make a long story short we been 2gether for a year and 3 months.she has my name tatooed on her back.She lives with me in ny.We had broke for 2 weeks about 3 months ago.We back together now.
However everytime we get into an argument she threatnens to leave and go back toher mom house in nj.Everytime she says she gon go spend the night over there.Im getting tired of her throwing in my face after almost every argument we get into.I told her if she keep throwing it in my face she might as well stay over.We had an argument yesterday but we talked it out.
She said she not gonna do it again but I dont know if I can be sure or not.
What should I do?Is she really gonna stay with me or should I just leave her and try to move on
I was real stressed out the last time we broke up.Its like my heart is telling me to beg but my pride wont allow me to do that.I wouldnt feel right if I had to beg.I really do love her a lot though
2007-12-24
06:18:49
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Im 23 and she 20.
another thing the one time we did break up for 2 weeks,I was real stressed out and didnt know what to do.I was basically depressed.I guess cuz Im used to here being there with me plus its the first time I actually been in love
2007-12-24
06:19:06 ·
update #1
Yesterday we had the argument.today she came and cuddled with me in the bed as if nothing happened.She just be having me confused sometimes.what should I do?should I wait and see what happens in the next argument or just leave her and move on
2007-12-24
06:19:21 ·
update #2
she also likes to keep her feelings bottled inside her so its no telling how she feel sometimes.she been like that since we been together and she told me she always been like that,even with her family.
another thing is her longest relationship before she met me was 3 months.She's a loving and emotional girl
2007-12-24
06:20:11 ·
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I SAY, THE NEXT TIME THIS HAPPENS AND SHE SAYS SHES GOING TO LEAVE, SAY - GO RIGHT AHEAD.
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AND IF SHE DOES, THEN ITS JUST NOT WORTH IT. THINK ABOUT IT. ARE YOU GOING TO TAKE IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE ?? YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE BETTER. SHE'S ACTING LIKE A CHILD. I THINK YOU SHOULDNT BE WITH HER IF SHE ACTS LIKE THIS.
GOOD LUCK !
2007-12-24 06:24:47
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answered by forever... 4
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Most girls are emotional. She's just trying to weaken you down by using that frase over and over that she's going to leave.
You should've caught on by now, she has you by the neck like a puppy dog on a leash. She knows that you will freak out by her saying that, but she doesn't leave then that should tell you something..she's not gonna leave. She's just acting-out, trying to get some attention.
Not telling you her feelings and keeping everything bottled up?
That is her problem and the reason for her outbursts, is bc she lacks communication with you.
Try telling her in a calming tone, honey, we need to talk...bc arguing NEVER helps. No matter even if she yells at you, you need to just sit her down and ask her how she feels and what bothers her and what is going on i her mind.
Work things out with her!
2007-12-24 06:29:10
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answered by Aneres 3
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Ask her to do this with you. Each will write 4 things on one side. (separately) 1. mind 2. heart 3. body 4. spirit
and fill in according to your tastes.
Turn over and write 4 things: 1. Now! 2. Do. 3. want/need 4. rest
Then fill that in. Separately.
finally exchange papers.
'see' your differences and then decide whether to be together.
Write a date you both agree to to redo to see how you are doing.
2007-12-24 06:32:26
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answered by nanbeloved 2
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tell her to take her bride and tunnel butt and beat it!
Seriously this chick is stringing you along... You really sound like a nice guy. and arguments happen -but if someone REALLY loved you then they wouldn't threaten to leave every time things got rough.... Thats not mature and not cool. You can do a lot better and I think you are just waiting for HER to break up with you! Man up, and tell her YOU need a break and she can go back to NJ.--(YUCK!)
2007-12-24 06:29:28
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answered by DCDARLING 4
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Well congratulations, your in a relationship it happens. At least you guys are talking and solving your problems. If she told you she isn't going to use the "I'm leaving" argument anymore, then trust her. If she does do it again even after she said she wouldn't then tell her you've lost her trust.
2007-12-24 06:26:17
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answered by soccerpsychic 4
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Why don't you let her leave?? And get some counselling for yourself. This is too much of a yo-yo situation. No wonder you are stressed out. Let her go. Say bye bye. All the best.
2007-12-24 06:29:26
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answered by winona e 5
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She is a "loving and emotional girl" who is manipulating you.
Tell her that she absolutely cannot make that threat again, or you will leave, then do it.
A break-up like that must be left behind for you to move forward as a couple.
If you do not do as above, I humbly suggest that you will become more and more miserable, and resentful, and she will continue to abuse you, because she KnowS you'll cave.
You taught her so.
2007-12-24 06:30:39
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answered by Desdamona 6
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Dude Grw some Balls Dump That Psycho your to young to be with Just one chick be with a couple but stop being seriuos Dump that *****
2007-12-24 06:36:24
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answered by Anonymous
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First, and maximum obtrusive, what are you frequently argueing approximately? Why won't be able to you the two be clever and communicate somewhat of arguing. relatively there isn't any earnings to the two of you in that project. 2nd, evaluate which you do like her and interestingly she likes you. although, this can't final under the stress of continuous arguements. there are a number of people who, because of the fact of previous reports or character, can't easily emot their feeling. You do ought to attempt and understnd your considerable different and she or he ought to do a similar. She could say she is going to leave for mom's yet interestingly she has not achieved it yet. it quite is definitely an idel possibility to make you ask her to not - telling hew that, in spite of the persevering with arguement you at the instant are not in all probability as indignant because it may desire to look and which you relatively do not choose for her to leave. one element must be sparkling - in case you create a disagreement you will injury the dating previous fix. You maximum suitable think of intently earlier your temper regulations your effortless experience and you tell her to pass returned to mom - She could desire to do it.... and stay there. you're, at your age, meant to be mature adequate to maintain on a dating. it form of feels that neither of you're arranged for a dating. you ought to the two supply 50% to the dating or that is going to fail. you ought to admire one yet another, your thoughts and needs, yet one element must be sparkling from the git-pass, you may't sustain a dating in case you're continuously argueing. that would not exhibit tolerance on your ameliorations and needless to say shows an lack of ability to attempt to comprehend each others viewpoint in an trustworthy and rational way. possibly the two ought to seek for anger administration training and marital counceling (sure, you at the instant are not married - so what). Get help or get separated. in case you retain up the Bull **** that is going to take place besides. by ways - do not blame her for the arguements. It does take 2 to end that situation. you're as lots in charge for the discord as she iss. possibly greater so because you're older and could understand greater useful.
2016-12-11 12:17:54
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answered by ? 4
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There is no sense in allowing yourself to be treated like that! stand up, be a man and pack her bags you will get over those feelings you have when shes gone, just as you developed them for her when you met, probably wasn't in just an instant were they? well it wont be instantaneous in getting over them either.
2007-12-24 06:31:00
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answered by mudmonkie 1
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