My boyfriends parents like my boyfriends female friend better?

Question

Ok, well, my boyfriend is kind of popular in school so he has ALOT of friends. I go over his house almost everyday. Its like my second home and his parents are the sweetest people in the world. Well, recently, my boyfriends ex- called him and told him that there was a girl named Katy that liked him. My boyfriend told her that he was not going to dump me for her because he likes me and he does not have feelings for Katy but they could be friends and hang out. So the next day Katy went over there to hang out for a few hours. Talk about Basketball and watch a movie with him and his parents in his living room. So he called me and he was pretty upset. He said that Katy left and his mom told him that she liked her a little bit more than me. And asked why he didnt go out with her. He told her that he didnt like her that way and how dare she even THINK like that and his mom said, "Whatever, its your choice." Me and my boyfriend are kind of hurt by this, and I want his family to be closer to me

. What do I do? I just need help, How can I be closer to his parents and his 2 brothers in their 20's and sister who is 1

Who is 17.

Not 1, and how can I feel less bad about this! I want them to like me more.

I never said I was going to be snotty, I just want to be more excepted in his family.

lol, sorry for it being so long.

He only had her over ONCE to hang out.

No, they like me, they just like Katy a little bit more.

His sister isnt little she is 17

Answer 1

That would be hurtful, but just keep in mind that it is in no way a reflection on you. If anything it's a poor reflection on his mother's part. Be yourself, and show an interest in what is important to his family. Ask them questions (not the third degree, but conversational), and let them get to know you that way. I don't think that he should be having female friends over to spend time with him and his family. That's your place, no one elses'.

Answer 2

Why not have her stay at your place? If she is such a great friend of his, she shouldn't have a problem with that, and at the same time, he AND she should understand why you would want that. You could probably explain to him that you were really looking forward to spending that time with him alone. Say something like this, "I was really looking forward to spending that time with you alone, but if you really want her there, that's okay with me" The whole time you are saying that, touch him in different areas and smile at the very end and walk away. If he still wants her there, than ask him to let her stay at your place (as long as it's okay with your parents.) Sure, it might be a little awkward, but it would take ANY trust issues out of it. PLUS, you can see what type of girl she is. If she says something like "Want to have a threesome?" You know she is out to get your BF. HOPE THIS HELPS! EDIT: Why don't you see if you can convince your parents to stay over at your GF friends house for a week, but in reality, you sneak into your BF house and spend the night with him? It will solve ALL problems.

Answer 3

Just relax.

Being girlfriend and boyfriend together you two have other things on your mind other than spending time with parents.

When the other girl came over, he had nothing to do, but to hang out with parents.

Treat the parents with respect, hang out with them instead of running off to the room, or whispering in each others ear, or pawing all over each other.

Answer 4

You cannot make people like you. Be yourself and be satisfied that your boyfriends stood up for you. Some would not have been that brave. It is good that he was firm with his parents in your defense. I think it was pretty stupid for his Mon to measure how much she liked someone after only seeing them the one time. You think you have problems now wait and see what will happen if you two happen to get married.

luck

Answer 5

Mmm... well, they'll warm up to you eventually. Think of it this way, at least his parents are letting him choose, if it was my parents they would make my life hell until I changed my mind. Just find out what they like about Katy, and you could try and do the things they like.

Answer 6

There isn't anything you can do, if you change who you are to satisfy them then you are living a lie. One person might think someone is great while someone else finds them the most annoying person in history, it's just how life is. They shouldn't have said what they did, but even if they do prefer her, big deal. Like his mum said, it is his choice and he wants you.

Answer 7

well there is really nothing you can do when the parents dont like you... its something your going to have to deal with. just be extra nice, to the little sister, dont be all over him around his parents because no matter what type of parents they are, they are going to think your disrepectful. maybe you should stop coming over all the time, let him invite you over instead of invinting yourself... invite him over if you want a change, and tell him you understand that he wants to be freinds with this girl but it makes you uncomfortable, and if he doesnt respect your feelings then it sounds like its a good thing his parents dont like you after all cuz its time for you to go,

Answer 8

It was not very smart of your boyfriend to tell you about what his parent's thought. He was upset, but he shuld have kept that to himself. He should also not have had a female friend over there if he is dating you.

You just keep being who you are, and keep your integrity in tact and you will be fine. His parent's opinions are not everything. He likes you, so be comforted with that.

Answer 9

Buy his family christmas presents and start doing things with them and help out at his house and stuff but dont ignore him either!

Answer 10

1. You cannot force people to like or love you. So stop "worrying" about this and get on with your life.

2. His family wants him to play around before he gets too serious with a girl.

3. They don't want him to go steady with one girl, they are afraid he will have sex and get you pregnant.