help with talking to my mom about her weight?

Question

my mother is 5foot3 and 250pounds . im afraid if i set down and talk to her about her weight i will hurt her feelings. every one in the family is worried about her. shes 50years old and she has arthritus and dieabetes . shes got horrible eatting habbits such as drinking 3-4 pops a day and eatting ice cream before she gos to bed. is there any sort of diet she could go on . Please i need help with some how talking to her about her weight.
(we dont have money for exerising equipment or weight watchers or personal trainers)

Answer 1

Lisa,
You really need to take on this problem, not as a weight problem but as a health problem. If she has Diabetes, what is her A1c. She can fool her self by eating around the times she takes her finger sticks, taking her medication at times to influence her fingersticks but she can not fool the 3 month A1c.
What kind of Arthritis, RA or Osteo?
Is she able to work, is she disabled. Does she have insurance or no...
Is she depressed, Ice cream is a favorite food for depression, If she has pain she probably does not sleep well and the Soda is a quick fix for tired...and go with out sleep for very long you will be depressed.....
You are very right about hurtng her feelings, she knows she is heavy, that is depressing also, it is a vicious circle, she is caught in a web and Her doctor may not even be telling her to eat better or to lose weight, it has been my experience lately that Docs just don't shoot from the hip and tell it like it is the way they used to. Some of them are fatter than we are and Smoke and Drink plus who knows what and I know for a fact that being obese just does not get anyones attention the way it once did......I need to lose weight, I know it and I had to request a consult with a dietician and had to argue my case to get it.... the dietician was to Politically Correct to give me a diet that would let me shed pounds, and she never asked me a word about how active I was or was not.....I ended up with a 2000 calorie diet instruction sheet on how to eat 3 large meals and 3 snacks a day. Number one, NOT going to happen, I am 5 ft 4 and have fibromyalgia among other things and there is NO way I could lose weight taking in 2000 calories...
So it is very possible that she is not getting proper intructions on losing weight, and not getting proper instruction how to distribute the calories and how to do some kind of excersie even if it is just walking.......
3or 4 sodas if they are diet soda is not a problem, and if she includes the ice crream calories in a diet plan she can have both, as a diabetic, if she has a small sweet after a normal meal of Protiens, Carbs, fats and fresh Vegetables her Blood Suger will not spike the way it would if she eats sweets alone...
Bottom line, talk about health, don't mention weight, help her, if meals are a problem and eating stuff that is not as good for her because it is easier, help her with fixing heathy food she can warm up instead of fast food.....Ask her to go for walks with you, if she likes pets, many people have improved their entire life by having a dog to walk and care about...talking about health is politically correct, talking about weight usually is not.......

Answer 2

Talking isn't the answer. Do you have any idea why she is overeating? Is she isolated, lonely, sad, excluded, rejected, stuffing emotions? You might have insight on that without "talking" to her.

Go for a walk WITH her. Even with arthritis and diabetes, exercise is good and your company is better. If the neighborhood doesn't offer good walking, go to a mall, drive to a park, etc. A pet to care for (and walk) if she has an "empty nest", an inexpensive hobby such as gardening, involvement in a community center if she has time. Try to avoid centering every contact around food- be active together, but not around cooking and eating.

Bicycling is an excellent way to get exercise without stressing joints. 50 isn't too old. I'm almost 60 and I go out on a bike trail with my grandchildren- I get tired but I feel a lot better when I get out and about. Not competetive, gonzo bicycling; just a sweet ride for a few miles.

Answer 3

Well your entire family could try to eat healther so that in effect she will begin to eat healther too. If that doesn't work tell her you are worried about her. Say something like "mom I'm really worried about you. I'm worried about your weight and how it could affect your arthritus and dieabetes." This will get her to realize that maby she should lay of the ice cream and pop for awhile. Yes her feelings might be a little hurt at first but she will know you care about her.

Answer 4

Your mother is probably addicted to sugary and oily foods. And that's what's making her fat more than anything else.

But like with all addictions. The addicted person needs to admit her addiction first, before she can do anything about it. And that's the most difficult part.

Many people are happy with their addictions. And there is little anybody can do to help them fight their addiction.

The first thing you need to do is persuade your mother that sugary and oily foods are bad for her and she needs to abstain from eating such foods. If you can manage that. Then it'll be just a matter of buying healthy foods for her, instead of the junk food she is eating now.

People most often get fat because they eat junk food that their bodies are not designed for. Their biological feedback mechanism that normally controls their appetite doesn't work well with junk food. They feel hungry even when they are full. And that's why they overeat and get fat.

Answer 5

"Mom, you know I love you and I want you to be around for a long time. I want you to be here for your grandchildren because you are the best mom in the world. Please let me help you improve your lifestyle. Let's not bring anymore junk food or pops into the house. We can save money and have healthy lives that way. Let's go for walks everyday and ride bikes. We can learn to bowl or jog, too. Please, Mom, I don't want to lose you."

Answer 6

carry a cooler stocked with three bottles of water a six pack four pb js two oranges a bag of tortilla chips and 12 servings of cool cucumber salsa go to womenshealthmag allrecipes com for the recipe for 22 minutes

Answer 7

Not eating or skipping meals is not dieting If you do you may get more weight

Answer 8

103 is a excellent weight, even though youre brief! you quite ought to speak approximately it together with your mother. my mother did the equal factor to me, however no longer simply my weight. whilst i used to be a child, it decreased my self worth greatly. she didnt discover it although, she used to be best joking. allow her realize that it hurts you, and that she must quit. she normally doesnt discover how frightening her feedback are to you.

Answer 9

cool down with 20 minutes of white water rafting in the nearby tongariro river

Answer 10

try to have a little lean protein with each meal as protein tends to be more satisfying than carbs or fats