How can i fit in with new people?

Question

Hi, i just turned 18, but the thing is like i don't get along with people very well....especially because of my stuttering (which i'm doing my best to rectify), i always feel alone and left out, and angry and depressed most of the time because of this....I don't exactly go over the top when i meet people, i'm usually polite, but alot of people tell me that i don't "open up", how can i do this? This happens anywhere i go, i'm always the loner, but now i'm making some serious efforts, but i feel most of them are going to waste....Sorry to sound like a pessimist, especially in this joyous holiday season, but that's the way i feel ........

Answer 1

Hey dude be strong. Life is great. Dont give up so early. First of all at your age I would recommend you to find a girl friend for yourself. You would seriously see the changes in yourself. Once you will have a girl friend you will feel more confident which is quite necessary for your age. At your age people are like this. Dont think that its only you who is facing a situation like this. As far as how can you fit in with people its like trial and error and learning from your mistakes.

Answer 2

1. Smile, even if your nervous or stuttering and you can still be friendly.
2. Try to relate to people even on simple topics. For example if you notice someone has a bears hat on you can go up to them and say "Da bears aren't doing so well this year are they?"
3. Don't judge people. Some people are really hidden gems underneath so don't judge them automatically. Just because the person you met at an ice skating rink seems like another dumb blonde or an emo or gay or something doesn't mean that it won't make for an interesting conversation.
4. Try activities you like doing and you'll meet like minded individuals. Or try something crazy and you will also meet interesting people. For example you could take a class in Ceramics or Improv Theater or something for the fun.
5. Trust people. 97.5% of people want to help you/be nice to you.

Answer 3

Be your self no matter what, people need to accept you for you! Maybe you do need to open up just a tad but try your best. But dont loose your self! So what u have a stuttering problem people should accept you reguardless u know so...I think that thats the best i can tell you! Depression doesnt get you any where so do what makes you happy and you should come out on top

Answer 4

ok, good, you're polite, keep doing that... it sounds like kind of uptight in social situations. just be nice, smile, and take a general interest in the people around you. If you sincerely like the other person, they'll notice. Make eye contact, and listen to them. People are usually open to friendship.

Take a deep breath and remember, a good person won't judge you because of your stuttering.

If people don't like you or stay away from you because you stutter.. they're assholes anyway.

good luck and happy holidays.

Answer 5

Just be yourself. If people judge you or make fun of you because of your stuttering, they aren't nice people and you shouldn't be around that. Try to be yourself and act like you are among friends. If people start to make you uncomfortable, then politely end the conversation and move on to other people.
It takes time to make friends. Don't feel left out or depressed if you don't make any in one day.

Answer 6

When you stutter, it makes social interactions hard. The book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" from the Stuttering Foundation of America and also available at Amazon.com is what helped my uncles and cousins. After they worked through the steps in the book and practiced, they all got better speech. One uncle went to a speech therapist who specialized in treating stuttering and found that she used that book in her sessions. Check out their web site at www.stutteringhelp.org for more help. Go here http://groups.myspace.com/stutteringfoundation to meet other young people who stutter.

Answer 7

we- we- we- we- wel- well, you can start just by being yourself. I had a stuttering problem when I was young. I think I was so damn worried about what people would think and how they would judge me that it created my problem. you don't have to "fit in" with anyone or any group. it is an insecurity problem to feel you have to fit in. just go with the flow, people don't have to like you and likewise, you don't have to like them. what will be, will be. you will find people that you will feel comfortable around, and at that time when your feelings of insecurity are repressed you will notice that your speech impediment will improve without you even having to try. try this to help you. look yourself in the mirror and talk to yourself, this will help you with your stuttering. eye contact also when you talk to a person. never look away to answer or ask a question. if it takes you three times to get it out, so be it. if it is a group of people whom you like and they like you it will be no big deal. good luck. I apologize for my introduction. have a merry christmas

Answer 8

i'm an introverted person as well. i find the best way to begin a conversation or relationship with someone in a minutes notice is to be the first person to speak. be the first to say hello. or to bring up a topic that you know something about, this will bend the conversation towards your knowledge and allow you to converse on a more accurate and comfortable level. try it. i think also that when you realize you are comfortable with the conversations and the topics your discussing with others, your stuttering will relax. hope this helps.

Answer 9

I understand how you feel,I used to stutter myself,along with several siblings and my father.What helped me was choosing alternate words and slowing down my speech with intentional pauses and breath control.It was almost rhythmic,the way I had to deliver my sentences.Try what I did,and see does it help, don't worry too much about fitting in,real people want force allow you to try to fit in,they will let you know through their behavior that you are a part of the group,and they will stop you from overdoing it to try and fit in.Peace and blessings!

Answer 10

Fitting in is very difficult for people with a low self-esteem, but finding friends is easy for anyone. So, if you're looking to just find some friends, you have to put yourself out there. I grew up as a military kid, so whenever I moved, I had to put together some new friends. I found it easiest to find friends with sports and team events. So, if you have a sport or a hobby that you're interested in, there is a promise of great friendships there. It doesnt matter weather you're interested in needle-point or World of Warcraft, there are tons of people in your area that are interested in the same things as you. Just make yourself known to them and weed out the baddies.