I live with my boyfriend.... we are not engaged. He's said if I want a diamond I'm gonna have to buy it myself. So I told him me living there as a room- mate is fine with me.
His kids come over every weekend. Lately he's been getting mad when I leave on Sundays to go visit my family.
He says there's alot of work to be done around the house.. mostly laundry, cooking and entertaining while the kids are there.... and he needs help.
I work six days a week teaching and I like to get away from kids on my only day off during the week... besides, we agreed to a "room - mate level" relationship.
Why is he angry about this?
2007-12-24 12:21:35 · 19 answers · asked by Kaybee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys are going to go back and forth about this for a very long time. Don't you think it would be refreshing if you had it all out in the open?
Life is two short to play a game of words and forcing issues in round-about games. I'm speaking more toward what he is doing, but you are just making this a longer process by playing him at his own game.
Really, what you want is the truth. I say, just come out and ask him for it. Be prepared to take action based on what he really feels about the future of your relationship.
I pushed for the truth a couple of times not always get the answer I was hoping for but, I asked for the truth and I got it.
2007-12-24 12:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's mad 'cause he's a jerk!! he wants it all without the commitment. Sounds like he's looking for a free live in maid with benefits, and is controlling to boot. He should say nothing to you when you go visit your family. He can't have everything/have his cake and eat it too/there's no such thing as a free lunch/insert cliche here. You deserve better.
2007-12-24 20:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself enough to know when to move on. You need to leave this guy who neither appreciates you nor has any intention of marrying you.
Find yourself a real roommate and start dating again. You are an intelligent and worthwhile individual. Do not let this man use you.
He has already told you that you are not at wife level. What more do you need to hear?
2007-12-24 20:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by LovablyMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a wife w/o having an actual wife. So sorry you are going through this it sounds like you are being so reasonable and work hard. Why don't you tell him to help out a bit around the house, he is a big boy.
Oh and Alegria, I wouldnt be talking if i was you. : P
2007-12-24 20:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by roman_surf_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants his cake, and the ability to eat it too!! You guys need to have a sit down about where you are going...if you are just roommates, sharing bills, then there is no obligation for you to do all the housework and such, and there should be no reason for him to be angry when you want to enjoy your day off...just talk to him see where he wants it to go...and don't say you are not wife level....if he does not appreciate you, there is a man who will appreciate everything that you have to offer.
2007-12-24 20:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirlK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man, and he expects you to be there to take care of everyone's needs on your day off so that he doesn't have to. I suggest you sit down and divide the household duties fairly, since you are roommates, and post a duty list on when things are to be done and by whom.
2007-12-24 20:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an ****** who is trying to get as much milk as possible from his free cow. Dump this guy and get on with your life. Life's too short to wait for this guy to change his stripes. Remember, every day that you spend with him is another day that you can't be out meeting someone who will treat you right.
2007-12-24 20:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ivy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being selfish. They are HIS kids and he is trying to require your commitment while not giving anything back to you. Stand your ground and have a serious talk with him.
It is NOT your responsibility to cook and clean for HIS children, nor for him unless you share household responsibilities equally and these are your designated tasks while he does other things.
2007-12-24 20:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by life is good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants you to be a fill in step mom and baby sitter. Keep on doing what you are doing! He sounds like a jerk! Teach him a lesson!
2007-12-24 20:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you as a maid and a nanny. Your choice to leave or to stay. Why are you putting yourself in that situation anyway? You need to boost up your self-esteem ASAP.
2007-12-24 20:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Moi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋