I have a 14 yr old, 16 yr old and 20 yr old still living with me. I am trying to manage my children, take care of my house and work. My boyfriend lives 45 minutes away and only wants to see me at his house. I have a very active household and my children can be disrespectful at times, but I look at them as being teens going through what teens do. He thinks they should always be compliant and helpful so his excuse for not coming my way is them. I think he is jealous of my children, my siblings, etc., but he tells me he just wants people to always treat me nice and with respect. The other night I tried to explain to him how I was feeling, but he basically told me he cared and I was wrong. I am tired of always feeling wrong and him never wanting to see me (just talk on the phone). I feel sad, and probably should move on, but it hurts. Lonely in America. Help!
2007-12-24 06:08:39 · 21 answers · asked by Snively 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were him, would you want to go to a place where teenagers are being rude & disrespectful? I wouldn't. Also, sorry but this guy must be some kinda looser to date such an older lady. If a 38 year old man wasn't a looser, he could actually be dating girls his own age or even girls in their late 20's. I think there must be something wrong with him or he's using you for something.
PS - I would feel like a pedofile if I dated a guy that much younger than me. Gross!
2007-12-24 06:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 8⤋
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2016-04-10 23:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your piece, I believe that you have not mentioned your main problem. Your main issue , I suspect is that you are not comfortable dating a younger man. The situation that you mention has nothing to do with controll( except as it affects your kids), but everything to do with a woman trying to balance her love life and her children (who may frankly resent having a new man in the house who is not their father, or seeing their mother with another man). Under the best of circumstances, this balancing job is not easy. I suspect that your boyfriend is trying to avoid a situation with your kids that would put you in the middle and thinking you have to choose. It would appear that going to his house is a good compromise for now to give you both quality time together and reduce the chance for friction.While you did not mention how long you both have been dating, as he gets to know your kids better and vice versa, he can start spending more time over by your house. In the absence of more information or proof that he wants to control you and does not love like a boyfriend, sit down and have a talk with him about how to improve the level of communication that you guys have which I think is maybe the only issue existing currently. Try this solution first before you conclude differently and take more extreme action. Please keep me posted on your progress as something tells me you guys are going to continue to build a stronger and more enduring romance. Good luck and start the new year well.
2007-12-24 06:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first responsibility is to your teenage children and then yourself.
You should not be dating anyone who forces you to only visit him at his place, if he is not accepting of your children; you need to dump him and fast.
Your children are part of your life forever, and this guy is just a guy. He is a very immature guy at that, and you should be concentrating on your children first, not taking on a relationship that involves another person acting like a child, and acting jealous of your children and siblings.
He sounds as if he has control issues, and you need to be taking control and running in the other direction away from this man and toward your teenage children who need you more than they ever had.
Good luck and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-24 06:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may only be 24, but I do know that you should move on. The pain is gonna be there for a bit and the lonliness can be just as bad, but you deserve so much better than you got! Teenagers should be compliant...but is that ever gonna happen? No! This guy should know better...
Good Luck and Keep Your Head Up!!!!
2007-12-24 06:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by confused<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is trying to control you. I don't know that his motives are out of a negative place, but I do think, from what you've said, that they are there. He needs to understand that children come first, and that's that. If your children need you around, then he can come and be with you at your house. Always remember that your children are worth more than any man, dear.
Cheers
2007-12-24 06:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How have you grown up ? You have the best date who cares for ! Be happy , allow him to complaint . Look at his face with smile. He will melt like the ice-cube. He is right in his way . The way he explains , is his requirement. If you do not fulfill, you should not think adversly. He seemed to be nice person and need little bit pampering . Why should you be greedy to pamper a person . It does not cost a penny .
2007-12-24 06:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anil S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got quaite handful to deal with as it is.
Look, your dude met you when you had kids, so thats your package. Life is way too short...!!! If he cant deal with that and accept as it is. Then, you might have to let him go and find yourself a guy who can handle your package, complete with 3 kids. You're right, kids are kids...kids are going to push their boundaries with you. Kids always test you!!! I too, was a rebellious punk when I was in my teens. I'm not proud of it now, but I was a brat. I ran wild because my parent did not discpline or correct me like they should have done. All teens are pretty much rebellious at that age. Good luck
2007-12-24 06:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience of having a dad with a whole bunch a wives..girlfriends..whatever, your boyfriend does seem to be jealous or something about your children. Does he even have children of his own?
Really, I think the relationship should end. The more you stick around, the more hurt you are going to get and its going to be even harder.
2007-12-24 06:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone who understand that you are raising THREE children. Teenagers especially can be rough. Where is the dad of the children in all of this? Could you get some help from him? If not, I suggest you tell your younger beau that your family will ALWAYS come first and hes going to have to bend a little if he wants to continue to have someone as special as YOU in HIS life.
2007-12-24 06:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by DCDARLING 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Sugar Momma:
Its time for you to cut your losses and move on.
go find some codger like me (65 & lonely) and feed him some blue pills when necessary and see if the kids give him the treatment too, if they do then dump the kids !
2007-12-24 06:19:37 · answer #11 · answered by klby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋