My fiance and I want to make our thank you cards now (wedding is in February) so that we will have them ready to send out and don't forget about them. Is their any specific wording we should use that would make us have to wait until after the wedding to make them, or could we just state something like "thank you for sharing this day with us." ?
2007-12-24 08:15:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We were going to have one ready for everyone we invited and then not send out the ones that don't come.
2007-12-24 08:15:47 · update #1
The only flaw I see in this plan is that you don't know what each person will be giving you as a gift. This is one of the two reasons you send thank you's...to thank them for sharing your day and to thank them for the gift.
So you can prepare the envelopes, etc, but you really can't write anything.
As for wording, it's pretty basic:
Tom and I want to thank you so much for sharing our special day with us. Your presence made it even more memorable. We truly appreciate the _______and will put it to good use.
Most Sincerely,
Tom and Dee
2007-12-24 08:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Thank you for sharing this day with us" Sounds great.
Send them out to those who have attended, whether they give a gift or not, as their presence should be the best and only present needed from them.
I personally am going to wait until after the wedding to address and send out TY cards, that way if they did get us a gift I will include that in my thank you.
2007-12-25 09:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wise to start the cards now. I like the wording you have as well and suggest you write it on the cards. However, do not sign the card yet! Instead, leave room in case you have to put something like "We love the toaster, too!" You can write this in after the wedding and then sign all the cards.
2007-12-24 11:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank you cards should be memorable and personal. If you need to start them then address them...but you should wait until you get a gift from your attendees so you can note what you received in the note.
2007-12-24 12:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by ilene m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Miss Manners disciple, I see several problems with this.
It is guest who send hosts a thank you, not the other way around. Host thank guests for coming when they arrive and again as they leave, and that is sufficient even for a very grand party. The guests then thank the hosts either by a handwritten message, by sending a gift, or both. So you are thanking people for gifts, not thanking them for letting you treat them to free food and free champagne.
The right way to thank people for gifts is by a message that is handwritten and personal. They may be written as letters or they may be written as notes on either formal or informal cards. (Informals are the ones with pictures on the front and blank inside.) Each one should address the giver by name, mention what the gift was and what you like about it. People who have been dashing off thank you notes all their lives write one a a minute flat.
"Dear Uncle Bill, You elegant/useful/unique/thoughtful gift of towels/silver/china/toaster has really added beauty/convenience/elegance to our kitchen/living room/patio. We have received many compliments. (We use it often. We show it off to everyone.) We're so glad you could attend and hope to see you again soon. Warm regard, Liz"
And BTW, Miss Manners isn't all about making your life hard. She suggests having friends and family pitch in and write some "on behalf of" thank you notes for you.
"Dear William Perry, David and Elizabeth asked me to convey their appreciation for the lovely china and tell you that it adds a really festive look to their breakfast table. They have received many compliments. They send their warm regard and look forward to seeing you again. Yours truly, Julia Alvarez (Elizabeth's sister)"
2007-12-24 12:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although admirable, I don't recommend it. It will come off as insincere if you don't mention the gift.
I suggest you take this down time to address the envelopes. That way all you have to do is say "Auntie Margaret - Thank you for the lovely dishes, vase, etc."
JMHO
2007-12-24 08:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Useful Idiot 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can't improve on your plan or wording. Congratulations.
2007-12-24 08:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I woud suggest to keep "thank you for sharing...." it is always well accepted
2007-12-24 08:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋