He's 22 and i'm 18. We both are college students. I broke up with him for too many reasons. He was selfish and wanted to be with his own friends most of the time. He never had time to spend with me. He didn't have respect either. I didn't get enough love and attention from him( i'm not ugly or fat at all. I'm 5.3 and 90 pounds and people tell me that i have beautiful face, i don't wanna be rude...that's what they say.) I was always nice to him and helped him alot at school and with his homework even though English is my second language. A lied to me about a few things. And i finally decided to leave him. I was tired of being nice all the time and get nothing( i mean love)..He didn't care about me. And he was sorry all the time but what was the point of being sorry?...I think i ended everything in a nice way..I text him" let's be freinds and have good holiday"..But now he doesn't act like i'm his friend...He acts like he doesn't know me at all. Or he doesn't see me. Why is that?
2007-12-24 07:49:41 · 27 answers · asked by Elena_Jolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are unwilling or unable to be friends with someone they've broken up with. I personally don't talk to any of my exes and don't want to. If he doesn't want to be friends with you, that's his choice and a text from you isn't going to change that.
2007-12-24 07:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by howlermonkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that being friends after you have been in a relationship with someone doesn't usually work out. It takes two VERY dedicated individuals to be friends after having a relationship. Look at all the divorced parents out there trying to keep it together "for the kids".. most of the time it doesn't work.
My guess is that if he is acting funny around you, its either because he has another girlfriend already or he doesn't want to totally break the ties from you. Maybe he just wants you around when its convenient for him? Sounds like you should move on and find someone that DESERVES you, cause it sounds like he don't deserve even the slightest thought from you.
2007-12-24 07:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by MrsDaleJr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf is the same way. fortunately however, i don't really care about Vday either so we'll probably just chill and cuddle on the couch. we're both starving college students too so presents are basically out of the question. he's not spontaneous and he probably doesn't even know when Vday is, lol. here's what i did though: i wrote a letter to him, not too mushy but just expressing that i appreciate him, and i said happy valentine's day in it. i sent it early enough so he will get it the day before Vday. this way, he will know about it and at least remember what day it is. i don't expect anything, but a reminder is always nice. also, writing a letter will make your bf feel like he needs to give you something. so i think it's too late for you to send it, but maybe drop it off at his house tomorrow or something if you decide to use the idea. good luck sweetheart, i know it's so tough to manipulate them just the right way, but they all need training. if you don't stay with him forever, then his future girlfriends will have to thank you for the positive changes you made in him :)
2016-05-26 03:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's always hard, especially right after a relationship to just be friends. I think that once you give it some time, you'll grow back as friends.
Especially for me, I had the same situation, and yes he was sorry and wanted to get back together with me. But I told him I wanted to be friends, but needed some time. And, that's what you should do. Because it's always going to be awkward in the first couple of weeks of breaking up.
2007-12-24 07:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a guy, and that's a pretty typical guy reaction. It's very, very hard to remain friends with somebody you dated. Either he really did like you and is upset that you broke up with him, or he never really liked you in the first place and doesn't care if he doesn't talk to you again. In any case, it's best to let him go. Cut your ties with him and start over. If he wants to be friends, let him come back to you. If he never comes back, don't worry about it. After all, you broke up with him. Hope this helps...
2007-12-24 07:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by alumni77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be friends with your ex-lover it will never work... Especially if it was a bad break up and you guys really loved each other... You just cant be friends, it is all or nothing, sorry honey. If you can just be friends with him then you never really loved him in the first place. Looks like he cared about you a little more than you cared for him...
2007-12-24 07:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in person may have been a better way to do it. I'd say you caught him off guard, and he doesn't know what to do, so he is ignoring you. Showing no feeling is a way of protecting himself from being hurt.
Time will heal. It usually does.
I agree with the person who said it's hard to be friends after breaking up.
2007-12-24 07:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by windybreeze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you totally dissed the guy! He won't be your friend, You should be ok with that. It sounds like he is a jerk who isn't worth your time. Go out and fine the hottest nicest guy and date him. Don't settle for less than you deserve. There is always someone better. Especially at 18 and in college!
2007-12-24 07:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mmgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't break up with someone through a text message....sometimes it's hard being friends with someone that you care about. OR he's just acting raunchy because he's selfish.
2007-12-24 07:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's often quite difficult for people to be friends after they have broken up. Maybe he still cares for you and it bothers him to be around you when he can't have a romantic relationship with you. Or maybe he is too embarrassed that you broke up with him.
2007-12-24 07:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋