My daughter is almost 3 and I dont want a 3 year old in diapers!! She just won't go. She likes being wet and having poop in her underwear and pee running down her legs I guess. And she likes her potty chair but she just plays with it and wont go on it. She also wont go on the regular potty. I have tried rewards and everything!! I give up. I even took a week off work to potty train her and it isnt working. I have to go back to work in 2 days. And I am tired of buying diapers! They are too expensive for me to keep buying.
2007-12-24 08:38:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
shes not ready put her in diapers and give it up for a few months
2007-12-24 08:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First make sure she is really ready (just because you are ready doesn't mean your daughter is). Does she know when she is about to go, does she exhibit any control and is she verbal enough to tell you? Some children are not ready until sometime after their third birthday. Once you rule out readiness as an issue, it is probably a power struggle. Your daughter knows this is important to you and she has found one of her few sources of power over you. You really can't win that battle. You just have to say "okay, you're not old enough yet" (which she won't like) and then stop making any effort to get her to use the potty. Just completely ignore it. Once she sees it no longer gets a reaction from you, holding out will lose its fun very quickly. After this point, you can start again with as little emotion as possible. Just say something like "let's see if you are old enough now." Soon enough she'll probably just do it. She likely doesn't really enjoy being wet and dirty and she won't want to feel like more of a baby then those around her. I know it's easier said than done, but calm and patience are what are needed. Good luck.
2007-12-24 08:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by AlphaBeta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an early childhood educator and we have a rule that the 3 year old should be potty trained. I am not a believer in the They are not ready yet theory unless there is a special needs issue.
My general rules are like this...I potty trained both my girls and scores of 3 year olds who were not trained in my class.
Bare Bottom- Let your child run around bare bottom, they can feel the urine coming thus control the stop and then run. The poop is the same way. Yes they may make a mess but their is nothing or no reason they can not pick up the mess. Buy some gloves put them on and then clean it up. Or you do the general cleaning put everything in a ziplock, they throw it away. (It took 1 week for both my girls and our neice using this method)
Every 30 minutes- Every 30 minutes they must go and sit on the potty and see what happens. yes it may inhibit mall shopping for a while but it is important.
NO PULLUPS- pullups are just a diaper in disguise. I just used them for trips away from home that can not be controlled. The grocery store or long trips.
Pretty Panties- Every little girl likes pretty things. Let her pick out her pretty panties and then make a really big deal about her wearing them and them staying dry. If she gets them wet, act really sad that the pretty panties got wet.
WAY TO GO- Make a HUGE DEAL about success. Have her call Grandma, Hug big time. Do the Potty crazy mommy dance.
Talk it out- When accidents happen, let her know you are a big girl now and Big Girls potty in the potty. Ask her where the potty should go, and then reiterate this over and over.
Be calm...no she won't be 15 in diapers and you will be successful....Keep it up and don't give up. If you stop now the next time she will think Oh we will just do this a week or two and then she will give up.
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2007-12-24 10:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Moose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children get potty trained when they are ready. You can't force it and the more you try the more your daughter will fight you on it. Put her back in diapers until she is ready. I promise she won't be 15 years old running around in Pampers. So relax and enjoy the milestones she's already achieved.
2007-12-24 09:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a suggestion dear; let her go join you during bath time, u do it together. then explain to her how important it is to be toilet trained and the sanitation. do this on regular basis for a few weeks, so she would realized the rules.
2007-12-24 09:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by yfort 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've heard from child psychologists and pediatricians that forced potty training can actually harm the process. My fear is that you may have tried too early and because she wasn't ready she is now defiant towards it. I've also heard that children feed a lot off of parents frustrations during potty training and if you let being upset show it can cause problems too. I haven't tried potty training yet since my son is too young. I would talk to your daughter's pediatrician and in the meantime accept the fate of buying pull ups. If you accept it then you at least won't be going nuts while you figure out how to make it happen. Don't stress and in time things will eventually work out.
2007-12-24 08:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will this help? http://pottytrainingmethod.blogspot.com/ All the best.
2007-12-24 08:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋