but sometimes I wonder what life would be like if I had decided to be with him. I think we were together in a different life, because even though we're so different, there was a very strong bond.
2007-12-24 21:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by lee_anne301 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I have. The guy and I are not a couple, but I have a sense that it would never work about between us. My family wants me to date/involve myself with men who are of a certain social and professional circle, which is a high standard -- WAY higher than the guy I like :( --. I respect my parents for wanting the best for me, especially when it comes to dating and marriage, but I think that there is not difference between these classes. What makes an individual an "individual" is not the social class to which he or she belongs, but the personality and characteristics and beliefs that the person has.
If you love this person, and they love you, then you need to explain your insecurities to them, so that they know what is going on and both of you can work it out together. I already did that, and we seem to be OK with it -- except for the fam thing lol -- love is about sacrifice, and putting the person whom you supposedly love before you when it comes to the simplest and hardest decisions.
2007-12-24 21:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I want to work with a person who is not as dynamic as I am and inspire him for better results. And while I believe that we women are more understanding and more efficient at results than men, he believes that women are only typists. Thus from the core of our hearts we are so very different
2007-12-24 21:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by nave235jock086 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have! my husband we are so different. but if you really care for this person you would tell them how you feel about them and ask them do they feel the same-way don't not push them away. everyone gets rejected some times in there life that's life?
2007-12-24 21:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by bertram k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are comfortable with each other why do you care what other people think. I married a super sweet man and i always thought he was out of my league, but he never made me feel that way. i wouldn't trade our relationship for anything in the world. if you are happy with your special someone you should go for it. you could be missing the best thing in your life if you don't.
2007-12-24 21:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES. I liked this girl named Love but we were miles apart socially (plus she completely forgot who i was despite the fact that we work together) and then this girl named Amanda that i liked but some other guy beat me to her plus she was alot more popular than i was
2007-12-24 21:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Big Boss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to like this one guy, HE WAS SOOOOO CUTE! But there was only one problem. He was in a different social group, and didn't like me....so that sucked.
2007-12-24 21:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never done anything because of anybody's feelings except my own, but I've been on the receiving end of it when I was in high school and it stinks.
2007-12-24 21:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my gf and i use 2 b so differnent. but you have 2 make changes 4 those u love so i did and so happy i did 2 :)
2007-12-24 21:12:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋